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Thanks Becky, my A1C is 5.8 and has been for several years. Dr’s are now rx metformin for prediabetes. He wants me to exercise daily which is the hard part due to my work schedule. I can walk right now, soon it will be too hot in the afternoons. I’ll figure something out.
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You can walk in place inside in the a/c, either with a DVD, or just a music app. That's what I do in bad weather
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Hi everyone! Sometimes it's so good to know you aren't alone in the day to day stressors of care giving. BarbBrooklyn is so right about walking in place. There are some great "happy walk" youtube videos that can take you a mile or even more if you like. Just moving for 10 minutes straight can make you stronger mentally when things go wrong.
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This probably is a whine. Apparently answering the stats Canada Labour Force survey is mandatory and if you are picked you must answer once a month for 6 months. Round one was this evening. R hates such things and finds them very intrusive.  I was answering and the lady asked was his salary was, so I called out the question to him. His answer was "None of your g**-d*** business." I relayed that to her exactly as he said it, and handed the phone to him for the rest of the survey. Earlier she had asked about the nature of our relationship, and I said "No" to everything she offered, so she put "Other". What on earth has the nature of our relationship have to do with the labour force stats? I am tempted to make up something racy next time they call.

First annoying call today was from the NH about shipping charges for mother's new slacks. Last week I talked to someone about the first pair and said to put the charges on her bill, and they said OK. This week when the second pair arrived they say they cannot do that, and could I just come down and pay Canada Post. I said I live in Fort Mc and the 5 hour drive would not be worth it, so just refuse them. So much for the overly cheery nurse who wanted mother in florals and new outfits for the summer. Sigh!!! I am not impressed.

I walk indoors all the time -1/2 hr or more usually apart from normal daily activities.Nowadays "they" are saying that even every 5 minutes helps. The last few days with the ice melted I have been able to go outside -so nice.

Hah - from the NY Times - A new study suggests that getting up from your chair every half-hour or so could reduce the risk of an early death. I think at my age I don't have to worry about an early death.
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Golden, I can believe that about getting up every half hour. PJ and I sat thru an 8-hr workshop on qualifying people for NH Medicaid. We got a half-hour lunch and two 10 minute breaks. My bad leg is killing me. PJ isn't much better. And we have day 2 tomorrow.
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For me, normal activity involves getting up pretty frequently checking stuff on the stove, or laundry, or whatever unless I am having a fibro bout. When my kids were young I was lucky to sit down long enough for a cup of coffee. I used to think that heaven would sitting and drinking a full cup of coffee before it got cold. Now that I am old I still drink cold coffee but because I forget about it....well, actually, I lose interest after the first few mouthfuls. :)
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I was hoping being up and walking all around the deli would count for some type of exercise, but I guess not. I took 1/2 a tablet of metformin with dinner tonight. So far no stomach upset. I am going to check out weight watchers too. Losing about 20-25 lb would help too.
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Sharyn, ADA diet is easier to follow than Weight Watchers. How did they tell you to take Metformin? I've never had upset stomach with mine. But not much upsets my stomach. You will lose some with Metformin. Back when Metformin cam out people tried to get doctors to prescribe for weight loss. I lost about 22 lbs in the first three months I started taking Metformin. My brother, Jay lost a bunch but he is much stricter with his diet and he needed to lose more weight. He follows the South Beachndiet which is very low carb. But I was afraid of it because the fat content seems high to me. I guess everyone has to find what works for themselves.
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The dr told me to cut the pill in half and take half twice a day (500mg). However, I did notice the pill does not have a line on it so maybe I shouldn’t cut it. Yes the dr and the pharmacist said it could cause tummy grumbling and/or diarrhea and to take with food. I will check the the ADA diet. I think it’s similar to WW and free.
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Sharyn
Metformin is known to cause diarrhea - a friend has to take Imodium daily with it - yikes
I know there are different classes of diabetes drugs - did dr offer up any alternative ? Mom has been on one at varying doses for 10 years without any noticeable problems
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This is definitely a whine

Still recovering from oral surgery and struggling at work this week - urgent project dropped in my lap at 7:30 pm last night and at the office until 2:30 am without any soft foods to eat
Manager stops by my desk at 8 pm tonight and says I should go home early
On what planet is 8 pm early ?

I'm all out of the anti-inflammatory and Tylenol doesn't begin to ease the pain

When's the next powerball?
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MsMadge, don't forget about cheap 'n' cheerful soluble aspirin - swill it round like a mouthwash and spit it out, you won't ingest enough to hurt you and it should be pretty easy to buy over the counter.

That takes me back - people used to look over their glasses at anyone leaving before six and ask "half day, is it?" I'm finding the competitive hours culture less and less amusing as I read more and more about how damaging it is to personal and societal health and productivity.

