
Many of us, myself included, come from a dysfunctional family which adds a lot of weight to the challenges of caregiving. I have read stores on various threads on other topics and decided it would be good to have a thread just for this topic for people to share, vent and discuss.
The idea for this thread originated on the thread named "The Caregiver....How are YOU doing today?"
I call my no-show siblings frick n frack
Anybody have other names they use for crazy sibs?
Since you'll be honeymooning nearby I might suggest a restaurant or two for a celebration dinner - that is if you have any energy left after visiting Disneyland
let me know your preferences
Prime Rib
Italian
Seafood
Golden, I tried to post that I was happy the lab will work with you and to say getting an attorney when you know the results would be a good way to go.
I haven’t heard anything re the applications I submitted.
Stacey and upset, enjoy your time away vacationing and honeymooning!!
Margeaux, good to hear from you! I hope your hubs is recovering and that you are able to focus on your needs as well. How is your mom and sister?
Too cold to do much today with high winds too. Plus I have either a head cold or allergies, sore throat etc. just a lazy day overall.
Happy Thanksgiving to All who celebrated in Canada 🇨🇦!!
stacey - so good to see that you and hub (and Charlie) are having a good time. I hope it will help you unwind so you don't need an anti anxiety pill. l love the old gold rush stuff. R and I were in Dawson City in the Yukon. It was so interesting and like stepping back in time.
madge - Mark Twain riverboat cruise!!! A new item for my bucket list. Sounds awesome. Frick and Frack - LOL! I remember them. I just think of my sis as a combination of the golden child and the ice queen. No warmth there at all.
upset - so glad it went well. Hope that parent group have got the message. Strange that they are outraged. Obviously it is not for them. Good luck at the sales. I have never been willing to brave the crowds.
margeaux -so good to hear from you. Sorry about the troubles with dh, but glad you spoke up. Sometimes we have to. Your mum is hanging in there! Hope the tooth can be fixed with little bother. Amazing that she has all her own at her age.
glad - your twisteds take the cake. So much trouble-making for you and little sharing of information. I am happy it is behind you. A cat sounds like a good idea - lower maintenance than a dog.
sharyn - hope you feel better after a quiet day. I don't like wind. My mother is very elitist and practiced this on sis - her health, piano lessons etc. Hoping R will get to the lab today with the bottle. I know he is busy with other things. I haven't ever had much use for a lawyer, but will use one I have known for a long time who lived around the corner years ago.
Finally my knee is a lot better - still sore at times, but not painful. I have to start the eye drops tomorrow for the next cataract surgery on Friday. Then I will be done for a while. I am thinking that I will see the MD/ND (who requires everyone to take a series of tests for about $1000 no matter why he/she is going to him,) and ask about getting low dose naltrexone (LDN) for the CFS/FM. There are very few in Canada who will prescribe it for that, but it is well tolerated and helps some, so I may as well try it. I know the tests include some for allergies so I may learn something useful. Snowing again this morning. I guess winter is here. ❄❄❄
Oh, and the best part? I will be able to park my yukon inside this winter, the first time ever I will not have to scrape snow and ice. I am in heaven!
Still no frost and not even having cooler temperatures. Maybe Maine isn't having winter this year.
Making a pot roast for dinner. I didn’t want to make it until it was a cold day. But i had nothing else in the freezer.
Glad I just had a light bulb moment!!! My sister is now a twisted, it even feels better not saying the actual word this is more befitting. It used to kind of hurt to say sister. LOL!!
I am happy for everyone with this good news and happiness. I am coming out of my little funk, and will be keeping to my self for awhile. So hearing it repeated felt good.
Rays of light peace and love to you all. There are so many of you out there who make this forum what it is. Your goodness shines. The wisdom is the icing.
My maternal aunt n' uncle are outdoor sporty types. No problem with that. Except they invited my mother n' I to Hawaii for a 'vacation'. There was no asking me if I wanted to go.
Because of my physical health affecting my limbs. The only two sports I will do is Biking n' Bowling. I don't run, and minimally walk.
On top of that, my mother will expect that there will be no problem sharing a room!!! I don't want to go!!!!
