
Many of us, myself included, come from a dysfunctional family which adds a lot of weight to the challenges of caregiving. I have read stores on various threads on other topics and decided it would be good to have a thread just for this topic for people to share, vent and discuss.
The idea for this thread originated on the thread named "The Caregiver....How are YOU doing today?"
First annoying call today was from the NH about shipping charges for mother's new slacks. Last week I talked to someone about the first pair and said to put the charges on her bill, and they said OK. This week when the second pair arrived they say they cannot do that, and could I just come down and pay Canada Post. I said I live in Fort Mc and the 5 hour drive would not be worth it, so just refuse them. So much for the overly cheery nurse who wanted mother in florals and new outfits for the summer. Sigh!!! I am not impressed.
I walk indoors all the time -1/2 hr or more usually apart from normal daily activities.Nowadays "they" are saying that even every 5 minutes helps. The last few days with the ice melted I have been able to go outside -so nice.
Hah - from the NY Times - A new study suggests that getting up from your chair every half-hour or so could reduce the risk of an early death. I think at my age I don't have to worry about an early death.
Metformin is known to cause diarrhea - a friend has to take Imodium daily with it - yikes
I know there are different classes of diabetes drugs - did dr offer up any alternative ? Mom has been on one at varying doses for 10 years without any noticeable problems
Still recovering from oral surgery and struggling at work this week - urgent project dropped in my lap at 7:30 pm last night and at the office until 2:30 am without any soft foods to eat
Manager stops by my desk at 8 pm tonight and says I should go home early
On what planet is 8 pm early ?
I'm all out of the anti-inflammatory and Tylenol doesn't begin to ease the pain
When's the next powerball?
That takes me back - people used to look over their glasses at anyone leaving before six and ask "half day, is it?" I'm finding the competitive hours culture less and less amusing as I read more and more about how damaging it is to personal and societal health and productivity.
It all sucks. What's your plan for Thursday?
As for the "other" question, how about "Living in sin"
CM the one about hours that gets me is the nurses having to work 12 hour shifts. last night one girl told me she was going for lunch about 2pm, then at 8pm she still had not been and said "I guess it will be dinner now"
Wonder what happened to the Labor Laws?
But now she has apprised me of the possibility of being on the road together for almost month. I don't like traveling with her. When it comes to travel, I want consistency. But she loves perpetual ambiguity. Meaning she loves making lots of unplanned 'visitations'.
People like your mother mask their slipping very well. Everyone around them chalks it up to their loved one’s lifelong difficult personality and tsk-tsks about how stubborn he/she is getting in his/her old age.
Truth is, it’s neurological deterioration. The lifelong personality disorder is now just the co-host.
A month of Mom behind the wheel in unfamiliar environments is a terrible idea. (Chris, you don’t drive, right?)
Is there any way this trip can be stopped? If not, refuse to go. Tell Mom now and tell her often that she needs to find another patsy. Or she goes alone.
Chris, stress exacerbates your issues. I know your mother does a number on you, but you are not required to be her co-pilot. You need to take care of your mind and your body and your kid and your life. That’s more than enough.
When Mom was your age, would she have signed on for someone else’s bad idea like this? Heck no.
Mom pushes all your buttons and drags you into her crap. She sees no reason for this to turn out any different. So you need to assert yourself. Now. Say no and stay strong.
Good luck, Chris. I know this woman gave birth to you and all, but she’s killing you. Please stand up to her. Not in the form of the round-robin arguments she routinely uses to wear you down. But a big, fat, unshakable NO.
((((hugs))))
My dd got a part time job for Tuesday-Thursday. She will be working with me in the deli,haha! I have morning shifts and she will work 2-8 on her hubs days off. My manager hired her via email then called her, this is so funny because the deli manager hires people very quickly. Very seldom will we actually have the same shift, maybe once a week at most.
When will this mess ever end? I guess Monday I'll have to spend half a day trying to get information on what that little jerk did. I sat and cried for half an hour and then realized that wasn't going to help. I feel physically ill over this.
He is 72 and I am 78 in good health and good shape. I walk 12-16 miles a week and prepare healthy meals for both of us, however, I did have a TIA four years ago and it is likely that is how I will go.
With Traumatic Brain Injury, there are often rages from frustration and sadness over not being the person one was before.. and it is difficult to be around. My husband has two sons, one an hour away and the other in Hawaii. It has been made clear to me that they will not have him at home with them when I pass.
They are good men but they (rather the oldest who lives an hour away) have a plateful from overseeing care for their mother who is suffering from MS for 16 yrs. So I get it.
I am looking at ways that he can continue at home with caregivers during the day(he is in good health) but finding people to stay the night or even have a live-in is near impossible.
Ideas?