It all sucks. What's your plan for Thursday?
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Golden inever answer the one about salary. if Dh got that question he would have had a stronger answer than R.
As for the "other" question, how about "Living in sin"

CM the one about hours that gets me is the nurses having to work 12 hour shifts. last night one girl told me she was going for lunch about 2pm, then at 8pm she still had not been and said "I guess it will be dinner now"
Wonder what happened to the Labor Laws?
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Becky, I can’t find meal guidelines by the ada. Everything that comes up is for a website to join.
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Never mind I ordered a book from amazon
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Sharyn, They must have changed their policies. Used to have program, recipes, food. Guess they’re trying to make money.
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No biggie, everyone needs money.
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I never have had tummy upset from my metformin, but I do go to the bathroom a lot more, and move faster getting there!! It was awful for the first few weeks, but now it is better and I know when its likely to occur. I only lost about 7 lbs, but it was enough to help my A1C and so I opted to stay on it.. it's cheap and effective for me.
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My mother found her drivers' license after she had gone to the DMV and got a new one. She found the old one along w/ her American Express card in a pouch, she wears on her neck.

But now she has apprised me of the possibility of being on the road together for almost month. I don't like traveling with her. When it comes to travel, I want consistency. But she loves perpetual ambiguity. Meaning she loves making lots of unplanned 'visitations'.
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Chris, others here have suggested that your mother has “graduated” from selfish/wacky/demanding to the early stages of dementia. Please take that to heart — difficult as it is to accept.

People like your mother mask their slipping very well. Everyone around them chalks it up to their loved one’s lifelong difficult personality and tsk-tsks about how stubborn he/she is getting in his/her old age.

Truth is, it’s neurological deterioration. The lifelong personality disorder is now just the co-host.

A month of Mom behind the wheel in unfamiliar environments is a terrible idea. (Chris, you don’t drive, right?)

Is there any way this trip can be stopped? If not, refuse to go. Tell Mom now and tell her often that she needs to find another patsy. Or she goes alone.

Chris, stress exacerbates your issues. I know your mother does a number on you, but you are not required to be her co-pilot. You need to take care of your mind and your body and your kid and your life. That’s more than enough.

When Mom was your age, would she have signed on for someone else’s bad idea like this? Heck no.

Mom pushes all your buttons and drags you into her crap. She sees no reason for this to turn out any different. So you need to assert yourself. Now. Say no and stay strong.

Good luck, Chris. I know this woman gave birth to you and all, but she’s killing you. Please stand up to her. Not in the form of the round-robin arguments she routinely uses to wear you down. But a big, fat, unshakable NO.

((((hugs))))
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I’m not having  any tummy issues with the metformin.

My dd got a part time job for Tuesday-Thursday. She will be working with me in the deli,haha! I have morning shifts and she will work 2-8 on her hubs days off. My manager hired her via email then called her, this is so funny because the deli manager hires people very quickly. Very seldom will we actually have the same shift, maybe once a week at most.
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Chris I second what black hole adviced above. Stand strong on this trip. You have no obligation to go.
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Chris, Don't go on the trip unless you have to. I second what Black Hole says too.
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BlackHole, SharynMMarie, Becky04473, Now she says she never said anything about driving. Also, That she is flying to Mississippi and I am flying straight to LAX from BWI. Which is what she said to begin with.
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Yep, dementia. ((((hugs))))
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I have had a perfectly wretched day. I picked up the mail about 2:00pm. I got a certified letter from some lawyer in Toledo, OH. It said a judgement against me had been filed in ----- County, OH in the amount of $38,989.52 for an auto loan taken out in June 2015. They had been trying to locate the car for repossession but only located the vehicle two weeks ago. The State Police located the vehicle abandoned in a state park in northern Ohio. The title recorded by the state is in my name and my nephews. Dysfunction strikes again. I tried to call him but the number was disconnected. I called my niece and she had the same number. She said she remembered the car and said my nephew told her that his Wife's uncle (who is a used car dealer) helped him get it.

When will this mess ever end? I guess Monday I'll have to spend half a day trying to get information on what that little jerk did. I sat and cried for half an hour and then realized that wasn't going to help. I feel physically ill over this.
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Oh Becky, I’d cry too! I wish I knew something legal you could do to track down your dys family and banish them from trying to use you financially. Hang in there, ( ( ( hugs) ) )!
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Thanks Sharyn, I know where he is. Just don't have a working phone number. He's such a jerk. I'll never retire if this kind of stuff keeps popping up. He's the rotten gift that keeps on giving.
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My concern is the care my husband will receive if I die first. He has TBI and Dementia.
He is 72 and I am 78 in good health and good shape. I walk 12-16 miles a week and prepare healthy meals for both of us, however, I did have a TIA four years ago and it is likely that is how I will go.
With Traumatic Brain Injury, there are often rages from frustration and sadness over not being the person one was before.. and it is difficult to be around. My husband has two sons, one an hour away and the other in Hawaii. It has been made clear to me that they will not have him at home with them when I pass. 
They are good men but they (rather the oldest who lives an hour away) have a plateful from overseeing care for their mother who is suffering from MS for 16 yrs. So I get it.
I am looking at ways that he can continue at home with caregivers during the day(he is in good health) but finding people to stay the night or even have a live-in is near impossible.
Ideas?
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Oh gosh Becky that is terrible. Did you even know about the car? Did you sign anything? Does the wife's Uncle have any information, or is he shady?
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