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Ali, with what you have been through you are going to feel tired and drained. It takes time. Be patient with yourself. I do not take any vitamins or supplements. Maybe I should.
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Guest, Golden thanks, every suggestion I get I am investigating. There were more events today but I am exhuasted and I see myself complaining about the same theme. I believe this is a spiritual attack on my family. This is a deep subject, you know religion and politics :) I am leary about sharing some of my innermost thoughts or enlightenments or weakness. I am grateful for all I have gotten from you all. As I have said this site helped me keep my sanity when I first came on. I love you all. Off for a few days no tellinfg if I come back with my butt or head intact or God forbid, confined LOL the way things are now and have been. I am still grateful to be a part of this forum. there are some of you out there who really makes this work. God Bless. Rays of light love and peace.
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Thanks, Glad. I get ya but I want so much to be feeling all better, and be up and at em. The lows have been severe the past month.

Then today, while doing some work at old house, and running errands... I thought to myself, "I'm looking for a new job, a new car, and moved two households into a 1 bedroom place, and I'm single handedly dealing with contents of the house my grandparents lived in since the 1950s.  It's a bit much"  I am trying to cut myself some slack but any positive benefits I can get from food, supplements, exercise, meditation is helpful. Maybe other people don't need all that to stay balanced and productive. I don't think they do, or maybe just every one else's life looks so much easier from the outside looking in, haha.   I think I'm a "sensitive" and "high strung" type, and when I have so many stressors in my life, any little thing to keep me moving in a positive direction is helpful.
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Ali, I don't take supplements or vitamins. I do make sure I'm outside as much as possible and I try to take two walks a day. My life is far from perfect in terms of health. I try not to worry about what's going on, but at times that's impossible. Good luck.
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Ali, I don't take any because I am not sure they are all that regulated.
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Ali, I take multi vitamin, calcium, magnesium, b complex and b 12. Reasons, I do not have good eating habits, post menopausal, and being a recovered alcoholic 3 years...b 12 can become deficient from drinking.
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Regarding insurance open enrollment. Our insurance agent contacted the provider. Since they have all the info on us, they will submit it No ember 3 for open enrollment 2018.

I am not eligible for insurance through my employer for 90 days and I have to be a “regular” part time or full time employee. Right now I am seasonal.
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ali - I think everyone needs a balanced life or to be working towards that if needed. People who have been traumatized as children tend to be sensitive and high strung, I think. A girlfriend and I have talked about how we can "freak out" easily. I do much less so now. You can talk yourself down from a "freak out". Freaking out can become habitual, and habits can be broken and replaced with something healthier. Learn to self soothe in healthy ways. You did not have that from your parents, but you can learn it for yourself and to avoid the negative self soothers like certain substances, dysfunctional relationships, too much shopping/spending money etc. You might want to google Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT)

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from in the web "everythings-going-to-be-okay-how-good-are-you-at-self-soothing"

Here are some examples of how to self-soothe through each of the senses:

Sight: Go to a pretty spot in nature or a local park. ...
Sound: Listen to calming music. ...
Smell: Light a scented candle. ...
Touch: Take a warm bath or shower. ...
Taste: Sip herbal tea, such as chamomile. ...
Kinesthetic: Rock in a rocking chair.
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You can also use journaling, positive self talk, a pet, volunteering (scientifically proven to make you feel better) and more.

All of these help us to get through tough times. For me, my faith is my main "go to". I am inevitably more peaceful after prayer and scripture reading and trusting that God loves me and is working in my situations.

re supplements - you need Co Q10 with the carnitine. It helps with energy. I also take Vit D, calcium, Fish Oil (omega 3), and resveratrol and turmeric to decrease inflammation. I always first look at lifestyle - managing proper diet, some exercise/movement, sleep, and stress reduction. One does need some social interaction as well. People do better with it. Volunteering can provide that as well as contacts re work. Forums like AC also provide it.

glad - I agree. It takes time and we have to be patient with ourselves

sharyn - sorry about the insurance at your new work place. I hope you get on through open enrollment.

R is in his interview now. Praying for a good outcome. He also may have more opportunities through the contract he is working now. Seems like feast or famine. We had a good drive back yesterday and woke up to a heavy snowfall today. It looks beautiful but, I guess the grass won't get cut.
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90 day waiting for insurance is pretty standard with many jobs. Open enrollment for 2018 is a given
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Sharyn, Hope you're insurance issues all work out. Since I got married, it has been such a relief to have good health, dental and vision insurance. Congratulations on the three years!

