The Caregiver & Dysfunctional Families: How are you doing?

Mil service was very nice, we had met with the minister the day before ( they remembered to invite us.. ) and she did a wonderful job. And of course as I knew he would FIL invited everyone to the meal after (not just the 13 SIL was sure we should reserve for). We had a better turnout than was expected, and about 25 for a very nice meal after. At least the rain was over and it got sunny, if windy.

That move was cheap and worth every penny. About 560 here, last two moves over 3,500

Hi everyone. I've been so busy being part of two memorial services for my dad that I have not been up to updating.

The Memorial Mass in Ohio went fine. My dad's God daughter did a wonderful eulogy. I did one also. We had more relatives at the service than at the family reunion in August. I would say that about half of his 49 nieces and nephews with their spouses and dad's only living sibling attended.

I stayed an extra day to spend time with my cousins. When I left on Monday to drive part way home, I cried all the way to the state line.

I have not read back over my previous posts to recall if I shared one thing that I learned about my dad that showed how much he loved me. My mom had him pay a financial bond as a promise to return me when he visited me every month which he did for 14 years. I don't know if the amount went up, but the starting cost was $5,000 which in today's money is over $41,000. So, that was a lot of money back then. He got the money back after each visit, but that was mean of my mom to do to both him and to me. I included this in his eulogy. My mother's sister in law told me about the bond which she and her husband did not like. They also did not like him having to spend Friday night in the hotel. So, they invited him to stay with them. He made a positive impression upon my oldest cousin. After the Maryland memorial service, I learned that the amount of the bond was $5,000.

I did not like the hospice chaplain very much at all. He had only known my dad since July when my dad went on hospice. Dad's Alzheimer's was to the point that he did not know who he was or anyone else. Yet, this chaplain claimed to have discussed my dad's faith with him. I think that he said that just to make the few who were there feel good. How can you discuss someone's faith if their mind is gone? Those who attended that service were mainly people who had been his caregivers over 4 years, relatives of his wife, and a few people still alive who had worked with him, been hired by him or with whom he played tennis or golf.

Overall, I found the Mass in Ohio more comforting.

My wife's knee surgery finally got planned for November the 9th and has been moved up to the 6th. Her identical twin sister was here while I was gone to both memorial services. In addition, she did a lot of nice things to the house as well. My wife's sorority sister from college now lives nearby and came to help while my wife waited for her sister to come. She has offered to help us during the post surgery time.

I am seeing an orthopedist on November 13th from what two of my cousins tell me is a frozen left shoulder. They experienced one and my symptoms sound like theirs.

Unfortunately, the stress of the last three months killed my diet. I've gained my weight back and my blood sugar went higher than before. I'm adjusting to giving myself insulin shots at bedtime.

Bye for now.

ali - hope you are getting on top of things, Fatigue, it is a b*tch.

duck (((((((hugs)))) Good to see you making better choices. Keep moving in a good direction for you.

stacey - Wow, just wow. Things happened so quickly! So happy for you.

glad -so happy for you too How exciting!

Tired and achy after the trip. Snow just arrived. Will see mother today or tomorrow then back home asap. I am ready to hibernate for the winter. Thinking about the early pioneers who stocked up on supplies that would keep, and managed through the winter without grocery shopping - beans and rice! What did they use for toilet paper? That's a rhetorical question.

Have a good day, all.

Yes, the purchase offer on our home is all signed sealed and delivered. Next up is the inspection this coming Saturday and then we wait to make sure there are no serious repair issues to deal with or haggle over, Uggg! My husband is one who fusses over every little detail until they pass, usually with no apparent issues, then it's on to the next thing to worry about, Lol! I On the other hand, I have no worries that everything is going to work out just Fine, but he is driving me crazy! The house Sold in under a week ffs, give me a break for a minute to enjoy our great news! He is a very hard worker, or else I'd Brain him!

I'm now searching furiously to find a Condo, and there have been quite a few that I have liked come available in the past few months, so not too overly worried there either, we will probably live with our Dd & SIL for a little while until just the right one comes up. They are both excited to have us stay with them over the holidays, well we will see how much they really mean that After a week or 2 with Ole Grumpy, especially since he talks non-stop through every television program, Lol!

Thanks for all of your well wishes! Your the Best!

