The Caregiver & Dysfunctional Families: How are you doing?

Terrible, fiery crash west of Denver tonight. Twelve cars, three semis, multiple fatalities. Semi evidently had some sort of malfunction. Just frightening to see the images. I-70 to be closed for awhile while damage to road and bridge evaluated and necessary repairs made. Hoping the best for all.

A guy was filming for his youtube channel, "burgerplanet" caught the start of it. Semi on shoulder going 70-80 mph in bumper to bumper traffic. Awful.

I made a request to my company and to APS for help with hostility in the home among other things. APS made a visit. After speaking with mom and sister, the APS person shook their head and said I really don’t want to make a report. I didn’t ask why. Then the rest of us were interviewed. So don’t know if, in the end, any of it will be helpful.

Carried mom extra supplies. Once there I checked meds and saw dads were all wrong. I am 100% percent sure that he had attempted himself. He asked was I going to do his med setup. I did not volunteer and asked if he wanted help. He said yes and so it was. Then as the day went on he came and hugged me saying he was sorry to have blown up on me. I didn’t check mom meds because I didn’t want to say anything to sister after she spilled guts to APS. Tomorrow will have to check because Saturday is last day.

Got a jump on tomorrow. Got my beginner smoothies made (ha, ha).

By the time everything was finished, my doctor called and said my thyroid biopsy and the biopsy on the cluster of nodules behind ear were also benign. I had no idea these nodules were bothering my hearing. I always thought it was wax buildup. Now I see it was not.

Have a blessed night everyone!

I always use a riding crop if I walk out of my property, even if it's just me. I understand wasp spray does a good job too, and 25 foot reach!

Pam-
This situation sounds horrible!
Due to GA being a one free bite state, there are no protections from the dangerous dogs if they have not yet killed, and proved to be the killers of somebody’s pet, livestock, or a person.
I have been researching what I can do in this situation, where Pit owners also love their freedoms, but we’ve already been charged by their dangerous, intact male dogs. I am not allowed to shoot a menacing dog not in the act of biting, if you can imagine that. However, I’m beefing up my arsenal for the day one of these Pits revisits us, which they will. They know the cats and small dog are here.
I will be wearing a cross body bag when outdoors. It will include gun, tactical knife (under 12 inches blade permissible in my state, on my property, no permit needed), bear and pepper sprays, cell phone for camera use, break stick. I can probably wear that much weight while having my oxygen backpack on. My cane is being swapped out for a Zap Cane, when in my yard. Also perfectly legal in my state, with exception of a few places where not allowed, like government offices, schools. It is basically a stun gun in a cane. And, I’ve learned the best non-lethal way to stop an attacking dog is shoot a fire extinguisher right in its face. Will not cause damage, will buy you 3-5 minutes to get away, won’t get you arrested for animal cruelty. I can lift the small 5-pound fire extinguishers, have one in my kitchen. It’s not a bad idea to have more than one anyhow, especially if smaller size. I’m going to put one in my carport laundry room, one in my screened porch, and one in the garage. All for fire safety, but also for easy access to repel these nasty beasts.
Lest anybody think it’s cruel, we’ve decided it’s cruel for these people to own and inflict their aggressive animals on us, refusing to keep them confined, despite leash laws here. Under owner’s control is no longer the law here. They must be on leash if off your property. Law doesn’t care whether the dog jumped fence, gate not latched, fence broken, dog went over or under. We own pets ourselves, but enough is enough.
Suggest get small backpack for your walks, maybe type to carry oxygen cylinder, put small fire extinguisher in it, so you can continue walking your dogs. If allowed to carry knife, visibly, let the dog owner see you in your canine swat gear. Lol. Ask them what company they have their liability insurance with, so when you get bitten, your lawyer can quickly file the lawsuit. Sorry, but we’re taking off the gloves here.

