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Hang in there Sharyn! SO many of us with health issues recently.

For Dori:

Hello Muddah, hello Fadduh,
Here I am at Camp Grenada
Camp is very entertaining
and they say we'll have some fun if it stops raining.

I went hiking with Joe Spivy
He developed poison ivy
You remember Leonard Skinner
He got ptomaine poisoning last night after dinner.

All the counselors hate the waiters
And the lake has alligators
And the head coach wants no sissies
So he reads to us from something called Ulysses.

Now I don't want this should scare ya
But my bunkmate has malaria
You remember Jeffrey Hardy
They're about to organize a searching party.

Take me home, oh muddah fadduh, take me home, I hate Grenada
Don't leave me out in the forest where I might get eaten by a bear.
Take me home, I promise I will not make noise or mess the house with
other boys, oh please don't make me stay, I've been here one whole day.

Dearest fadduh, darling muddah,
How's my precious little bruddah?
Let me come home if ya miss me
I will even let Aunt Bertha hug and kiss me.

Wait a minute, it stopped hailing,
Guys are swimming, guys are sailing,
Playing baseball, gee that's better,
Muddah Fadduh please disregard this letter.

ALLAN SHERMAN
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Plumbing roughed in, concrete floor in basement.....

Meeting contractor for coffee in the morning, decide what doors I want moved in the master bedroom area.
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Glad, Moving right along! I’m sure you and your contractor have checked - but be sure your doors turn in or out in the right direction. My brother failed to do this and doors in the duplex we’re all messed up. So excited for you!
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Figuring out how to rearrange the bathroom and work in a linen closet, master bedroom move a door so I have ten feet plus of wall for bedroom furniture which is massive.

And a couple of pocket doors. Saves wall space. 
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Been mia - a bit of that bug back which triggered the fm.

susan - I LOVE that Allan Sherman - it goes back many many years. Thank you!!!

sharyn (((((hugs)))) such a difficult time for the whole family. A little counselling might be helpful. There are so many unanswerable questions with suicide. We went through it with ex's sister.

glad - wow -things are moving!!!! Choices, choices!!!

dori -hope you are doing very well and enjoying your break. Don't use it to house clean!!!

becky - when I had renos done they put several new doors in the wrong way so the light switches weren't handy. I caught one and made them redo it. One other one I replaced with the renos after the fire, and the garage and front door are still the wrong way around. I actually prefer the front door this way as it opens into the living room. The garage door is still a nuisance.

Going cross eyed here looking for summer tops for mother online  . I finally found some and a couple of adaptive ones. Hope they work. At last we got decent rain and the shrub roses in back are in full bloom.

Gotta hit the hay! Nite all.
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Becky, somewhere I missed you had surgery. I’m glad you are home now and healing.
Golden, I hope you’re feeling better. Thanks for the hug. Yes there are too many unanswered questions. I know I’ll get through this with time. I will keep a check on my other niece. She and her sister were inseparable, and checking on my sister too.
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Hi Golden and Sharyn,

Golden... not sure what size your mother is but if she is plus size check out the site for Cato's.. cute clothes for all ages (they do plus and regular size) and decent prices. For gently used I have been looking at Thread Up though I have not tried them before. I am plus size and went to scrubs (yep like the nurses wear) as they are comfortable, easy to clean, dry fast if they get wet when I help my honey shower and are cute and they are reasonable price. We buy our scrubs (nope we are not nurses or in med field) from Allheart.com. Just some ideas. Hope they help.

Sharyn...so glad you are hanging in there. It is good to keep an eye out for any signs, but please don't forget to take care of yourself as well. Please keep us posted on how you are doing.

Have a great weekend.
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Happy Father's Day to all the fathers here and there. Have a blessed day.

sharyn it takes time to get your balance back. Hope your niece and sis are getting some counselling. Take it easy.

Dusti - thx for the info. Mother is not a plus size We are in Canada and I am a distance caregiver, so I shop online for her mostly. Unfortunately, Cato does not ship here, but thred up does normally, though not at the moment. I saw some nice tops on thred up so hoping they will be back to shipping here soon.Their price and choices are great. Mother is 106 and in a wheel chair so I have bought some adaptive tops too, but the choices are very limited. Hope things are good for you.

My "non existent" ovarian cyst really acted up yesterday. I am going to have to track it on a calendar again and then see my dr and ask to see an obgyn and to have an ultrasound when it is acting up. I would also like to have a hormone profile.When they did the last ultrasound it was quiet and showed nothing which didn't surprise me. It is a darn nuisance when it acts up. I got some Dong Quai and will start it today. Wil.df yam cream might help too.
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Thanks Golden. It has been a fine day!
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Sharyn, I had aortic valve replacement. Everything went fine. I’m at home waiting to start rehab. I’m starting to have the post surgical pain. Not pleasant. Still have to have artery bypasses in both legs. Be glad when it’s all over. Not the summer I planned.
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Becky, I’m glad it was caught before anything happened. It will be a long summer. Are they doing artery by pass or stints in your legs? Keep us posted on your rehab. Prayers for rapid healing.

Thank you Dusti. I’ll found out Tuesday on my blood work whether the metformin is bringing my blood sugar too low or if I have a thyroid issue. I doubt my kidneys are a problem as they were fine with blood work in April.

