The Caregiver & Dysfunctional Families: How are you doing?

Sharyn, Happy that tooth is gone! You did good, following through for your own health like that.

Thank you Send! I'm a bit sore so just hanging out watching tv using an ice pack to prevent swelling.

Momshelp, good you have DPOA. Hopefully your brother will leave things alone.

It would be very unusual for a judge to award guardianship to another when mom made her choice and has a DPOA in place. Bro would need to show and prove to the court very good cause to change anything that mom had documented and put in place.

Golden, OMG YUCK! I'm wondering if some grocery store worker injured himself at work night stocking or something, used the soda to rinse off his injured fingers, and forgot to pick it back up, and you ended up being the "lucky" purchaser? Or, it one of those horrible product tampering cases like they had with Acetaminophen a few years back. Either way, it's disgusting, and I'm just sure you will be OK, with all the absorbic acid that pop contains, if should not affect you adversely, still it's gross, and you should definitely get to the bottom of it if you can! I hope you kept your store receipt! So sorry this happened to you Sweetie!

Things are plugging along, the whole family is set for Sunday, so that's good! I've just got to find a decorative box to hold all the kids memories of their Grandpa, to keep on our mantle.

Next up is what to do with 25 "no kidding", picture albums!

I have most of my kids childhood photos still in a big box, and never got around to putting them into albums, lazy working mother syndrome, lol, so this it rediculous!

I am definitely not going to be responsible for shipping them off to hubby's siblings, not that the've shown any interest, but coincidently, the both want the old trunk full of skeletons, up in my shed! Hmmm, I know that they know that there is a lot of incriminating information in it, and As If we would just turn all that over for them to destroy it! Well, I would actually, but hubby won't, and I'm not sure why he wants to keep it all, but I'm thinking he feels it's family history, no matter how bad and horrible it all is, and it IS!!!

His family of 3 siblings is all he has left, that and one girl cousin, whom I cannot locate a telephone number as they are all disconnected, to notify her of her one Uncle's passing, so now we need to drive about 50 mile to try to locate her, up on one of our nearby islands in Puget Sound. The drive will be nice, but sort of weird to pop up on someone's doorstep to say surprise, your Uncle has passed away. Ugg, when does this all end? I'm not even sure she still lives in the same house, and my husband does still have her Dad, an Uncle by marriage still living (I think), but he has advanced Dementia, and hubby hasn't seen any of them in 3 years. I can't believe how fractured this family is! Whereas I see or speak to my siblings on the daily or weekly at worst! Some might say too close, but I say connected and supportive! And we Never fight, we tell it like it is, and sometimes our feelings get hurt, but we get Over It Quickly!

I'm way to sensitive to deal with family strife, and I've never had to, as I am the youngest girl of 4 girls, and a brother on each end, and I am Switzerland, and make my sisters work it out and leave me out of it! I never beef with any one of them, so this whole dysfunctional family business is a mystery to me!

Oh if you all could just see how My family loves and supports one another, you would die! I'm not sure if it was the whole, parents and extended family immigrating to this country in the 1950's and sticking together sort of thing, or if it was that my parents truly loved us and treated us all so equally, but whatever it was, We have tried our best to instill it in our kids, and so far, they are super close and get along well, even though they are 2 sets of step kids! Our eldest kids were 5 when we met, my daughter was 3, and hubby's youngest boy was only 5 months old. Both of us were in the midst of our divorces, and we met, total rebounders, and now 33 years later, we're still hammering it out,
Lol! We've been through a lot over the years, and we're very strongly bonded, so I've no worries, once we get this grieving process worked through.

It's gonna be interesting to see how we get rid of this old stuff, I mean how do you do it? With my folks, they had downsized 3 times, and my Mom ended up on Hospice in my sisters home, and then there were 6 of us to go through their simple belongings in the tiny MIL apartment (all together at One time!), where they lived with my other sister prior to my Dad's passing, Easy Peasy!

I just wish my lazy BIL Would come with a truck and take all this junk away once and for all, it not that much really, but my husband is too sentimental for his own good, the consummate collector! Grrrr! Can you tell I'm getting frustrated yet? Lol!

Love YA'LL!