Girlsailor, we have a similar situation going on at our river house. Our neighbor had chickens in a little set up in his yard. The neighbor next to him is a renter with 2 big dogs, chained outside all day,barking and getting loose. They jumped his chicken enclosure several times, killed a bird or two. Owner of rental is also a neighbor, dislikes chicken owner.. He then fences a big part of his yard for the birds (4 poor chickens), and the dang dogs took out the fence and killed them all. He is not wanting to call animal control because he lets his little 10 lb dog run around outside. WTH !! That puppers never bothers anyone.. two rotty/pit bull mixes are a whole nother story. Now DD and I are worried about taking our tiny puppers to the vacay home. We always have them on leashes, but dogs like that will attack a dog on a leash. I told hubs if I get threatened and or my dogs get hurt AC will be called so fast it wont be funny, and I will sue for damages. ( and I will, my neighbor shot my cat in my yard because he thought it "was a groundhog", and he paid 900 for vet bills) And what the heck are two people in a tiny house in west by god virginia doing that they need two guard dogs? Inquiring minds want to know? They never interact with them or play with them.

Dads up to his tricks again. So a while ago he told me he was going to Mexico with his lady friend. OK, he has no money but OK, he said it was all paid for and it wasn't and he had to pay his half when he got back. Lesson learned or so I thought.
Before Easter he kept asking what time dinner was. We told him in the afternoon with our daughter and fiance. We all go to church and he tells me he is delivering flowers in the afternoon. Our daughter is friends with the daughter of his lady friend and in church she tells me he is going to her house for dinner. OK, I kind of knew something was up when he put a bottle of wine in his cooler in his car in the AM. At the end of church I ask when he is doing "I'm going to deliver flowers"... later my daughter gets a call and we tell him just to stay and have dinner with them. It wasnt the dinner with the lady friend I was torked about it was the out right lying to me.... and in church!
So put that aside and this AM he tells me he was asked by his lady friend to go with her to a funeral in Michigan...... about a 20 hour drive each way (they are in their 80s) and going through Canada...... So I ask "you have money?"... "Oh she will cover the costs".... "OK you are a big boy". Then he says they are going to stop at my sisters on the way.... that is when I kind of almost lost it. "No I said, my personal opinion, absolutely not".... He went on and on then I let him have it about lying to me in front of my daughter and in church of all places.
So while this all seems trivial let me give the background on this lady he does not know. I know her from before dad moved in. She was married ot an older gentlemen in town who was widowed. Long story short, she moved in and they got married. They traveld all over to Europe and the US. She kept telling everyone oshe was financialy OK her late husband was a preacher. Fast forward the gentleman dies and our organization managed the funeral with the family. She tells his kids she can stay in the house the rest of her life but the gentleman never put it in writing so the kids kicked her out. Apparenlty she was using his money, albeit he was happy his last years. We all felt bad, she moved in with her daughter. Then I get a phone call from my financial planner and he asks me all these questions about this lady as he knows I know her. Turns out she latched on to his elderly father and was trying to get him to marry her and put her on his deed! I cant make this up. Needless to say he would not do it so she left.
Aparently she has latched on to others trying to secure a place to live. this is a very church going nice lady. So I have made sure my daughter tells her daughter my dad has no money.
I wont tell my dad about her track record as I am glad he has a friend to hang out with. My big issue is she weaves her way into families and places. She is already trying to secure a spot in our daughters wedding (same church). My daughter is very protective of her grandfather and I have told her what is going on. So I will have to call my sister and tell her what is going on. My big issues is he is going to parade this lady in front of the family. Am I wrong to be this way? I have to tell him not to sign anything with this lady. I think my sister will understand as she had a similar situation with her in laws. Dad is in la la land because someong is spending time with him but I know this black widow...... too strong? He has no funds and this is my house so she will not be stepping over my threshold ever.

Duck, everyone got underwithheld this year. The IRS changed its withholding tables at the time the new tax law went into effect.

Go to IRS.gov and download and print out a w-4 form. Fill it out and send it to your boss. That's how you change your withholding. There are instructions on how to figure out how much you should have taken out.