Glad, I know the excitement you are feeling! I’m so happy for you. Hopefully amazon will deliver it tomorrow or Saturday!

Sharyn, so exciting. Movers tomorrow. Last night in this house. Went to my new house this morning to put in shelf paper. Wouldn't you know, the best laid plans, I did not order any 20" x 24' paper. I thought I had but what I ended up with is two different lengths of 12" paper. Not Amazon's fault, but mine.😕 Well it is ordered now, there is a chance of delivery tomorrow, at the new house, since there is one of their shipping centers about 60 miles from here. But, I doubt it. Will slow down unpacking. Shuckserino.

Stacey, great news! You are getting closer to your new home. Enjoy the journey.

Glad, yay! When is moving day?

we are going to have our pergola covered so we can sit out on the patio when it rains ( makes taking the dogs out easier). It will be 8-10 weeks before they can start the work.

Stacey,
Congratulations!
Be sure to have a firm closing date, and that it does not say:
"At close of Escrow, or sooner".
My realtor showed up at 10 am on closing day and said I had to be out by noon.
I did not know it was closing day, and was happily packing.
And, all three toilets had to be low-flow. Surprise, a new law. Ever tried to pack, deal with plumbers, and move out in two hours?

I know your sale will be blessed, and no one deserves a new home like you and your hubs.

Congratulations Gladimhere!

Stace, Wonderful! Now what? Find something, but now you have something to work with.

Yes, closed today. Will go and place shelf paper tomorrow, take over bed linens, how is it that they multiply? Will toss them in the tubs until Friday. They will be easy to find to get the beds made. I will be exhausted.

Our house has been on the market since Thursday afternoon, and we got a full price offer today, all Cash and a 15 day close, Yikes! After they tried to low ball us ten thousand yesterday, We hit them back with 4500 over ask (well I did, and hubby wasn't happy and thought that I might have killed the deal, thankfully that didn't happen!), so we are happy with the offer and will probably accept if all of the terms are good, and sign the papers tonight with our Realtor, unless another offer comes in!

We also have a "looker" who has been by to see our house 5 times now, with different family members. I can tell by the urgency in their Realtor's voice every time she calls to show the house (and feedback from our agent too) that they are also very interested, so we might just have a multiple offer War on our hands, Yippee! It sure would be nice to get More than asking price on our home, especially since the market is cooling down at the moment, though according to all my research, the housing market is Still on a slow upswing in the Seattle market for 2019, but we'd rather be safe and SOLD, than Sorry, it's time for a New Adventure!

It's all So Scary and Exciting at the same time, as we've lived here for 23 years! The folks who brought the first offer, and who are coming back with the higher offer originally tried to give us a 4 hour window to accept or not, but as I said, we hit them back with 4500 over ask, and now their offering the full price, unless Hopefully these folks today give us an offer too! Fingers Crossed! Lol!

Glad, I'm So Excited for you, Closing today? Yea! Yes, you absolutely chose the Best lot to build your dream Home on, and now you will be Celebrating the Holidays in your Beautiful New Home, Congratulations! It is true, life does go on after the loss of our parents, and now we are both headed towards New and Exciting Adventures! I hope this gives you all hope for the future! I wish you the Very Best in your New Place, and don't forget to reserve me a room in the Spring time, when I come to Visit You! Lol! Cheers Love!

DDuck, so sorry your Mom's beloved pooch has passed away. Your Mom is going to need a little extra attention in the coming days, As wiith her Dementia, I'm sure it will be confusing for her for a while. As for you, try to stay out of the drama with your Twisted Sis, that whole Microwave thing is just too weird for words, I would leave it right where it is, if that's where she wants it! CooCoo for Cocoa Puffs!


I Hope you find a way to get out, and into your own place here soon, that house is toxic and causes you so much worry and pain. I also would be worried about your sister drugging your elderly Mother, that can't be good! Is there someone who you could report that to? Her Dr maybe? Too too much stress for you Dearie! Take Care!

Hoping Everyone is doing well, I think of you all often! Wish me Luck that we sell our house in the next couple of days!

PammyZ, so sorry to hear of the loss of your MIL. I hope it was peaceful and it doesn't bring on more family drama! You take care of you and your hubby now, ya hear? ❤❤❤

Duck, check online you may be able to find house papers on the clerk's website. Here it is county clerk. I guess you are a borough of New York. Never used that site to try to find legal documents.

