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Congratulations, Sharyn!! I'm so happy for you, your daughter and all the families involved with these new members of the family. {{{HUGS}}}
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Mazel tov! So exciting Sharyn! BIG twins! Your daughter is a clever girl. Don't forget to get some sleep tonight, will you :)
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Thank you Book and CM!
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SM, wonderful, CONGRATULATIONS grandma! And two, big boys! I imagine everybody is doing fine. I remember when each of my four grand babies were born, it was love at first sight! Enjoy them and love them.
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Sharyn, congrats! Enjoy them. I hope all are well and made it through delivery OK.
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sharynmarie!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Yeah thank you for the great news! Congrats and enjoy! Love the names too :)
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sandwich42plus- Ok I will take your advice thank you! Sorry you had such a hard time getting the 504. Thanks for sharing!

kazzaa- Thats wonderful to hear! See, I think everyone regardless has at least one major talent thank you for sharing!

gladimhere- True the more exercise for our kids ( and me but not going there lol) is better and does help. Thanks for sharing!
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Thanks everyone! My daughter is still having complcations to the preeclampsia. She lost 2 liters of blood and had a transfusion. She is doing good now. My employer pulled a fast one on me, i have to be at work on monday so i have to leave sunday. I will not leave unless my daughter is fine.
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Sharyn, that's a shame, your having to leave so promptly. As I remember it, too, Monday-Wednesday is when daughter will be needing extra cuddles; though now she's been delivered her preeclampsia symptoms should settle down nice and quickly, God willing. Is there no way you can take any more leave? [What's the emoticon for a pout???]
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Sharyn, do not waste time, call union and take FMLA to get additional time to help daughter!
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Congratulations Granny !!!!! That is some big boys !!!! I will share with you that when my son had his awful car wreck...... my job was the last thing on my mind..... there would be no choice for me here.....my children come first......I hope you stay.... lots of love and hugs..
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Your daughters in my thoughts sharynmarie
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;thanks everyone. She had blood clots in the uterus that caused blood loss. They removed the clots and gave transfusion. She is stable and resting. I spoke to her on the phone.
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I was debating to put this under caregiver burnout or here, so I chose here. I am sooo tired.. grandpa hasnt slept well in a few days up during the night esp last night ( we all have colds doesnt help) My son has been waking me up and I cant really sleep during the day either because I get woken up calls, appts, running,grandpa, phones etc...As I mentioned Im behind on my house and yard work and back on fourth on looking for a job that I desperately need! So I clean grandpas house too which is fine because its really organized and no clutter but his lawn no way can I hack that too. So hes hired people and sometimes hired for my yard. So why am I complaining yet again over the same old? I have something new to add!

He is buying a lawnmower so I can cut his lawn back and front every week!!! Omg I cant I just cant add that too!!! I told him that he got mad and said he is buying it and I will take over its not hard the females on the block does theirs! Yes I know how but mentally and physically now? Ask me that 10 years ago or more and I would have! Not now. It seems so whiny of me to not want to mow his too but two houses in and outside, and a job and two ill adults, my kids, pets, ummm even though its a year away Im already panicking!!!! Am I wrong here? I feel like holding up a sign that strikers use chanting or screaming " hel* no I wont do it"!!!
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ME, no you should not do the lawn too! Get names of neighbor kids that would do it, if he has the mower for a reasonable amount. We have a lawn service, professionals that do spring and fall cleanup and cut the lawn. Lawn charge is $26.00 a week, the cleanup has varied between 200 and 250. And it is a large lot probably 1/4 acre.
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I know I agree and argued with him again.. I mean I know its a year away but even my dad and I are fighting about it. I just spoke with grandpa and he said I have no choice to cut it its part of keeping up the property. That it will be my fault if I dont do the lawn and its 400 a year to pay someone etc. Omg Idk what to do anymore. Ummm I been saving him money by doing my own lately but I just cant hack his too. He said its part of it and he refuses to pay anyone else to do it anymore! No he doesnt have his own mower but hes buying it this month on sale ready for next year. Thats not bad for your lawn service!!! If I oay for service for granpas house it will come out of my pocket once I get a job and he will hound me on wasting money. Thanks for your idea though. Hope your doing well today
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Me, it will work out. Let him buy the mower, cheerfully. How old is your son? Maybe he would cut grandpa's lawn, the exercise and feeling of being useful may be good for him.