Do you use Turbo Tax or Tax Act? They are pretty simple and might be free if you qualify.

https://www.bankrate.com/finance/taxes/adjust-withholding.aspx

Glad, good you are seeing a doctor. Sounds like you will have a good report when its all said and done if you went so long without having to address anything. This insurance thing is crazy. Wish I had known about the care giver exemption. My job has me pissed on a lot of levels. I ended up owe again after they stopped taxing the salary for about a month and then started giving us an extra $2 and hour but not taxing it so we got two form. The boss acts like he cant understand my request to take taxes out or why is it not taxed. wants me to come in another 2hour ride. Told another nurse same thing but she has a problem that she didnt make that much money. Anyways I do tend to go off on a tangent. But it another thing that bothers me as I am already in debt to my neck with taxes. I hope I can get someone good and pay to have them done next year.

Well so much for that. Have a lovely week everyone.

Hi all, I will be off for a few. Remember how I was in a good place. This morning I am back to that saddness but like before I am going to fight it with prayer. This whole situation really is sad and stressful, frustrating. I dont know where the road is going to lead. I just know my mother deserves better. and I do too. I came home and my mother is bangin on window in the shed then in the livingroom talking to an illusion. Demanding I open the door. I have to be really carefully and mindful now about checking the door. She is ready to get out!!!

At least she ate well today. I didnt have to spoon feed her so I left for work a little early and it felt good to not have to rush. I am always a hyped fast walker but today I cruised and it felt good.

I hope you all have a wonderful rest of the week and weekend.

Smile, Smile think of an endearing sweet moment in your life that tickeled you and showed you how you love or how you welcomed love. Then SMILE!!

Be good to yourselves. Rays of love and healing to all.

Duck, wonderful that APS seems to be making some changes happen for the betterment of your mom, and to you too.

Sharyn, again, just great about your bro. That was a very long haul. Does he even remember the early parts of it?

Answry, sibs that just confuse the situation. They don't know what to do so they do what you have done already. And you really never know maybe something does worsen. Not having daily contact with with all caregivers, which would be virtually impossible, makes everything more difficult for everyone.

Welp, I see a doc tomorrow just a yearly deal, got my previous doc records and have not seen a doc since 2011, coincidentally or not, the year I started caring for mom. Did not have health insurance. Never got dinged by IRS for not having it, caregivers are exempt from insurance requirement. Seems backward to me there should be a government plan to keep these caregivers healthy because of the work they are doing. Free or very cheap care for the sick.

My previous doc was watching thyroid, skin, lungs, colon, osteopenia, what else? Was to follow up with everything, just could not do it. But, I suppose everything is ok since I have not been experiencing any difficulties at all. Healthy genes I guess. Mom the hypochondriac, tried to teach me other things.

Not looking at all forward to it, but I am at an age, I need to have a doc. Must get a lawyer on my to do list to take care of all of those documents that we all need in place.

Hey did you all see on the news about a german shepherd lost for two years, found and returned to family in Florida, 2,000 miles away. Unbelievable! Just one of those happy tidbits.

sharyn - going to a gym together would be good

Nicki - doing nothing is better than interfering and causing trouble, I think.

siss - staying away for a while and curtailing phone calls sounds good to me. Has your mum been assessed for dementia and/or mental illness?

duck - sounds like things are moving, if slowly

Thx ali - I am definitely in a strange state. I have been leaving it. I guess I need to leave it a bit longer.

answry -welcome - what a frustrating situation to have your sis working at odds with what you are doing. Do either of you have POA? At least your mum is fairly OK - nothing has gotten worse. I am going to guess that you have had similar interaction with you sis in the past. Can you detach some?

girlsaylor - Hope animal control can help. Those animals sound dangerous. Glad your hubs is OK. Don't overdo it.

So enjoying the sunny cool days!