Ali, Golden mentioned journaling. I started in 2003 on the advice of a psychologist friend. I find it very helpful. I get things off my mind, use for problem solving, decision making, etc. I do mine before I go to bed; some entries are lengthy, other times a few sentences. It also helps me sleep. Writing calms me down. I also walk and listen to music (especially if I'm walking on the indoor track - it blocks the noise.
All of the techniques Golden listed are good. I'm allergic to a lot of scents so I don't do many candles. I also am not a tea drinker. But people who like them find them helpful.
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E has been officially diagnosed with ASD.
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Sharyn, You have a diagnosis which is a good thing. Now your daughter and husband, and all of the family, along with specialists and teacher can work to help E to reach his full potential. I'm sure you know all of this. E is just wired different than L. One my best friends son has autism. When he was small, he was not diagnosed and he struggled. After being diagnosed at age 11, he had special schooling and a program up thru college. He graduated from college and now works for a small tech company as a computer tech. He's married and has a son. He still has some social problems, but nothing too serious. E will succeed. Knowing the situation exactly is part of the path forward. E sounds like a really sweet boy.
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Sharyn, that is sad, but early diagnosis, at least everyone will now learn how to play with him. It will just take a different approach.
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We remind my son P that he is differently abled. Sharyn PM me if you need start with resources.
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Sharyn,
The diagnosis is a stepping stone, an assist on the road of life for someone with ASD, a necessary means to obtain the resources needed to learn how to navigate the world when one is a very special person!
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DBT here, just started, instructed on the 5 senses calming today!
Thanks to Gershun, I take Curcumin.
Thanks to Golden, I take Resveratrol.
Started taking Lyrica for fibromyalgia pain but that is not going to work for me.
Take B-12, sublingual, magnesium, vit. D has helped, but stomach pains with calcium.

With the support of everyone on here, I will be okay! Thank you all so much!
If I feel like freaking out, I will stop, and think of your successes, giving me hope.

When attending therapy, I wear my blue button, awarded to me by a past therapist.
It reads:  "SHRINK RESISTANT" .

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Send, I tried Lyrica for my peripheral neuropathy. It did not work for me. I gained weight, felt like my skin was crawling, upset stomach. It was not a good drug for me. I've found that ice or cold packs on my affected foot and leg, and occasionally Lidoderm patches for the worst pain. Plus the more I walk, the less pain I have. I've tried over the last 3 years to eliminate as many prescription drugs as possible. I'm down to my Coumadin for afib and Allegra for seasonal allergy in spring. 
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sharyn - I am sure the diagnosis, even though expected, has delivered a "punch" to you and his parents. When my two oldest boys were diagnosed with learning disabilities, it made me sad as I knew life in school was and would be more difficult with them in some ways. We all want the very best for our children and grandchildren. However, having the diagnosis made some things easier too. In those days, LD was barely recognized by the schools and there was not much in the way of programs. They have survived and done well anyway. E is a sweetheart. Hugs to both of you. Having supportive parents and grandparents makes all the difference.

send - I truly hope that therapy helps you in dealing with your feelings appropriately.
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Thanks Golden. It does make me sad. I worry about bullying which is worse now than when I went to school. Most importantly is he is just perfect the way he is and he will learn just differently. He is very capable and abled.

Dd has several therapies to arrange for him now, plus it is recommended his tonsils be removed because they are too large and causing him to have a hoarse voice.
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Awe SharynM, I'm sorry for the official diagnosis, but now you all together, can work as a team to figure out the perfect ways to help Little E along in life, and what supportive measures work towards him finding all of his potentials!

I know you will do it too, as you've Loved him unconditionally since the moment he was born, and your aren't going to stop now, and will probably Love him and his Brother even more! You're the Best Grammie!
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Thank you everyone regarding E. My dd has many things to contend with, even more now.
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Thanks Stacey. Yes I love these boys.
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Hi Everyone!
Yes, all is well here, (not close to the awful fires to be in danger) but it was heartbreaking watching peoples homes, businesses, winieries, and missing PEOPLE, oh jeeez, yeah, it was terribly sad.
Here I was looking so forward to October and it is nothing like I had hoped. Air is finally clearing, Mom is her usual on and off with her memory and I set up my Halloween Decor trying to bring my spirits (no pun intended) up. Hopefully it won't be pouring out like it was last year! I have been in a weird headspace lately, maybe the reality of being trapped is catching up to me and also dealing with realizing my own limitations both physically and mentally which are both becoming more fragile. Doc tried to convince me to try another anti depressant, supposed to help with pain too. OMG! It was HORRIBLE! I took three pills and that was enough for me. No more. I will tell my Doc to just forget it, no more of those godawful things. I would rather be miserable and in my brain, not off on a distant planet like a walking zombie! I will try to catch up soon, thanks everyone for your concern, I was lucky not to be in the close danger of the fires, I am really sad for all those folks. * Hugs to all* I will read & write more soon, promise!!!!!!
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E is slightly behind cognitively but his speech is more so and that is why they want private speech therapy. Removing his tonsils will help stop him drooling and be proactive to prevent tonsillitis issues
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Sharyn, My son had some speech problems. The ENT recommended tonsils and adenoids removed and ear tubes. Helped him a good bit. His daughter had the same problem at 3 or 4, plus sore throats.
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Yes upset, the large tonsil issue runs on his dads side as his dad and aunt have large tonsils too
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Sharyn, I had my out at 5 because of tonsillitis and strep infections.
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I had mine out when I was preschool - around 3 or 4 due to infections. Probably was a sign of the allergies which still plague me.
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I was 16 when I had mine out from tonsillitis and 6 months later I started having allergies
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I was 17 when I got my tonsils out and at the same time I had to have holes punctured in my eardrums and tubes put in.I was sicker than a dog and missed alot of school and still whenever I get sick,it usually always starts with an earache first.
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