I don't think it would have happened st the grocery store because you would have notice if the seal was broken plus the carbination would have gone flat.  

upset -the deed should be done by now. You are not marrying for insurance, you are marrying for love. The insurance is a minor factor in the timing. Sounds like a good idea to stay at pj's until the renos are completed. The center is officially opening soon. Yay!!!

sharyn - glad the extraction went well and hope you are more comfortable now. Have you heard from your son? It is worrying when we don't. That face book app is great. You are right about the seal and carbonation. The bottle appeared normal.

duck - glad your lunch turned up, but sorry it was inedible. The nerve - or is it dementia mum? Love gladiolas.

ali - happy you are home safely. Now you have a big job ahead of you sorting and planning.

stacey - the long goodbye is winding down. Your family is such a blessing. So glad sil and bil were not there. Your time for a break is coming up. The bottle was sealed so it happened probably before bottling, maybe during mixing - definitely before it got to the store.

momshelp - hopefully bro is more hot air than anything. I can stay basically no contact with my sis. But I have spent some time worrying what she might get up to. Then I decided to let it go and deal with anything if and when it happens.

Seeing the local eye guy tomorrow. Had a couple of light flashes in the area of the surgery as I closed my eyes last night - only when I opened or closed, but they didn't stay and that was it - nothing since. So hopefully whatever it was has fixed itself.

Saw my dr today to report about what I swallowed with the fizzy stuff. He thinks I should go to the press. The effect it is having on me is more psychological than physical. I don't gross out easily, but this has done it. We are still trying to find an independent lab that will analyse the stuff. Tomorrow R will go to a University lab that does testing. I will call another one further south again.

Have a good night everyone. I have been snoozing on the sofa and hope that will not interfere with my sleep. 😫

Sharyn , glad you survived the surgery. These dental issues can really make you sick. I see people with black stubb in their gums and wonder about pain or the time it take to get a stump. Anyways happy healing. Glad that's over for you.

Thanks Golden and DDDuck. I wish I had been able to save the tooth. It's my own misdoings as I did not realize ( for whatever reason due to lack communication or lack of understanding), I had 60 days to get insurance.

Yes my son is fine. He is checking in on the app because he has to drive this area to and from work.

Golden, going to the media may be a good option. I hope you and R can find a lab who will test it. That is frustrating. I can understand your feelings about the situation and having a psychological effect. I know it would for most people.

Have a good night everyone.

DDDuck, I don't know how people who have a black stub can stand the pain. When it involves dead tissue in the tooth like mine did, the pain from infection becomes unbearable. These infections can become sepsis if not treated. I had an abscess as a child that was turning the under eye Area blue and was taken to the dentist late at night to remove it. I was on an antibiotic but the infection (I was told) , had become sepsis.

sharyn -that could have been dangerous. Yeah, still feeling the yuck factor,

We haven't found a lab yet. Still working on it.

Saw the eye guy here and all is well. He recommends against laser surgery for my astigmatism which is fine. I will get new glasses after the second cataract surgery.

The fall colours here this year are amazing. I walked in the woods after supper and tried some pics in the twilight. I need to get out tomorrow in the daytime and take shots of some of the trees I saw today. Love the fall colouring.

Hope everyone is OK. (((((((hugs))))))) to all.

Golden, maybe the media can help with the lab testing. Do you have something along the lines of consumer affairs organizations?

I know I'm being a baby but I am being super cautious with this tooth extraction. I'm so afraid getting dry socket, lol!! I'm still sore but nothing that needs rx pain meds. I promised hubs I would make chili this week which I'm physically up to, but it's not something I want to chance eating yet because of spices. Tomorrow will be chili day, lol!!

E will be evaluated on the 13th. It is 6 hours!! He has made a friend in pre school. Another boy with speech issues. So sweet to know he and this boy play together.

Thx sharyn - hope the tooth pain is not worse. I had a dry socket once and the pain was excruciating. I would think that you are safe now, but sticking to bland soft food is probably wise. So very nice that E has made a friend! Hope the evaluation is useful. Six hours is a very long time for anyone, but especially for someone his age!!! I don't know how they can do it.

I have the email and phone number of a food testing lab in Ontario and am waiting for a text from R regarding how to proceed. The gal I spoke to seemed to think that this lab could do what I need. One step at a time!

Golden, that is great news!!

Sharyn, Glad you're getting along good with your tooth.

Got married on Tuesday. Submitted all the paperwork. Everything got approved and I should have insurance cards tomorrow effective 10/1.

I brought a bunch of my stuff to PJ's. It's little more noise than I'm used to with three boys (twins age 8 and a 12-year old). They are nice boys. There are 3.5 bathrooms and not a single one had the toilet seat down. I guess I won't see a seat down for the rest of my life.

Congratulations, Upset!

I feel sure that you have it in you to train them up to be really good husbands and partners by putting the toilet seat down!

Upset, congratulations!! I couldn't be happier for you and PJ. Just be sure you have a little night light in the bathroom you use. It removes that element of surprise on the toilet! Sweet blessings!!