Would things change if you find you are not on the deed? That would take much advance planning by mom for it to work.

Thank you for bearing with my long post.

Thank you for being here.

Thank you for listening, understanding and caring. It means so much.

They had a memorial in area where I work for people massacred in a synagogue in Pittsburgh,

Its so sad the ugliness in this world, in our lives.

I read a poster in a restaurant to the effect that we shouldnt worry how we are going to get through the storm. We should learn to dance in the rain.

It kind of rang true, because today I couldnt get a good sleep. I woke up early felt like doing nothing. Put on some Gospel music and started making my bed. Just as I was beginning to start yelping the songs which I love to do like a crazy bat I get into it like I recorded the songs I hear my sister come in early. I continuerd getting ready for work. singing. Inspired. thinking to put on daystar whenIget downstairs ans see who was on. When I get downstairs the microwave is in the middle of the floor again and my mother is knocked out. She ate the breakfast sandwich I bought her but left a hot roast beef sandwich wrapped on table. Along side of that was a macdonald breakfast tray untouched. I was singing when I came down but I was really singinfg as I took my shower and by the time i walked up the stairs I was on stage. It felt good, so good I was still singing when I walked out the door.

I am nervous and leary about where this road with my sister is going to lead. And how I find her knocked out certain times which is unusual and I am sure to my sisters benefit.

For a long time my mother tortured me, knocking on my door actually bamming and I would meet false accusation or something ugly when ever I got up and answered her. Or an urgent demand to investigate something from her dementia. While my sister layed upstairs with lights out in hall. My mother never bothered her for anything I was always her go too for every thing. so I stopped answering the bams and bangs and if I did I would direct her to my sister. Go up there and tell her for a change. so now its not persistant. It was hard at first but well worth it. but I truly suspects my sister sedates her so she does not have to be bothered with her.

I cant remeber if I posted that the chances of me getting a power of attorney or revoking the healthcare proxy is almost nil. I am still going to meet with lawyer next week about things anyway. And pick up copy of the deed when I get off because I was told if mine and my sister's names are not on deed the house will go to the state and this is how a lot of people lose there homes.

My main concern is to get the proper care for my mother. she is really going to go ballistic with no companion. Prince was her partner and company. So I will see what I can do leagally and then find the heart and wisdom to leave it alone if my hands are tied. I truely feel a lot of this is karma for my mother and my sister and for me for trying to fix everything.

The other sign in the store just came to mind. It said when you are at the end or your rope tie a knot and hang on tight. That is what I will be doing.

Many years ago I was driving behind a care and the license plate read, "Life is a beach and then you die." It cracked me up becuase it felt so true. Its not funny now but it still feels true. I just hope I find my place, and meet my spiritual destiny before I leave here and possibly? Just a little bit of justice after seeing see wrong run amuck most of the time.
I will be off line for a while, unless I set up my laptop which I only used the first week I got back home with it. I am going to find this humor thread and cheer up some.

Tomorrow is Halloween the day my father died. I miss him so much, Its been 37 years and it seems like yesterday sometimes.

Be good to yourselves.. smile

Bright rays of love and peace, healing and strength to all.

Dang that sibling stuff. Its so very sad and painful, and wrong.

Pamzi, sorry for your loss. My prayers and thoughts are with you. Take care of yourself.

Families! Pam, I am sorry for your loss.

Strange happenings today. A neighborhood where I thought about buying has a 25 acres property in their backyards. The owner of that property, when all the houses started going up, decided it an opportune time to build a shooting range on his property, aimed right at the next phase of this development. He wanted to buy all the lots, then found out the cost, and was not able to.

This has been an issue before with neighbors calling about the range. It is legal in the county to shoot on your own property, so nothing my department can do. And it is hunting season. We had to wait for an incident, a wayward bullet, to cause property damage, or something else, heaven forbid. It happened today, nobody injured but property damage. I am so glad I did not decide on this subdivision, I even thought specifically about that house! I did not decide on that subdivision, thank goodness.

AND closing IS tomorrow, in a much more civilized subdivision! Paved roads, sewer, water system, etc.... So excited, almost done packing!

Sorry to hear that Pam. Par for the course with BIL. What is next?