Wow, you have all been busy trying to fit in some self care between the caretaking urgencies. I applaud you all!
Nothing big going on here, a good thing. I recently had a third dog run-in here. All different dogs, different owners, no license, tags, roaming intact male Pitbulls. All jumped my backyard fence,trying to claw through my screen porch when I was out sitting, kitties enjoying beautiful weather. Owners found all three times. One of my cats has developed poor litter box habits, and I’m physically not able to keep up with carpet cleaning. Screen porch is their home, with lots of spots to perch, climb, tile floor, very pleasant. So, now I’m faced with fifteen feet of ripped screen, have to bring in screen man again, hundred bucks at a pop. Second time, less than a year, two different irresponsible dog owners. I’m exhausted trying to get these dogs back to their owners, only to have them letting these roaming, destructive dogs out into their own yards with broken fences. Am in contact with Animal Control about it, but fully expecting a mauling or killing episode, me, a kitty, my little dog...horrific situation. Taking steps for protection, a bit at a time. Fire extinguishers, dog repellant spray, tactical knife, looking at security cameras, looking at buying a gun. They aren’t going to stop. Hope you guys don’t read about me in the news.
Hubs doing okay. I did some yard cleanup today, cutting up fallen branches, trimmed back some shrubs. More to do. Tomorrow I get to have my hair roots touched up, lol. That’s the best treat!

answry, so sorry you are sad. It's annoying isn't it when you do everything and then someone who thinks they know better comes in and ruins it all with their ignorance. I tried to delegate when my mom was still alive. Give siblings tasks that they couldn't screw up no matter how hard they tried. Then they felt like they were doing something instead of jumping in and wrecking everything. That usually tided them over for a while and then I could deal with the important things.

I'm a mess right now. I’m so sad, I’m so sad, I’m so sad. I’m not sleeping and when I do manage to fall asleep, I hate waking up. I feel so helpless.

My sister has taken mom to the doctor 3 additional times for an injury that I told her was just a deeply rooted bruise from her back-to-back falls. I had already taken her twice for this injury. So Friday when I left mom was doing good considering. I was to go back Sat or Sun to check on her again.

Instead I get a call from dad Sat. morning saying that sister says mom is really bad off and look like a bone is coming through her skin where the bruise is among other things. So after he was stating how bad of a condition she was in, I asked him to please tell her for them not to try and move her and that I called for an ambulance.

I make it to the hospital, over an hour away, to hear the ER doctor talk about that same old bruise and to take mom home and apply ice. I was relieved and floored. From there I had nothing to say to sister and not much to say to dad.

However, he called himself upset that I was not talking to sister and would not let it go. It got really bad and we had face to face words.

And this silly sister of mine tore up the tub grab bar that my mom uses to help get off the toilet and replaced it with her walker. I keep warning them this is not safe.

This is how I'm feeling days later.

Oh, Golden. Big (((((hugs))))). I know what you're talking about, being psychologically, emotionally, mentally DONE with the work involved of taking care of your parent's stuff. Does the work have to be done by any certain time/day? Leave it for a bit, if you can. Read your novels, do your self care, and come back to the work when you feel better.

Sharyn, I am so happy for you and your brother!

StaceyB, thanks, please keep posting the new move is uplifting, happy for you and your husband. And yes it sucks getting old!! I am going to try and do it gracefully even if its with a limp. Its also nice moving towards elder level. lol.

Golden, glad to hear you are feeling a little better. I agree a little fiction, maybe a lovely bubble bath. Or a binge on a good tv series. (cyberflix, showbox). Since I got SB I only read traveling to and from work. But curling up with a good book is like heaven.

You have been through so much over the years. Spoil yourself.

I have a lot to look forward to with the APS. I just hope to keep my anxiety level down. I know there will be increased bitterness and possible retaliation from my sister. My nephew seems to be stepping up his game. I heard my mother talking to him in the hall when he came in while I was between snoozes. My mother ate all he left and he swept and did a small clean. Again he brings in the mail. Found my mail in my mother's lap. Lucky I was able to get it. I dont understand how he cannot see why he should leave the mail outside the door. I know he is or at least I see him doing it as a nice gesture. Yesterday when I left I was pissed off seeing cat hair tuffs in the halls and on my mothers bed. I wanted to make a big sign saying clean up behind your cat and please leave my mail in gate. I mean if the cat throws up, what ever it just stays. Its sad. The halls really get to me sometimes. Maybe with the help of a home aid I will eventually feel okay with mopping them once in a while. Its sad and a shame.

Siss, I feel so sad for you. Your mom is obviously manipulating you, and you know it. I was in the same boat actually still same boat but a different body of water now.

