
Many of us, myself included, come from a dysfunctional family which adds a lot of weight to the challenges of caregiving. I have read stores on various threads on other topics and decided it would be good to have a thread just for this topic for people to share, vent and discuss.
The idea for this thread originated on the thread named "The Caregiver....How are YOU doing today?"
kazzaa- Thats wonderful to hear! See, I think everyone regardless has at least one major talent thank you for sharing!
gladimhere- True the more exercise for our kids ( and me but not going there lol) is better and does help. Thanks for sharing!
He is buying a lawnmower so I can cut his lawn back and front every week!!! Omg I cant I just cant add that too!!! I told him that he got mad and said he is buying it and I will take over its not hard the females on the block does theirs! Yes I know how but mentally and physically now? Ask me that 10 years ago or more and I would have! Not now. It seems so whiny of me to not want to mow his too but two houses in and outside, and a job and two ill adults, my kids, pets, ummm even though its a year away Im already panicking!!!! Am I wrong here? I feel like holding up a sign that strikers use chanting or screaming " hel* no I wont do it"!!!
This week has been stressful. Yesterday was the worst because of sisters that just have no clue. And in general enjoy making my life more difficult. Today I think I am past it, never was one to wallow in my own misery. It just is not productive.
So nice to have some good things happen when we are dealing with so much pain and sorrow with our parents!!
Oh its just like "groundhog day" now mum is dragging up all the family past crap all the badness is coming out again now with mum my dads died now her SIL i guess shes now getting scared of her own mortality so i feel for her i guess but ENOUGH ALREADY ive heard these stories my whole life...................ITS BORING!
Should be a good old "dysfunctional funeral" though! Maybe a few drunkin punch-ups!! Alot of this family have gripes with this woman so yes should be "interesting". Oh god help me does this ever end!! I want to go to bed and wake up when its all over!!!!!!!!!!!
How wonderful! I am so happy for you, and I'll bet you took some great pictures of Ethan and Logan! Hope you can find a way to get some more time with your daughter and the twins.
Congratulations Grandma!
Much Love & Light! Margeaux
kazzaa-Im so sorry about the news of your Aunt and of course it brings up all those memories. They sound like my family" Only if you were like" Only if you did" Only if you would " Why cant you be like" Ya, I heard them all to. But, for the present Im here for you and anytime you want to vent or we can compare stories Im here with a great big hug for you! Can you try to get your mom talking about something else? Hang in there.
Veronica91- HAHA!!! Good idea! That be kinda cool actually...
Well, Im watching how my dad and my grandpas health is Im how much work and stress Im under and looking at my kids. Im scared and cant go now for all tests needed so I have to wait until I work.BUT the good news is I found a place and they had a sliding scale for pay but I dont even have $10 to give but... after that they have "No client will be denied reproductive health services because of an inability to pay" yeah!!! I plan on paying but just to get started maybe? Also, I know I cant handle my grandpa/dad 24hrs a day, besides kids thats a lot of wear and tear on me mentally and physically. I could have and should have done more over the years and will continue to help.. but... only during the night and days I have off of work. Well, not working yet, but Im going back to applying!!! I will always be there for them but in limits and of course emergencies!
Im just so worn down, I finally slept a lil better last night( not sleeping good for three days will do that to ya besides a cold) Oh NyQuil helped but I dont like taking it because I need to be awake for anyone who needs me but thats all I had in the cabinet!
Sorry you all that my spelling is off( ok sometimes I purposely shortens or abbreviate them) Sorry my wording is always off and I ramble and make no sense... But in my defense... Im not perfect and Im not here for a grade although I would like to sound like all you because you all make sense!! But I am who I am and I can be chatty ( like now ha) or just tired and who care angry or whatever mood!!! Ok, back to check on grandpa and back to cleaning!!! ( Lots of caffeine today!!!)
A friend got me a discounted brand new dvd player when my brother saw it he said "but we have one its the same one i bought mum?" YES i said but ITS MINE DO YOU THINK IM ALWAYS GOING TO BE HERE?? he looked surprised? gosh do they really think i am going to live out my years here looking after mum sorry but i have no intention of living with her for much longer its hell i keep waiting for her moods to become more passive so i can get things done BUT im not sure if she will ever be passive shes such an angry woman its impossible to make her happy! I make her as happy as i can theres not alot more i can do for her!
Sis is coming home next week for 4days so i am trying to think where i can run and hide as ive no money to get away again. No worries i will ask my angels to send me the money IF NOT i have a friends house i can hide in! SIS seemed pleased i had no money as its my birthday when she comes if it was ME i would give her the money to go away afterall im looking after her mum all year round?? but then sisters dont think like me NO not a caring bone in thier bodies!
Grandpa and I argued, son turned on water over my weeds I just sprayed and was going to weed eat thankfully nothing happened. I let my feelings known to a neighbor that Im officially done and cant handle anyone anymore incl friends, family and neighbors telling me what they feel is or isnt best for my family or actually what grandpa needs. I mean, I am all for suggestions. I do take 90% or more of them!! I always ask anyways!!! From here to!!! This neighbor and I have our issues..shes says I should be there all the time and work after.. that neighbor... but she also is an angel under the same breath for caring for my grandpa, her and her family even though they hate me, have done wonderful for grandpa.( visit, clean, shop, go out to eat ) I always tell them thank you and words arent enough. Grandpa pays them for their trouble most times too.
Anyways if you take all what I said in all of my rambles thats all we talked about. I have officially had it!! I love everyone but no matter what I say no one believes me they believe my Aunt or him. I am not that bad of a person Im the one who cares for my family, Im the one who cant stand to see them upset or in pain, Im the one physically and mentally taking a beating... Im the one who showers him, helps him walk and dress him when he cant, Im the one doing the same for my kids as well as soon to be my dad.. but yet Im the bad guy.. I have no life, I wear clothes with holes and clorox splatter, I am obese I cut my own hair, I dont go to the Dr .. haha no time anyways besides no money... I am pulling weeds, I cook, etc you all know what has to be done. Oh add its seems the worse he got, the less help I get!!!! I dont mind ..really, but can I do it without being told" oh god I dont know what Id do without you, your here you do so much for me," then later I get it thrown in my face of why cant you.. but she can... but.. well no more!!! Oh its like on the job thing, Im told get a job.. no dont be there all the time.. I feel like Im wrapped in a blanket and on a wobble thing and they are taking turns pushing me waiting for me to fall. Or like the hot potato game.. throwing me a round where I cant ever land on my feet. Either I pull myself outa this hell or Im losing everything and let me tell you my future is with my kids ( middle of no where would be good but idk how I would make money)
Im sorry Im just .. I have no one to talk to except you all You all have heard it all from me but.. If I dont release this I feel like I will just explode.
Do you know whats its like to go to the store and not be able to buy feminine pads? For real, Im there. Even in my dreams Im at the store and and I realize I have no purse cuz I have no money or my wallet has play money and everyone is laughing at you in the dream?
Emjo hope youre getting better yes i think i may have dysbyosis too stress is not good?? I can bloat up to a 6mth pregnant lady its shocking to see BUT am off wheat and dairy so so far so good great to see your feet again!!!!!!
me1000 you need to think of you sometimes and take regular breaks when you can! Im only 48 my mum is 78 this year she may outlive me IF i let her!!
Hugs to you and prayers that it will all work out in the end!!!!