This week has been stressful. Yesterday was the worst because of sisters that just have no clue. And in general enjoy making my life more difficult. Today I think I am past it, never was one to wallow in my own misery. It just is not productive.
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Sharynmarie...................Congrats! so happy everything went well and your daughter is doing ok! what relief and yes two little "buddhas"!! So happy for you all! Oh double trouble!! But yes boys are a joy to look after! I was naive when i first looked after twins thought they slept and napped at the same time???? HA! no they have different schedules!!! They will keep you all busy!!
So nice to have some good things happen when we are dealing with so much pain and sorrow with our parents!!
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My aunty my fathers sister is dying and may go soon shes had cancer for a few years now but is incredibly strong shes 86yrs!! My dad is only gone 8mths now and now this it will bring up alot of memories and yes more "dysfunctional stuff"!! My aunt was the "godmother" of family yes a tough lady she always scared me when we were kids bullied most of her family was a terrible "snob" used to put us down as her kids were.....taller,smarter,more talented etc..... YEP always made us feel like crap! patronising wasnt the word! But i have no hatred for her only sadness and she dosnt scare me anymore!! Just so you get the picture when my elder sister went to visit her years ago my sister commented on how my cousins twin girls had lost so much weight? my aunt.............. "well if you studied as hard as my girls YOUD be slim too". yeh double whammy!! Oh you just couldnt get one up on this lady of "STEEL" she would have eaten Maggie Thatcher for breakfast so you get the kinda woman i mean!!

Oh its just like "groundhog day" now mum is dragging up all the family past crap all the badness is coming out again now with mum my dads died now her SIL i guess shes now getting scared of her own mortality so i feel for her i guess but ENOUGH ALREADY ive heard these stories my whole life...................ITS BORING!

Should be a good old "dysfunctional funeral" though! Maybe a few drunkin punch-ups!! Alot of this family have gripes with this woman so yes should be "interesting". Oh god help me does this ever end!! I want to go to bed and wake up when its all over!!!!!!!!!!!
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Kazzaa you know you're not supposed to 'speak ill of the dead' - so best get it off your chest now! I'm sorry for this new family turmoil; sometimes you feel like you're going to get motion sickness from the constant one damn thing after another, don't you. Poor lady. Hope things go peacefully for her from here.
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Congrats grandma Sharryn. Glad they are finally here and well. hope your daughter is soon in fighting spirit. family comes first so tell your boss to take a hike this is part of his mistreatment towards you. I would be very inclined to come down with "something" by Sunday morning so there is no way you can work on Monday. my guess is it will take at least a week to get over. Can you go to an urgent care with a bad cough or something and get a note from them.
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me1000 I hope grandpa is buy a riding mower!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Sharynmarie,

How wonderful! I am so happy for you, and I'll bet you took some great pictures of Ethan and Logan! Hope you can find a way to get some more time with your daughter and the twins.

Congratulations Grandma!

Much Love & Light! Margeaux
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gladimhere- Good Idea, Ill see if my son can handle it. Glad your looking to being positive!

kazzaa-Im so sorry about the news of your Aunt and of course it brings up all those memories. They sound like my family" Only if you were like" Only if you did" Only if you would " Why cant you be like" Ya, I heard them all to. But, for the present Im here for you and anytime you want to vent or we can compare stories Im here with a great big hug for you! Can you try to get your mom talking about something else? Hang in there.

Veronica91- HAHA!!! Good idea! That be kinda cool actually...
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***Well Im back as an update... ha, I do daily anyways... and every ones health..my house same ol same ol.......

Well, Im watching how my dad and my grandpas health is Im how much work and stress Im under and looking at my kids. Im scared and cant go now for all tests needed so I have to wait until I work.BUT the good news is I found a place and they had a sliding scale for pay but I dont even have $10 to give but... after that they have "No client will be denied reproductive health services because of an inability to pay" yeah!!! I plan on paying but just to get started maybe? Also, I know I cant handle my grandpa/dad 24hrs a day, besides kids thats a lot of wear and tear on me mentally and physically. I could have and should have done more over the years and will continue to help.. but... only during the night and days I have off of work. Well, not working yet, but Im going back to applying!!! I will always be there for them but in limits and of course emergencies!

Im just so worn down, I finally slept a lil better last night( not sleeping good for three days will do that to ya besides a cold) Oh NyQuil helped but I dont like taking it because I need to be awake for anyone who needs me but thats all I had in the cabinet!

Sorry you all that my spelling is off( ok sometimes I purposely shortens or abbreviate them) Sorry my wording is always off and I ramble and make no sense... But in my defense... Im not perfect and Im not here for a grade although I would like to sound like all you because you all make sense!! But I am who I am and I can be chatty ( like now ha) or just tired and who care angry or whatever mood!!! Ok, back to check on grandpa and back to cleaning!!! ( Lots of caffeine today!!!)
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ME1000 thanks for your kind support and yes i do try so hard to change the subject by putting on her favourite programmes!!! Shes so negative though and always has been this illness has made her worse shes becoming nasty which isnt in her character but i know its her own anger now i just let her rant and get out of this house as much as possible! I know its almost time to start looking at a NH as i cant take much more of her illness or not the stress would kill you! Sure if family were around this would be easier but theyre not and am sick of them giving me "advice" over the phone i usually hang up!