Anyways, I would seek help for her and get some for yourself, conseling or therapy, she is going to get worse eventually and it will be that much harder. The support here is awesome. Sometimes I dont think a lot of the posters realize how much their sharring and posting and their advice affects others lives in a very positive way. So stay on board, Sis. Keep posting.

Rays of love and light to all.

Well I ended up going to Mom's this weekend. Nasty drive in the rain all the way; I was tired before I got there. I sat down for maybe 10 minutes, and I got a stern look, and she said well there's work to be done! Ok, fine. I trudged out in the rain to my car to get my cleaning supplies. I cleaned the house, made meals, cleaned up, did a pedicure, you name it. So then, I was like oh are you going to shower, because we have to be up tomorrow (Easter) at the crack of dawn. Explosion. Well we have to go early otherwise for "us" to make the dinner, it'd run too late! She kept delaying taking a shower (I think just to irritate me). I had been waiting to help her put up her hair in curlers. She said oh go ahead to bed! I can do it by myself. I'm alone all the time, you did this to me! And she went on with how dare I live by myself, I was selfish, never discussed her living with me, etc. I said well come on and live with me, but I will be under psych care within a month, ready for the rubber room. She kept going on, didn't hear half of what I said. I just went to bed finally while she was ok, but then would cry loudly as she walked by my closed door. If she thought I could hear her, the sobbing would commence, almost like a baby who cries, but you know it's just for attention. Next day, I was up and ready for Easter services at the crack of dawn. Made the dinner, no help from anyone. Not one word from my brother. He's having some dental procedure in the upcoming weeks, so she said he was probably worrying about that. It's a routine procedure. And then the p/a dig, such a shame because he's so religious about keeping up HIS teeth. From the person who didn't get corrective dental work for me - not just that my teeth were crooked but I had TMJ and horrible headaches. I finally packed up everything, and when I got home finally, my phone is ringing in my purse as I walked in my door. Mom calling asking where I was, I was late!
Uh, traffic? You didn't stop anywhere? No, but honestly, what if I did?
She went into a dark mood, oh she was crying as I left, all alone and forsaken.
Called her this evening. I tried to stay cheerful, and her first words were, oh YOU had a good day, I did NOT. She wet the bed again. She doesn't wear heavy enough incontinence pads, doesn't modify drinking, and removed the 'pee pads' for the bed as they were too hot! I had gotten her a waterproof mattress pad, because over Christmas the mattress got damp. She was half moody as the call ended. She then had to call me back, all angry, telling me about the mattress pad. It got wet! I'd put the old pad on top of the new pad. I said the old one was on top. Yes, but the new one got wet. Of course it'd get wet if enough pee was present. I asked did the mattress get wet? No. But the mattress pad was wet! I said yes, well it would if you peed enough. It's meant to protect the mattress, not that it won't get wet. I told her to throw it out if she wanted. She went radio silent, and my phone's mute button was put into use (again). She finally just hung up on me. She also had an incident where she kept saying she had to go to the bathroom, for at least 30 minutes, and I said well go now...….
She waited, and said as she walked by, oh I can feel it running down my leg. So maybe go when you first feel the urge? I think it's almost a way of her saying, see I can't be by myself. She's also convinced a neighbor way across the way, is up to no good. He's got a bright overhead light. No it's not a ceiling light! He only turns it on when my blinds are open. When I shut my blinds, he turns off his light. I can see it perfectly. Overhead light with one of those newer bulbs, bluish tint, very bright. She says it shines right into her window. Nope, not even close. She then says see, I shouldn't be living alone. It's all my fault, naturally.
I'm going to try to stay away for a good while, and keep the phone calls brief.

Sharyn, GREAT!

Thank you Sharyn, I'll bet your new home is all set up beautifully and your gardens are blooming, I know you enjoy your gardening! So happy for your brother, that's amazing!

Gershun, sorry to hear about your brother, very sad indeed, however do not give up hope, modern medicine works wonders these days and the power of prayer too! I will keep him in my prayers, its OK to feel sad, but do try to keep your spirits up too!

Hey Golden thanks! Forgot to mention. Have a brother that helps with nothing. Lives with us and comes and goes as he pleases. Usually, there's one in every family. That's the only issue lol.

stacey, I’m so happy for you and your hubby. This has been a long time coming for you two. It’s so much fun and exciting to put together a new home to love and enjoy, new memories to make too!

