
Many of us, myself included, come from a dysfunctional family which adds a lot of weight to the challenges of caregiving. I have read stores on various threads on other topics and decided it would be good to have a thread just for this topic for people to share, vent and discuss.
The idea for this thread originated on the thread named "The Caregiver....How are YOU doing today?"
Can you change all the numbers on anything you have like ss, driver license bank accounts credit cards. Notify everyone not to accept anything from nephew in your name unless you are physically present, then file an order of protection.
chris -I hope you don't go
becky - such a horrible family. It boggles my mind that you have to pay when you didn't sign for anything.
veronica -hope you are feeling better,
dori -how r u doing?
Wonderful summer weather here, flood alerts a bit south of here and snow forecast for the southern part of the province. Go figure
Take care all.
You are looking for live in care for him. It is very expensive call around to agencies and start using others for Care now. He may become somewhat accustomed to others if you start now. An I am sure you need the break.
You don't want this to happen to you. I have spent all of the money from my part of mom's estate paying off all the stuff they did. You can explain to creditor's until your blue in the face - they don't care what you say or what you prove - they want their money. I could have filed for bankruptcy, but I inherited money and bankruptcy court would have made me pay. So I went ahead and paid and at least avoided a few legal fees and I held onto my house and car. The whole time I kept thinking I'll prove everything and it will all get fixed. Worst year or so ever.
Becky it’s just horrible they get away with the crimes.
opened after that notice.
I hope tomorrow will bring a good response on the car debt.
Have you considered enrolling in something like Lifelock? In our current morve i had to apply for power and TV. In both cases they did a credit check. Within hours there was a call from Lifelock asking if i knew about these. That way you would have known immediate that there was trouble at the crossroads. Getting that fake drivers license was an offense in itself.
PS: How come the credit card didn't write off that money, since it was identity fraud? You could call and talk to someone there.
On a brighter note - I did receive child support checks from both my great-niece and her ex-husband for their little girls. I also received a payment on restitution from my niece. At least she seems intent on doing the right thing and getting her life on track.
I think sometimes that I have an aura of either "victim" or "stupid" around me - maybe both.
Becky - I just read back in the thread about what happened. How awful!! I'm so sorry that's happening to you. I definitely think whatever bonehead at the bank authorized a loan that huge without doing a credit check should be the one who has to pay it back! Is that the same nephew who phoned your house the other week, by any chance?
becky - not altogether surprised that you are not liable, but glad it has been established. Good news about the nutty lady.
Sunshiny today, if not very warm, but soooo much better than it was!!!!
It's 21 C (just about 70 F) here, which is cooler than last week - but supposed to be getting warmer tomorrow. I went and bought myself some new shorts and t-shirts today while mom is at dialysis. One of my friends is going to trim and thin out my hair when mom's at dialysis on Wednesday (it's VERY thick - like, I need BFF's help just to get it all under the dumb swim cap). Dang, this menopause thing is killing me.
On a positive note, I just shaved the winter growth off my legs and, possibly for the first time in my life, didn't incur any blood loss.