
Many of us, myself included, come from a dysfunctional family which adds a lot of weight to the challenges of caregiving. I have read stores on various threads on other topics and decided it would be good to have a thread just for this topic for people to share, vent and discuss.
The idea for this thread originated on the thread named "The Caregiver....How are YOU doing today?"
I finally have my doctor's appointment tomorrow for nose and throat stuff, though, and they are notoriously extremely slow and could take all day to see me.
I've decided that I'll go to doc appt in the morning, and if I'm not seen by 1.5 hours after my appointment time, I'm leaving and will take the receipts to Trust Officer.
I have some nervous feelings about handing them over because I wrote a letter that includes some not favorable facts about Trust Officer's handling of my grandmother's case. I didn't recount that stuff just for fun. It plays into WHY I spent what I did, WHY it seemed necessary to me at the time.
The whole thing just sucks. I cannot wait until it's all over. Soon, very soon.
Sigh. :-) It will all be ok. I'm just a bit worked up over it.
Can't imagine how painful that was
I always write letters, get them ready to mail and then decide that I need to delete stuff or add something and rewrite.
Upset, it's good to have some time to get away from the emotion of what I had to remember about and write about in the letter, and hopefully in the morning it will be a matter of condensing to "just the facts" and I'll feel better about it. I don't want to be emotional about it at all. I do want to make my case for a quick and painless reimbursement.
Four feet of rain like that! I've been watching the coverage in disbelief.
I remember during Sandy, Hess was the only station around with generators to run their pumps. Gas is up 20 cents a gallon here in NYC.
I will probably make another appointment... but today I just do not have the patience to wait hours because I'm feeling extra poorly today.
I have been getting bad sleep all this week, not sure exactly why, but I've woken up a couple of nights with my throat being very irritated. Last night was the worst. I think the problem is that, as it's become cooler outside, I close the windows this week when I sleep. That seems to be directly related to my sore throats -- sleeping in this house with windows closed or A/C on.
The sore throat could be exacerbated by the sinus drip I have going on right now. The whole thing is just making me miserable. I made a good breakfast earlier and I'm having tea, trying to turn things around today. I know I have so much to do, and I want to do it, but I'm fighting this chronic sick. It's misery making. I'm going to rest a couple of hours and see if I can get myself together to go to Trust Officer. Just so frustrated with this up and down with sleep and how I feel. :-(
And thing is, it ALL could very well be that I have a chronic allergic reaction to this house due to mold. I'm moving out in a month. Can't I just make it another month after all this time? And I will make it, of course, I just hate this sick and miserable and tired feeling I have right now.
Thanks for letting me whine. This is NOT how I wanted today to go.
Unbelievable
The insurance co now says they have found duplicates on the spread sheets. There were no duplicates in what we submitted, but they keep using the mess the adjuster made of our SOLs. We asked for details of the duplicates and have had no answer nor another offer. Our ante is going up!
Going to see several LTCs today before we return. No word from the lady we saw who said she would send me info and given me her email address yet she wanted a list asap. Aarrgh!
Had a great day yesterday in Waterton Park and more. Tired today, If I get through all of this without a flare up I am doing well. I had to sit for a while in the carriage and buggy museum though it was wonderful.
Take care all. ((((((((hugs)))))))
Golden, I'm so, so sorry about these goofballs at your insurance company. Hang in there. What else can you do, I guess. Grr.
I re read my letter to Trust and... it's not bad. When I composed it and edited the first few times, I was a little worked up having to find the right words to say "You really screwed me, you guys, and I'm hoping that you'll just give me the money and let's move on," without, you know, actually saying THAT. lol
It will work. I've printed a final version and I'm getting ready to go visit Trust Officer. Deep breath, chin up, this is almost over. ;-)
Golden, three years and I am still waiting for final insurance settlement. Now I suspect so many adjusters in Texas it may take awhile. We keep hearing about the FEMA flood insurance expiring in September. It is 24 billion in debt, now 130 billion in damage and some actually, many do not have flood insurance. I start to wonder if flood insurance should be mandatory for everyone with a premium based on home value, so much per hundred thousand value. I have a friend that has carried flood insurance, thank goodness, for years. None of the houses were in designated floodplain, but three homes he has lived in have experienced floods. Some of these people that were not in floodplain and flooded terribly, and did not have insurance what happens with them?
Caregiver groups are settling down. Some people have gone into individual counseling. We've helped a few get their elder family member into subsidized senior housing. The center is now completely cleaned. We have a men's group from the community who are painting. A local business furniture store has donated some office furnishings. A lot accomplidhed, but way more to do. I found some comfortable chairs for one of the group meeting rooms. We have some caregivers who are in very bad financial and social situations. Trying to work on some help for them. The extreme poverty in the area makes caregiving more tedious than it already is.
Ali, I hope you get some relief with your head and throat. I take a medication that causes dry throats and coughing. I use a spray before I honed. But I don't know if the problems are are similar.
Goldenberg in the States we have a State Insurance Commision ER in each State. What's the equivalent in Canada? Is it time to fire off a CC to that office?