Yes Golden, we are all thrilled he is home. He is still using a walker, but the trach is out. They may join a gym and work out together slowly.

Yes work has has been unbelievable with the stories this guy comes up with to get out of work. Once he is dismissed, he will go to jail for 14 days. We have given every chance and much feedback to improve.

Yea Sharyn, that is great news about your brother! I hope he continues to improve until he is back to his old self!

Golden, Yes I Did It, finally! Lol! We are now completely out of my Sister's MIL apartment and into our new home, and we Love it! New couches were delivered today and the new carpet is being installed on the 3rd.

Next up, painting all around and put up there new curtains I bought off of EBay, and I am thrilled with them, so pretty!

We still have lots more stuff to come out of storage, like all of the rest of my furniture, but we are holding back until after carpet is in. Still plenty to unpack and put away, so no rest for the wicked! I am glad to hear that you are getting better sleep, as that is one thing I struggle with too.

I have recently begun taking Meloxicam for Arthritis pain and Wow does it ever work great for me! I only wish that I had started it years ago. 6 weeks on it now, and not 1 Tylenol or Ibuprofen, it's Awesome, and my pain is so much improved!

I hope you are feeling and doing well, and that the cold Winter weather is behind you. Spring is definitely blooming here, and we are excited about planning and planting in our new gardens. And Wow, is it ever Quiet here too!

DDuck, hoping that everything works out, and you get the services and support set up for your Mom and you too! Sorry that you are dealing with stress and aches and pains, I've got plenty of those myself. It sucks getting old!

Love to everyone! Stacey

Welcome Nicky and well done! Sounds like you have all your ducks in a row so I am wondering where the dysfunctional family comes in.

sharyn - that is so great! All of you and especially his immediate family must be delighted. Glad your work situation is going to improve. Nice to hear from you. I have been wondering how you are.

Barb - how's your husband?

I am done with fixing my computer for a while. Found another program that had to be reinstalled, then removed and replaced with an older version which works. I think the soft wear is OK now, but another port quit, and I don't do hardware repairs. Been looking for a replacement and put a bid on ebay for an older Asus for $20.00 Lol We'll see.

A little more melatonin at night definitely improved my sleep, but the morning "groggies" were still there. However, more sleep and less pain is good.

I find I am psychologically "done" with looking after mother's stuff, but, unfortunately, it is not done. It guess it will get done eventually. The last few years have worn me out. Thankful to still be able to do what I can. Maybe it is time to read some fiction -an easy way to escape for a bit.

Thanks Barb, it is such a relief after 8 months in the hospital. Thank goodness my sister in law is a fighter with advocating on my brothers behalf.

Sharyn, that is SUCH great news about your brother!

I hope everyone had a decent Easter. I worked a long shift yesterday. It’s neen rather stressful as we have a 41 yr d who is useless. I dislike using that word but he is only working to satisfy his probation. He will be getting dismissed on a week or two after our new hire is trained.

My brother came home today! Great news and I’m so happy for him.

I'm doing well thanks. 34 year old man taking care of a widowed fully paralyzed father for the last 8 years. Been through a few serious relationships ending because of my predicament and the fact that I put my father over everything else in my life. I've learned so much along my journey. I can proudly say I'm an unofficial nurse, home health aide, financial manager, doctor, etc... for my dad. I poured my heart and soul into him, learning EVERYTHING I needed to in order to be the best support possible. I finally found a girlfriend that appreciates who I am and what I do for my family. My social life is practically nonexistent but who cares? I have my father, my gf, and a few close friends that have had my back since day 1. The rest have disappeared, but they can kick rocks. Did me a favor, as they weren't great friends/family to begin with. I also work 2 jobs from home while caring for him. I've had to quit prestigious jobs when caregivers would unexpectedly quit on us and I had ZERO support in place other than myself. Life is a constant battle but I've refused to lose. My next step is to start a support group in my location to educate others in my role and help give them hope. Best of luck to everyone! Please let me know if you have any questions. I'd love to help in anyway I can!