My MIL passed today, she started to go downhill this weekend, we were away at a wedding. BIL didn't call us until last night.. late..they had been informed in the morning, went in to see her.. no call to us.. So I took off today and hubs and I went in the am, and daughter before she went for work. Thank goodness we did. While we were there we noticed all the pictures of hubs and I were gone.. guess were lucky BIL left our daughters up! I asked BIL why they didn't call us in the morning.. he himhawed around.. Like hubs said.. guess he forgot he has a brother...

Thank you all so much for the support and advice.

Ali as usuall you put things in a nutshell. Keep fighting the good fight you give me hope.

Sharyn thanks glad you are feeling better.

seems that sinus thing is going around. Its been a while for me but the sinus pain was horrendous.

The heel pain gets betterk, then the knee just suddenly schreech pain with a simple movement every now and then, I have to freeze.

I think I really needed that gut renching cry I had. I boo hooed. I scared my self with the sounds that came out of me. I think I needed that. I think it was part of a break through accepting the possiblility of my mother passing on.

I know one thing, I had trepidation going in this morning followed by relief and gratefullness and a resove to try and take her out. To see life. autumn is here the weather is nice. Not terribly hot or cold. I think a regular walk might help her. she really needs a homeattendant who would be there to spend time with her and take her out. Prince was her companion. He was the bestest watch dog and she used to tell him to put on this or that sweater or sit in the chair. It was funny to watch sometimes. sometimes I had to tell her to leave him alone. I know she is going to miss him terribly. Maybe that was why she spoke like she did.

I appreciate all the advice. I am not giving up on life. But I feel so lost and lonely sometimes. even though i like to be alone. My ex is there with open arms but that is a done deal. It should have been this way a long time ago. Lots to say on that.

But this thing with my mother took me for a big loop. I know I have got to find a way to truly focus on myself and whats good for me and to stop holding on to false fake conceptions of what family is.

I went on line and apllied for more places. After I see the lawyer my next appointment in this center will be with the person who deals with housing. I sure hope she takes me on.

My cry spell was in a way another way of my mother pulling my strings. But anyway I have to make an effort to take her out for a walk now and then. I really dont have the patience and when I go places I am on a mission and cant imagine myself keeping focus on my mother while shopping and stuff. So I am going to make a point of taking her just for a walk around the block. I hope she does not act up. and fight to go somewhere.

In all this misery I see God working and I see karma working also. There is so much I need to do for myslelf.

I get a lot of motivation and hope in this forum. Sometimes I forget that all of us here have gone through a lot of pain. I just know that when I see and get reminded of those situtions it strentghens me to see how they turned out, how they survived the ugly and the sad and the pain.

I going to keep on fighting and stuggling till I get this right. Thanks amundo everyone. Rays of light and love and peace to you and us all.

Aww, (((Duck))). I'm so tired of life, too!!! 😂 😘 I think a lot of us are in some ways. Caregiving wears you down, plus all the stressors of daily life, and you have to find some good things for yourself to pull you up and out of possible depression (which is normal because things are HARD sometimes).

I'll share something with you and others here, for context. Today was the saddest day I've had in some time. No real reason for it, as things are going decently well in my life, but my emotional and mental resilience is very thin right now. I feel exhausted even though I'm sleeping a little extra the past couple of days.

Today, I was so frustrated with ALL OF IT, just LIFE stuff and mostly that despite my best efforts I remain the most tired person I know! ...so frustrated that I pulled my car over to the side of the road a couple of times (as I was driving around trying to get a permit sticker for my car, went to 2 wrong places before I found the 3rd right one...)...

Anyway, pulled the car over and had a good sob and just let it out. I'm TIRED. I'm tired of being tired!! I have everything else going for me in my life right now, but I'm too tired to enjoy it.

The aftermath of realizing how fragile I am right now is that I made 2 doctor's appointments to get blood levels tested, just to be on safe side, and also with new psych, just to see what they might have to say.

I'm also buying some psilocybin, and I will try some small amounts of that to see if it can help me. It helped me in the past... but it's difficult to come by.

I'm trying to say that I relate to feeling out of sorts because I feel like my body is stuck on that mode for far too many years now. But I believe in my right to TRY to find a better life for myself, so I work on it.

You need to do WHATEVER it takes, whatever Duck, that helps you to move up and on with your own life, not your mother's life, not anyone else's life. You cannot be a life preserver for anyone else if you haven't taken care of yourself, gotten yourself strong first.

