
Many of us, myself included, come from a dysfunctional family which adds a lot of weight to the challenges of caregiving. I have read stores on various threads on other topics and decided it would be good to have a thread just for this topic for people to share, vent and discuss.
The idea for this thread originated on the thread named "The Caregiver....How are YOU doing today?"
For Dori:
Hello Muddah, hello Fadduh,
Here I am at Camp Grenada
Camp is very entertaining
and they say we'll have some fun if it stops raining.
I went hiking with Joe Spivy
He developed poison ivy
You remember Leonard Skinner
He got ptomaine poisoning last night after dinner.
All the counselors hate the waiters
And the lake has alligators
And the head coach wants no sissies
So he reads to us from something called Ulysses.
Now I don't want this should scare ya
But my bunkmate has malaria
You remember Jeffrey Hardy
They're about to organize a searching party.
Take me home, oh muddah fadduh, take me home, I hate Grenada
Don't leave me out in the forest where I might get eaten by a bear.
Take me home, I promise I will not make noise or mess the house with
other boys, oh please don't make me stay, I've been here one whole day.
Dearest fadduh, darling muddah,
How's my precious little bruddah?
Let me come home if ya miss me
I will even let Aunt Bertha hug and kiss me.
Wait a minute, it stopped hailing,
Guys are swimming, guys are sailing,
Playing baseball, gee that's better,
Muddah Fadduh please disregard this letter.
ALLAN SHERMAN
Meeting contractor for coffee in the morning, decide what doors I want moved in the master bedroom area.
And a couple of pocket doors. Saves wall space.
susan - I LOVE that Allan Sherman - it goes back many many years. Thank you!!!
sharyn (((((hugs)))) such a difficult time for the whole family. A little counselling might be helpful. There are so many unanswerable questions with suicide. We went through it with ex's sister.
glad - wow -things are moving!!!! Choices, choices!!!
dori -hope you are doing very well and enjoying your break. Don't use it to house clean!!!
becky - when I had renos done they put several new doors in the wrong way so the light switches weren't handy. I caught one and made them redo it. One other one I replaced with the renos after the fire, and the garage and front door are still the wrong way around. I actually prefer the front door this way as it opens into the living room. The garage door is still a nuisance.
Going cross eyed here looking for summer tops for mother online . I finally found some and a couple of adaptive ones. Hope they work. At last we got decent rain and the shrub roses in back are in full bloom.
Gotta hit the hay! Nite all.
Golden, I hope you’re feeling better. Thanks for the hug. Yes there are too many unanswered questions. I know I’ll get through this with time. I will keep a check on my other niece. She and her sister were inseparable, and checking on my sister too.
Golden... not sure what size your mother is but if she is plus size check out the site for Cato's.. cute clothes for all ages (they do plus and regular size) and decent prices. For gently used I have been looking at Thread Up though I have not tried them before. I am plus size and went to scrubs (yep like the nurses wear) as they are comfortable, easy to clean, dry fast if they get wet when I help my honey shower and are cute and they are reasonable price. We buy our scrubs (nope we are not nurses or in med field) from Allheart.com. Just some ideas. Hope they help.
Sharyn...so glad you are hanging in there. It is good to keep an eye out for any signs, but please don't forget to take care of yourself as well. Please keep us posted on how you are doing.
Have a great weekend.
sharyn it takes time to get your balance back. Hope your niece and sis are getting some counselling. Take it easy.
Dusti - thx for the info. Mother is not a plus size We are in Canada and I am a distance caregiver, so I shop online for her mostly. Unfortunately, Cato does not ship here, but thred up does normally, though not at the moment. I saw some nice tops on thred up so hoping they will be back to shipping here soon.Their price and choices are great. Mother is 106 and in a wheel chair so I have bought some adaptive tops too, but the choices are very limited. Hope things are good for you.
My "non existent" ovarian cyst really acted up yesterday. I am going to have to track it on a calendar again and then see my dr and ask to see an obgyn and to have an ultrasound when it is acting up. I would also like to have a hormone profile.When they did the last ultrasound it was quiet and showed nothing which didn't surprise me. It is a darn nuisance when it acts up. I got some Dong Quai and will start it today. Wil.df yam cream might help too.
Thank you Dusti. I’ll found out Tuesday on my blood work whether the metformin is bringing my blood sugar too low or if I have a thyroid issue. I doubt my kidneys are a problem as they were fine with blood work in April.
Take care everyone.
I just got to where he lives after an 8 hour drive.
This has been a sudden change for all I heard recently before is how good he has been doing.
You've been such a rock for your wife’s difficult family issues. Yet you might find that you need a whole new script and a whole new playbook for your current journey.
Keep us posted. You have been supportive to so many on this forum. We’d be honored to return the favor.
Blood work is normal except I have a UTI. Most likely been lingering for a while. My weight is down dramatically, most likely from metformin.
My dad evidently did not make plans for his funeral. All we know is that he wanted an Irish funeral. However, he has outlived his friends and all but one of his siblings who is 10 years younger. I pointed out that his brother plus nephews and nieces will like like to come to his memorial service. Most of them live a day or two drive away and some will want to come,I am sure. Some of my cousins on my mothers side of the family knew him and might want to come also.
This afternoon I have to go to the hospital nutritionist. I missed my appointment last month. I hope she has some new recipes for me to try. Diabetic and kidney disease diet gets boring.
cmag - wondering how your dad is doing
peace bear - you gotta do what you gotta do. How terrible for your sis to get physical with your mum.
book - not telling them didn't cause trouble did it?
becky - in some ways it is good to get it all over and done with. You have great support.
Doriiiiiiii... where are you???? How is your mum? How are you???
Finally had a couple of good days, but back with the fm again today. Planning to drive south tomorrow if I can, so R and I can go to the mountains. The weather there will be cool but it will be nice anyway. Finally got my new lenses in. They are not as good as I hoped but better than before. I think my eyes have changed again, so I will get them checked sooner than I usually do.
Spent many hours online finding high neck long sleeved summer tops for mother - blouses and shirts mainly. Hope some of them work and aren't ruined by the laundry. It's a hit and miss process. I found nice silk blouses she would have loved, but they would get ruined. I got a couple of adaptive tops for her too.
Take care all.
I had a big surprise last night. My son and three grandchildren showed up from CA. They drove. I` never expected them. We’ve had a good day. They’re going to stay for awhile.