An acquaintance takes it and when her dose was doubled she says she felt good and had so much energy.

Anyway my good spirits prevail, and I feel a tad happier than I have for a long time. I stay in prayer and I am somewhat nervous about the outcomes of this Aps situation. If twisted and son dont respond its going to go to a serious level.

Well anyways I did a small attempt at an Easter Dinneryesterday. I made some collard greens with pig tail and neck bones. Now when it was all done I had them out in a bowl to make room for the next thing to cook in crock pot. you should have seen my mother fix her plate.! it was funny and I was real glad to see her enjoying her food and eating on her own. I was trying to tell her everything was not ready but it was useless. So she had that with some ribs and last I made some chicken Parmesan my version which she also enjoyed.
Its so very difficult and to cook one thing at a time but I love lthat crock pot express. Usually I get to watch my favorite shows but without the remote I could not get into on-demand.

Anyways, I hope you all had a lovely day.

Rays of love and light. Smile, Smile Smile!!!

Happy Easter Everyone!

Lots of memories flared today as I saw a few kids all dolled up.
Easter came so quick. I used to buy my oldest grand a nice dress and shoes and the sides. Now with I forget, but even if I didn't its kinda hard to deck out three girls. :) Plus its hard to find the stores, everything is changing and closing down around here for the high-end stores.

Gershun, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your brother. Take care of yourself and your blood pressure.

Becky, Thanks.

Golden, all went well. The doctor came to evaluate my mother. He said he could see how stressed I was. I hope I dont look that rough around the edges. But thats what stress does. Anyway he said to keep up the therapy and that the tears help us feel better as the help release certain transmitters in the brain. He asked a lot about family history, backgrounds jobs, children. Very thorough. I had to get a grip on my self and not get emotional but I just cant seem to get over how this family is and how the hell we got like this. Oh I know!# but I never thought we would get to this. Acutally every one is doing exactly what we always did. Anyways he told the APS Mr. G. that what ever way he goes he will support it. Mentioning guardian ship. I had a scare wed. when I got home. My mother was all cleaned up and I thought APS had got intouch with twisted and son but upon finally reaching Mr. G. he says he just left a message but has had not contact. Then later that afternoon I go out to store and hear the waterfall again. The basement is flooded again almost to the boiler and hotwater heater. As I am trying to find a neighbor to shut the water off (I got it now after two shocks) I see my sister come in. We come in right behind her and its like she didnt even walk through or check anything just went upstairs. APS cant help with that! unfortunately, but that is one of my worst issues. The cat is shedding, the halls are tracked with dirt and the house is falling apart. Its like no one has a clue about accountablility and I am just learning to let it go,

So I was very happy, hopefully the reign of sickness will be checked soon. So much needs to be done and I am honestly burnt and tired, At least a message from APS left with my nephew got them to bath her and change her clothes.
I tried to get her to let me wash her hair. She used to let me do it, but now she is very illusive with it. As the weather is getting nice she lingers at the door but I cant take her on my runs because she doesnt listen andI cant handle her. She chuckled when I let her know I was aware of how slick she was being trying to work a way out. When I tell her to come take a look out side she hesitates. Then later I peak out at her checking the door.

She loves counting changes and is very possessive of anything she puts her hand on including my purse or bags or clothees or laundry. I just ordered a new remote because I gave up the struggle to get it back, and then forgot about it. It will show up in a few months.

I am really hoping to find the time to do some real cleaning and got through her bags and stash. The mice are still coming in and staying and I just got put a possible ant invasion in check. I sprinkled red pepper where I see them come through so aged wood in front of bathroom and bought poison.

My pressure is up and down. The pain at the sole of my feet seems to be resolving. The groin pain is still there but better. Knees buckle up with pain if a turn a certain way or pivot on my feet or just move a certain way.

Golden, Ali, neurontin is supposed to be good for the brain. When l worked the traumatic brain injury unit just about everyone who came down from the icu's was on neurontin and a lot. Years later I was taking it for my Knee pain but it didnt seem to make a difference. Its supposed to be good for nerve pain. Anyway I think it had an issue and I stopped taking it but its still around.