
Many of us, myself included, come from a dysfunctional family which adds a lot of weight to the challenges of caregiving. I have read stores on various threads on other topics and decided it would be good to have a thread just for this topic for people to share, vent and discuss.
The idea for this thread originated on the thread named "The Caregiver....How are YOU doing today?"
Then today, while doing some work at old house, and running errands... I thought to myself, "I'm looking for a new job, a new car, and moved two households into a 1 bedroom place, and I'm single handedly dealing with contents of the house my grandparents lived in since the 1950s. It's a bit much" I am trying to cut myself some slack but any positive benefits I can get from food, supplements, exercise, meditation is helpful. Maybe other people don't need all that to stay balanced and productive. I don't think they do, or maybe just every one else's life looks so much easier from the outside looking in, haha. I think I'm a "sensitive" and "high strung" type, and when I have so many stressors in my life, any little thing to keep me moving in a positive direction is helpful.
I am not eligible for insurance through my employer for 90 days and I have to be a “regular” part time or full time employee. Right now I am seasonal.
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from in the web "everythings-going-to-be-okay-how-good-are-you-at-self-soothing"
Here are some examples of how to self-soothe through each of the senses:
Sight: Go to a pretty spot in nature or a local park. ...
Sound: Listen to calming music. ...
Smell: Light a scented candle. ...
Touch: Take a warm bath or shower. ...
Taste: Sip herbal tea, such as chamomile. ...
Kinesthetic: Rock in a rocking chair.
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You can also use journaling, positive self talk, a pet, volunteering (scientifically proven to make you feel better) and more.
All of these help us to get through tough times. For me, my faith is my main "go to". I am inevitably more peaceful after prayer and scripture reading and trusting that God loves me and is working in my situations.
re supplements - you need Co Q10 with the carnitine. It helps with energy. I also take Vit D, calcium, Fish Oil (omega 3), and resveratrol and turmeric to decrease inflammation. I always first look at lifestyle - managing proper diet, some exercise/movement, sleep, and stress reduction. One does need some social interaction as well. People do better with it. Volunteering can provide that as well as contacts re work. Forums like AC also provide it.
glad - I agree. It takes time and we have to be patient with ourselves
sharyn - sorry about the insurance at your new work place. I hope you get on through open enrollment.
R is in his interview now. Praying for a good outcome. He also may have more opportunities through the contract he is working now. Seems like feast or famine. We had a good drive back yesterday and woke up to a heavy snowfall today. It looks beautiful but, I guess the grass won't get cut.
Ali, Golden mentioned journaling. I started in 2003 on the advice of a psychologist friend. I find it very helpful. I get things off my mind, use for problem solving, decision making, etc. I do mine before I go to bed; some entries are lengthy, other times a few sentences. It also helps me sleep. Writing calms me down. I also walk and listen to music (especially if I'm walking on the indoor track - it blocks the noise.
All of the techniques Golden listed are good. I'm allergic to a lot of scents so I don't do many candles. I also am not a tea drinker. But people who like them find them helpful.
The diagnosis is a stepping stone, an assist on the road of life for someone with ASD, a necessary means to obtain the resources needed to learn how to navigate the world when one is a very special person!
Thanks to Gershun, I take Curcumin.
Thanks to Golden, I take Resveratrol.
Started taking Lyrica for fibromyalgia pain but that is not going to work for me.
Take B-12, sublingual, magnesium, vit. D has helped, but stomach pains with calcium.
With the support of everyone on here, I will be okay! Thank you all so much!
If I feel like freaking out, I will stop, and think of your successes, giving me hope.
When attending therapy, I wear my blue button, awarded to me by a past therapist.
It reads: "SHRINK RESISTANT" .
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send - I truly hope that therapy helps you in dealing with your feelings appropriately.
Dd has several therapies to arrange for him now, plus it is recommended his tonsils be removed because they are too large and causing him to have a hoarse voice.
I know you will do it too, as you've Loved him unconditionally since the moment he was born, and your aren't going to stop now, and will probably Love him and his Brother even more! You're the Best Grammie!
Yes, all is well here, (not close to the awful fires to be in danger) but it was heartbreaking watching peoples homes, businesses, winieries, and missing PEOPLE, oh jeeez, yeah, it was terribly sad.
Here I was looking so forward to October and it is nothing like I had hoped. Air is finally clearing, Mom is her usual on and off with her memory and I set up my Halloween Decor trying to bring my spirits (no pun intended) up. Hopefully it won't be pouring out like it was last year! I have been in a weird headspace lately, maybe the reality of being trapped is catching up to me and also dealing with realizing my own limitations both physically and mentally which are both becoming more fragile. Doc tried to convince me to try another anti depressant, supposed to help with pain too. OMG! It was HORRIBLE! I took three pills and that was enough for me. No more. I will tell my Doc to just forget it, no more of those godawful things. I would rather be miserable and in my brain, not off on a distant planet like a walking zombie! I will try to catch up soon, thanks everyone for your concern, I was lucky not to be in the close danger of the fires, I am really sad for all those folks. * Hugs to all* I will read & write more soon, promise!!!!!!