
Many of us, myself included, come from a dysfunctional family which adds a lot of weight to the challenges of caregiving. I have read stores on various threads on other topics and decided it would be good to have a thread just for this topic for people to share, vent and discuss.
The idea for this thread originated on the thread named "The Caregiver....How are YOU doing today?"
better for everyone involved!
Dad is still in the hospital and grouchy. Daughter's hopefully future school is testing her soon, hopefully they accept her into their program. Son is the same. Still lots to call, go and get done.
Hugs all
I would tell them that you have plans, something scheduled, appointment or are scheduled to this or that for Mom and ask them if they can get someone else. Make sure they know that it is not at their convenience because they call and ask you. You do have a life, and it is none of their business what it is.
glad - Good that 2 of J's friends have come around Maybe you can plan something with them. After Gordie died and the funeral and memorial service were over, I remembered him in various ways alone of with someone(s)- a meal in his favorite restaurant, a red rose where he was assaulted, having a McD lunch in the car where he and I went a few times to look at the autumn leaves -anything that reminded me of him. My need to do it now is less, though I think of him every day.
Me - it is great that aunt is seeing that you are doing too much. Ideally gpa's money should be used for his care - not kept for others for after his death. Hope your daughter gets what she needs.
CM - I got reimbursed for receipts I took in. Must gather the rest, put all on an excel sheet, and get the rest of what I am claiming. Another chore!
juju - the current wisdom is that a few coffees can now be counted as fluid intake. I hear you about the gastric bypass and having to be careful that she gets the right nutrients.
Alison - hope all with your dad is progressing as expected
hi to everyone else -
tired today - don't know why travelling is tiring but it is. Cooking G a belated turkey dinner as a surprise for tonight. More new paperwork for mother. I guess by this time next year it should all be pretty routine, everyone should know her POA is active and that I am dealing with all of her business. D will invoice me monthly for the weekly lunch trips which works well.
Cool here, but most of the snow is gone. That is mild for this time of year here. Supposed to rain/snow tomorrow and then the temps will drop consistently below freezing. However, today I am doing my walking inside or in the grocery store.
Hope everyone is having a decent day. Do something good for you.
His obit will appear in the local paper tomorrow, thankfully. I just did not know who all I should contact. Therebare many friends, even neighbors that probably have not heard of his passing.
Had a nice chat with one of his friends last night; called to wish me happy birthday. And he was such a jerk when I first called him to tell about J. I think he will be there for me, just when I need to talk. And he actually asked me to call him after court hearing on Friday to let him know how it went.
It is so strange thinking J is gone, I will never talk with him again, just does not seem at all real. I guess this is the denial. Obit may help with that.
Glad I am so pleased the family included you in J's obit. it is so good they recognised you were such an important part of his life and did see him at the end. I suspect only now he is gone are they appreciating what they have lost and maybe sorry they were no more involved in his life. Loosing his wife at such a young age from such a terrible illness must have been some thing he carried with him for th rest of his life. So sad. Blessings
Happy Belated birthday! It is hard to celebrate a birthday.....when you have
the kind of situations happening at the moment in your life.
But I want to wish you a wonderful year anyway.
Hugs,
Much Love & Light! Margeaux