Take care everyone.
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Sharyn, Having bypasses. Previous stents failed. I had had valve surgery before. Valve had started leaking and had to be replaced. I feel like I’m having my body redone - piece by piece.
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It’s amazing what they can do for our bodies now. I’m glad you have lots of support to help you through.
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My step sister just informed me that dad is now declining quickly, has become much more difficult to deal with, needs a hospital bed and they are going to call hospice in. Why didn't they tell me this when I called on Father's Day?

I just got to where he lives after an 8 hour drive.
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Oh cmag - not good news. He has hung in there for a long time. Maybe they wanted to spare you on Father's Day so you could have a good phone visit with him Take care and let us know how things are going.
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Cmag, I'm so sorry to hear this. Keep us posted - will be thinking of you.
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Thanks, I think it is time to ask my step sister what plans did my dad make about his funeral?

This has been a sudden change for all I heard recently before is how good he has been doing.
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Hugs, cmag. You are suffering from both the “family filter” and the reality of decline. It’s challenging to reconcile the two. Feelings become jumbled and volatile.

You've been such a rock for your wife’s difficult family issues. Yet you might find that you need a whole new script and a whole new playbook for your current journey.

Keep us posted. You have been supportive to so many on this forum. We’d be honored to return the favor.
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Cmag, so sorry to hear of your father. Your family is my thoughts and prayers. Take care you as well.

Blood work is normal except I have a UTI. Most likely been lingering for a while. My weight is down dramatically, most likely from metformin.
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I saw my dad this morning. He was in a good mood for the short time he was awake.

My dad evidently did not make plans for his funeral. All we know is that he wanted an Irish funeral. However, he has outlived his friends and all but one of his siblings who is 10 years younger. I pointed out that his brother plus nephews and nieces will like like to come to his memorial service. Most of them live a day or two drive away and some will want to come,I am sure. Some of my cousins on my mothers side of the family knew him and might want to come also.
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I'm the youngest of 7 and I have autism I cared for my late mother and know my father. My older 4 siblings are a piece of work . The eldest in particular feels it is her entitlement to push anyone she thinks is a threat. Unfortunately that included my late mother when she and the eldest of the boys came home the week before my mother passed on in deed this sibling became physical with my dying mother and me as her care giver my father looked the other way. my advice when your loved one is sick don't allow them to come home and say there goodbyes that is what my sister who is closet to me in age number 6 who is also the power of attorney we aren't going to inform any of them only number 5 my brother cause he lives so far away.
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Cmag.. I am so sorry to that your Dad is declining. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
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Cmag, so sorry to hear about your dad. I'm praying too for you and your family.
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Peacebear, I know where you're coming from. I have 7 siblings. They were out of sight, out of mind. Our parents care was 'my' responsibility since I'm single and still living at home (rent-free), etc... Despite my anger/bitterness towards them, I could never forgive myself if mom had died and I didn't tell my siblings. So, I told them, and said it's up to them if they want to come now while she's still alive or wait until she dies and attend (or not) her funeral... Once my 6 siblings were here, we discussed if we should tell my mom's 6 siblings here on island who visited bedridden mom with the count of one hand for the time she was bedridden for 13 years. We siblings decided Not to tell mom's siblings (our uncles/aunties). If her siblings couldn't visit mom these past 13 years, why should we tell them she's dying? Actions speak louder than words.. I will admit to feeling a teeny tiny bit guilty for not telling them, though...
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Cmag, glad you were able to see your dad and in a good mood, too.
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I’ve had evaluation by my vascular surgeon and cardiologist. Both think I need to have my femoral-popliteal artery bypasses done before I have more circulatory damage. So, lucky me, I get to go back in hospital Monday to have them done on Tuesday. They’re going to use artificial grafting material. Not looking forward to this, but will be glad to have it done and over. I’m starting to have numbness in places on my feet and legs because the circulation is poor. Not sure how long I will be in the hospital. The same two nurses will go with me. They are taking the weekend off. They have been so nice and helpful. I don’t want to think about what it would have been like without them.

This afternoon I have to go to the hospital nutritionist. I missed my appointment last month. I hope she has some new recipes for me to try. Diabetic and kidney disease diet gets boring.
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Becky- Hope you have a speedy recovery and all goes well. Will keep you in my prayers. Hope you get new recipes also.
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Becky, enjoy the weekend! Keeping you in positive thoughts.
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sharyn - sorry to hear about the UTI but glad your blood work is good and that you have lost some weight. That will help with the blood sugar too.

cmag - wondering how your dad is doing

peace bear - you gotta do what you gotta do. How terrible for your sis to get physical with your mum.

book - not telling them didn't cause trouble did it?

becky - in some ways it is good to get it all over and done with. You have great support.

Doriiiiiiii... where are you???? How is your mum? How are you???

Finally had a couple of good days, but back with the fm again today. Planning to drive south tomorrow if I can, so R and I can go to the mountains. The weather there will be cool but it will be nice anyway. Finally got my new lenses in. They are not as good as I hoped but better than before. I think my eyes have changed again, so I will get them checked sooner than I usually do.

Spent many hours online finding high neck long sleeved summer tops for mother - blouses and shirts mainly. Hope some of them work and aren't ruined by the laundry. It's a hit and miss process. I found nice silk blouses she would have loved, but they would get ruined. I got a couple of adaptive tops for her too.

Take care all.
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Where is Dori? I’m worried about her and her mother.
I had a big surprise last night. My son and three grandchildren showed up from CA. They drove. I` never expected them. We’ve had a good day. They’re going to stay for awhile. 
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