At this time, I cannot take it, however it has been brought up by my Rhumatologist as one of the New Pain Management Drugs of the future, unfortunately I still take Narcotic pain medicine for my Arthritic knees and hands, and would have to come completely off of that, as it is an Opioid Agonist, and blocks the opioid receptors, but once people like me who are reliant on pain meds can wean down and off the opioid meds, it could be very Effective at pain control, such as Fibromyalgia pain and Chronic Fatigue
Syndrome, which is an Exciting possibility for My future, as I don't Want to be reliant on pain meds for the rest of my life, but nothing else has worked to date to manage my pain.
The Low Dose Naltrexone (LDN) has shown So many very exciting breakthrough potentials in So many areas of disease management, and is the one drug that I am watching carefully, as more and more private (not Big PHARMA) groups are studying it in all arenas of disease managementand Cures, so I will be interested in how that works for you, plus it's cheap, as it's already been FDA approved (long ago) for safety at the much higher doses, so there's no need for it to go through the Governmental testing again. I am still wondering how/if Big PHARMA will find a way to get it's hands on it, because if there's a way to make a buck, they usually find a way to repackage and re-licence it, which is just so wrong! As I understand, the Low Dose still needs to go through a Compounding Pharmacy, but here, it only costs about 30-60 dollars a month, which is well worth it if it works! Good luck, and I hope it works out for you, and eventually ME, LOL!
Our home is paid for, so we have no worries about urgently selling up, and buying a condo as we once considered. Now the only reason to buy a condo will be due to the physical part of upkeep and maintenance of a home, and I'm sure that one day we will do just that but for right now we have decided to stay put and just fix it up and continue to make it as nice as possible for the eventualities of selling it.
Some really good news is, that in the little few hours that we have spent in the Casinos down here (we can't subject Charlie to Too much time, although she has been as good as gold, and a Lucky Charm) we both have been Winning! Just last night in less than an hour's time on the slot machines, I won $1,100, and my husband won $900, oh, and in the previous few days I have been consistently pulling out three four and $500 wins! So our trip has been essentially paid for what with the free condo and all, however, the trip isn't over yet so hopefully this winning streak will continue or at least we won't put all of our winnings back in! LOL!
We've only got three more days here in Nevada, and then we will be back in to California and winding our way back up through the Redwoods, especifically the AVENUE OF THE GIANTS, which we both are very excited to do! Initially we were going to do it on the way down but decided to head straight to Tahoe due to the issues with the reservations of my sister's condo time-share.
This has worked out great for us, the weather has been perfect although extremely cold in the mornings (30 degrees, Brrrr!), but it warms up pretty quickly and by noon it is up in the low 70s which is my preferred temperature! Also a good thing as I only brought one short sleeve shirt, LOL! So we are off early here for a nice breakfast out, and we are going to find a nice drive up into the Red Rocks and then we are going to go from there and probably spend a few hours in downtown Reno tonight, have dinner and spending our playing the slot machines.
I hope you guys are all well, and enjoying the week as much as we are! Love you all, Stace
Stacey, I'm so happy you're having a good vacation time. Let that stress gooooo. :) Enjoy!
First full day at center. It went smoothly. I had 4 individual counseling sessions and one group. PJ had 6 individual sessions. He usually does drug and alcohol counseling so this was a bit of a change. He has been catching up on counseling for caregivers, people with critical illnesses, etc. The intake social workers were very busy, as was the Medicaid specialist. So far, so good.
On top of that. She has been saying for eons, that she wanted to get important data off a tower computer. Before she took it to the computer reclamation center. At first, there is no problem with that, EXCEPT
She wants to pay a local tech in town. to do it. Instead of having me do it. This is another slap in the face.
I have computer training, have setup personal computer networks, and personal computer servers.
I am thinking of telling the guy not to come. The guy knows my computer skills and doesn't treat me like an idiot.
So instead of trying to reverse and change things I am okay with it and starting to feel a little better as time goes on.
If she hasnt and doesnt want you to do it let her pay someone else. The logic is ridiculous but if thats what she wants and she has no respect for your expertise then let her "Pay"
Your mother not acknowleging or respecting your expertise does not take away your skills or ability.