
Replacing the much lamented 'On My Mind' profile option, this thread is for musings, jottings, whimsies, preoccupations and the rest of the thesaurus for anyone to jot down anything they please.
I can't remember what the maximum character count was before, can anyone else? But anyway it wasn't very many so let's keep to that.
It’s all the other tasks that turn up now and then: financial things, sensitive documents…Normally you can’t delegate that to another person (like a hired caregiver). I’ve been helping.
I’m going to give all problems back to her. I don’t want to be a slave anymore. And her ungrateful attitude is despicable. And her lack of empathy to point out how unfair it is of her to dump this all on me for years, is also despicable. And not a single gesture of thanks, in return.
I quit.
If she is competent , do what you need to do , put her care back on her to figure out.
I know it’s easier said than done. Once we have taken on these responsibilities it’s hard to get out . They expect us to continue .
Is she just lazy ? Or truly needs help with getting her care arranged ? What about if she paid for a geriatric care manager ? Although she would probably refuse and want you to keep doing it.
I’m sorry you are in this situation .
Just think of how many lives on this forum would improve.
Result? She can’t express some form of gratitude, some kind gesture towards me?
I quit.
You’re not crazy. He sounds like he is a very special nephew!
1. A 24-hour caregiver is paid a lot. Not just free rent.
2. A hired caregiver has the right to vacation and time off during the day. You don’t need to be on-call literally 24 hours a day. And you don’t work every day of the week. You rotate with other caregivers.
3. MOST IMPORTANTLY:
a job is something you can QUIT, you get paid, and you have RIGHTS. You also have a right to an environment that’s not too abusive.
But if it was all dumped on you by your siblings, can you really QUIT? Not really. Not if there are only very bad facilities where you are. Your kind heart probably doesn’t want to dump the parent in a very bad facility. Are you getting paid? Probably not. Do you have any rights? No.
In other words, it’s not a job.
And your siblings are wrong. What it is, is: unpaid slavery + abuse.
God will kick their *** ,
one day.
I have many friends in that situation: it was all dumped on them. It’s not always the case, but often it’s dumped on the younger sibling. The non-helpers get richer, you get poorer (because you’re busy helping; no matter how hard you try to work and help at the same time, you’ll be poorer than the one who only works and doesn’t help). You’ll also age faster, get health problems, stress, anxiety.
God will kick them
one day. You’ll see justice.
Meanwhile, please make sure you find justice. I don’t want you (or any of us) to be exploited.
We should be careful of our motivations for being part of the forum.
Of course there’s:
Venting
Or needing information
Or empathy
Or…
But one unhealthy, potential motivation we should be careful of is “misery loves company”. Some of us are going through a horrible time, and we actually want to read about other people going through a horrible time.
Let’s not be like that.
2 weeks ago a frog jumped behind some boxes in my garage. A week later I noticed an odor, thought froggie had croaked. Found the culprit yesterday morning..somehow an Iguana got smushed by the garage door. Yuk!!!!!
These new peoples are going to be very hard to associate with when everything can be taken offensively, such BS.
How stupid is that? These rules are ridiculous at times. I bet you laughed at being banned by FB.
Banning of books get to me! It’s insane. We can’t change history and it’s important for younger people to know our history and how we have evolved.
Plus when we read classic literature we are intelligent enough to differentiate between the past and the present.
Just because we choose to read a book doesn’t mean that we condone those actions of the past.
Banning books is all about censorship and controlling others. Why can’t people simply ignore what they don’t like and allow individuals to have their own preferences and opinions?
I tell my neighbor that complains about not liking certain television shows to change the channel because there are many options! There’s something for everyone these days.
NeedHelp, yeah too different, too similar, can be good/bad.
Have a good day!
I think the mods remove posts that are extremely offensive.
Everyone has different opinions and perspectives. We have our own distinct personalities.
I suppose all a person can do is to report a comment if it is rude. Everyone is entitled to their opinions even if we find them to be different from how we feel.
I like reading a variety of opinions because someone else might point out something that I never thought of before. Or it’s right for them but not for me.
I know that I am not going to like everything that I read or even people that I meet. I try to be respectful of others even if I don’t agree with everything that they say. I know people that I don’t agree with them on certain things but we are still friendly with each other.
People who like to argue just for the sake of an argument. I avoid like the plague. If it’s a friendly debate then it can be quite interesting! My husband and I are different in some ways but we are alike in all the things that are important to me. It can be boring to be with people who are exactly the same as we are.
Hope you enjoy your upcoming vacation!
Making people nervous about whether they’ll be banned. Of course that changes the atmosphere.
I’ll take a break now from social media. My vacation’s coming up!