A friend got me a discounted brand new dvd player when my brother saw it he said "but we have one its the same one i bought mum?" YES i said but ITS MINE DO YOU THINK IM ALWAYS GOING TO BE HERE?? he looked surprised? gosh do they really think i am going to live out my years here looking after mum sorry but i have no intention of living with her for much longer its hell i keep waiting for her moods to become more passive so i can get things done BUT im not sure if she will ever be passive shes such an angry woman its impossible to make her happy! I make her as happy as i can theres not alot more i can do for her!
Sis is coming home next week for 4days so i am trying to think where i can run and hide as ive no money to get away again. No worries i will ask my angels to send me the money IF NOT i have a friends house i can hide in! SIS seemed pleased i had no money as its my birthday when she comes if it was ME i would give her the money to go away afterall im looking after her mum all year round?? but then sisters dont think like me NO not a caring bone in thier bodies!
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Ok... I completely and totally have just lost it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I used my voice too much today and said too much but I broke.. I had it and I have no patience.. I just couldnt keep my mouth shut.

Grandpa and I argued, son turned on water over my weeds I just sprayed and was going to weed eat thankfully nothing happened. I let my feelings known to a neighbor that Im officially done and cant handle anyone anymore incl friends, family and neighbors telling me what they feel is or isnt best for my family or actually what grandpa needs. I mean, I am all for suggestions. I do take 90% or more of them!! I always ask anyways!!! From here to!!! This neighbor and I have our issues..shes says I should be there all the time and work after.. that neighbor... but she also is an angel under the same breath for caring for my grandpa, her and her family even though they hate me, have done wonderful for grandpa.( visit, clean, shop, go out to eat ) I always tell them thank you and words arent enough. Grandpa pays them for their trouble most times too.

Anyways if you take all what I said in all of my rambles thats all we talked about. I have officially had it!! I love everyone but no matter what I say no one believes me they believe my Aunt or him. I am not that bad of a person Im the one who cares for my family, Im the one who cant stand to see them upset or in pain, Im the one physically and mentally taking a beating... Im the one who showers him, helps him walk and dress him when he cant, Im the one doing the same for my kids as well as soon to be my dad.. but yet Im the bad guy.. I have no life, I wear clothes with holes and clorox splatter, I am obese I cut my own hair, I dont go to the Dr .. haha no time anyways besides no money... I am pulling weeds, I cook, etc you all know what has to be done. Oh add its seems the worse he got, the less help I get!!!! I dont mind ..really, but can I do it without being told" oh god I dont know what Id do without you, your here you do so much for me," then later I get it thrown in my face of why cant you.. but she can... but.. well no more!!! Oh its like on the job thing, Im told get a job.. no dont be there all the time.. I feel like Im wrapped in a blanket and on a wobble thing and they are taking turns pushing me waiting for me to fall. Or like the hot potato game.. throwing me a round where I cant ever land on my feet. Either I pull myself outa this hell or Im losing everything and let me tell you my future is with my kids ( middle of no where would be good but idk how I would make money)

Im sorry Im just .. I have no one to talk to except you all You all have heard it all from me but.. If I dont release this I feel like I will just explode.

Do you know whats its like to go to the store and not be able to buy feminine pads? For real, Im there. Even in my dreams Im at the store and and I realize I have no purse cuz I have no money or my wallet has play money and everyone is laughing at you in the dream?
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Sharynmarie hope babies and mum doing good!! Hope you "threw a sicky" as we say here and get more time with them!!

Emjo hope youre getting better yes i think i may have dysbyosis too stress is not good?? I can bloat up to a 6mth pregnant lady its shocking to see BUT am off wheat and dairy so so far so good great to see your feet again!!!!!!
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kazzaa- Im so sorry I really do understand! Im glad you got a new dvd player! YOu have the right idea!! Omg your doing the right thing, start getting things now so when you can move out you already have it! I could just picture your brothers face! Aww Im really sorry about your mom and her treating you that way... and your sis. Happy Early Birthday Kazzaa!!!! I hear ya about no money, maybe camping? But yet, I guess theres a fee for that? I never been though. I hope your angels can give you money! Hugs for you!
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Thanks ME!! sounds like youve got your hands full too! I love my mum and want so much to care for her BUT i cant i mean who the hell am i kidding? I had a TIA last year and my headaches are back i just got reading glasses so i thought that was my cause of the headaches but saw doc today and shes requested an MRI scan again gosh my 5th in five years? Shes a great doc but with a bang to the head AND any headaches she takes seriously. I hate that MRI machine last time i had a panic attack! This time i will have to just take deep breaths and hope i dont press the panic button again! Doc is worried about my stress and she agrees its time to think about your own health now she said if and wahen i leave mum will get more outside help a carer everyday BUT its the night i worry about? Like we all do im sure!
me1000 you need to think of you sometimes and take regular breaks when you can! Im only 48 my mum is 78 this year she may outlive me IF i let her!!
Hugs to you and prayers that it will all work out in the end!!!!
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