(((((((upset))))))) How wonderful! My very best wishes to you and pj for all the blessings that this world can bring you. You both deserve it. I am sure you will become accustomed to the "boys" and I know they all will very much appreciate your cooking.

Re the bathrooms - maybe have one designated for your use where the toilet seat is to remain down!!!

Oh drat!!! The lab in Ontario does not do testing for individuals, only for companies. They suggested the U of A. R has been there, but has called the contact they gave him. Hoping this will work out. I will check out U of C and U of L for food labs. 
eta - only food labs are U of A. :(

Golden, hoping you and R can find a lab. There must be a lab for these types of incidents.

I was just thinking maybe a university lab. Strange. Do you have an equivalent of the Food and Drug Administration? 

sharyn - you would think so though I don't think there are many cases

Glad - The Canada Food Inspection Agency is the government dept. for dealing with food issues. I was surprised that they do not do testing (at least in my case), nor could they direct me to a place that does. It seems I am slipping between the cracks. I would think that part of the investigation should be to identify what the extraneous material is. If I was in charge it would be!

I have found one more lab in Saskatchewan and will call them tomorrow if R has had no luck at the U of A. Then I have run out of ideas. A lady I spoke to at one lab said to call her back if I had no luck, and she would see if she could find somewhere. Very nice of her.

Then contact the media, that would get action. But now how aged it has become would bring it into question. Did you contact the store where you purchased it? That is a company.

It was sitting in the acid of the soda and processed to some extent with it, so I don't think it will change much. Yes, the store has been contacted. They are just a supplier. The brand name company will test it, but we want it tested independently too. I don't trust them.

OK, I had to give in. It has been chilly here, high all week was 63, today. Early in the week the very bright weather people said it would be mid 80's by today. NOPE! It was 42 this morning. Had cotton sheets on my bed. I thought I had mowed the two acres for the last time a couple of weeks ago. NOPE! Too much rain this week. At work I was thinking I would do, maybe the final cut tomorrow, then decided to get ambitious and did it after work tonight. When I finished it was clouding up, looking like rain. NOPE. But, tomorrow I can now pull a few weeds and spray killer.

Oh, the cotton sheets, decided they will not work any longer. After cutting, felt I needed a shower, so dang dusty, and yuck. So, got in the shower instead of waiting until tomorrow morning. The news said it is going to get even colder next week, so now flannel sheets. I should sleep very well! Love my flannel!

Did some time with the in-laws yesterday. Maybe it was the glass of wine I had before dinner, but the gang was less exasperating than usual.

The in-law who, for all intents and purposes, is surgically attached to the smart(?)phone actually put the d*mm thing away and spoke in complete sentences. And a cousin we don't see often was in the mix.

I'm too smart to get carried away by this "high." The Nov/Dec holidays and all the attendant expectations/learned helplessness/myopia are right around the corner. But still. Nice to have one encounter that didn't spike my blood pressure.

Glad - hope you slept well in your flannel sheets. We still haven't had a frost yet and it is October - unheard of! Cold weather/snow is coming, I know. The CFS/FM is telling me so.

blackhole - how nice, but it doesn't last does it? have a few good memories among the other ones too. Thank goodness our holiday family gatherings are now only my kids and me, if they occur at all.

All is quiet on the western front for now. Hope it stays that way for a while.

((((((Hugs)))) to everyone

Golden, I can understand the effect that situation can have psychologically, your privacy and your body were invaded not to mention our inherent need for safety. I would continue to pursue. Did the company send a rep to take a look at it?
I cant believe How I fooled my self thinking that there was love in my fsamily. That I was instilling these qualities not only in my child but my nephews. My extended family is very loving, its large and the gatherings are usually a funeral where we catch up. The last one one of my cousins (I hadn't seen in 20 something years when he was a little boy.) Well my girlfiend lived in their building and we were in highschool trying to hang every weekend. I pick my BJ upand cuddle him every time I was over there while the mother fussed, don't u wake him up. He tracked me down had much love for me. I felt like wow! Anyways this computer has a page up next to enter so this was supposed to be below.
Stacey I think that is awesome the way your family is so supportive and loving. Its true its something that is instilled (natural too) from witnessing and teaching. I only wish my family were like that. So glad you have that.

Upset, I cant express how happy I feel for you. Keep doing your thing Girl!

Upset, about the toilet seat, well it may be harsh and not applicable in your case but I got so mad one night when I go in bathroom and sit in the bowl..... I am going to leave this as it is I was thinking of something else, which was my son used to leave drip on toilet seat so I got tired of wiping and told him I would use his washcloth to clean it next time. No more drips. That toilet bowl seat up is an issue throughout the ages....:)