Attaching yourself to your mother's interests at the detriment of your own is dysfunctional behavior, my dear. Please recognize that.

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Don't know if this is totally applicable. Please accept what does apply as kind advice in the spirit it was intended, and leave the rest. I was venting, too. Hugs.

Duck, you are experiencing a hard time. Grieving the loss of a your beloved pet and all the home issues. I hope you can take a needed day away for yourself. (((Hugs)))!

im finally starting to feel better after getting this nasty sinus infection I couldn’t eat for several days because I couldnt taste anything so I just had soup. Yesterday my boss gave me part of a kit kat candy bar, I could taste it! Wow, it tasted so good!

(((((((((duck))))))) sorry you are having such a hard time. Losing a pet is very hard and that is on top of the grieving you are doing for your family. That's a lot of pain. No one wants to lose a loved one, be it giving up on someone because they hurt you too much, or losing them to old age and disease. Tears can be good. Sometimes we have years of tears to release. Give yourself a break too and do something just for you. -a treat. Take care

I am not caught up. I checked out a joke thread last week which was fun but not too many posters yet. I am going to go online and try to find some salt free seasonings, reorder some that I like, focus on someti=hing I like to do.

Rays of love light and peace to all.

I dont want to lose my mother. I have been programmed so deep in my heart and my conscious by her. Which is why I have such poor skill of looking out for my self in so many ways. I know its a reality for her and for me. They say the minute we are born we start dying.
One of my cousins passeed away, then Sham, my cousin with the cancer is still stuggling. refussing morphine, refusing methadone. afraid of addiction and I sort of tore into her on that, she'd rather suffer in pain then be labeled an addict so to speak. Most addicts i know are some of the best and smartest people I know who just self medicated to stop their pain. I just hate the prejudice mounted on addiction. I hate prejudice period.

Being a child and sister of a narcissist I feel responsible to fix and make everything okay. I realize this. I realize I cant do it and have to stop thinking in that spirit.

I need to learn to let go. I am scared. I still have hope but I dont want my heart to hurt anymore.

Then I kept dreaming same people same senario. Sometimes, well most times my dreams have some truth to tell. Kept dreaming family and my grandmother kept visting us. Then dreamt someone dlivered flowers for my aunt who in the dream had just left. They were carnations in a basket. I callthem furneral flowers. So I call cousing with cancer. Asking her if my aunt was okay. Told her of dreams and hoping they didnt mean anything.

When I go down to get dressed for work and fix my mother her food. I greet her and she says Im going home. so i sitt in front of her and ask why and she says Im tired. I have never ever heard my mother express the word tired but once many years ago when she transferred my cleaning up behind her on me saying I am tired of cleaning up behind you. I was amazed and shocked. It was defintely the other way around only I wasnt tired, I felt it was my duty.

So I started crying, I couldnt help my self, even now as I post this that despartation comes back, I told her she couldnt leave me. What would I do withotut her, selfish unfair.

She said she was going home because she was tired. I gut cried the whole time I
heated up food, cut it up,showered, I came and hugged her and held on to her, she patted my back said she heard me and stop crying. The only other time I got affection from my mother is when I had saved money to buy a cake for my fathers last birthday. The muslim guy who lived upstairs told me about the bakery and I must have payed about 60 for this cake in the 80's. It was big enough for a party , almost covered the top of the freezer where I call my self hiding it from him. it wasnt for a party. Well in this house the freezer was in the shed and he opened freezer and cake slid behind it. When I saw it I ran up stairs boohooing and got that same pat on the back. I got to day.

My father knew when he was going. He would tell me day he goes in hospital he is not coming back. It happend. I had a friend who said you wont see me again as I was leaving. When I turned around he was looking as if he hadn't said anything and I wasn't there. My girlfriend who passed away before I went on my trip, Her son said she had had a seizure and while she was in hospital she told him she is going home, she is tired.

My mother says I am going home all the time. I have never heard her complain of feeling tire. She has always been a busy person in church on committee'. in school when we were young. Girl-scout leader, president of block association, and community board with the precinct. In her dementia she is always busy reading over something., checking something.

My goodness, I was a mess today. Im a mess now. I am thinking we got a lot more years, That it will be a gradual process. Each change in her dementia sends me out of whack and depressed so the thought of her going home has me in a really bad way.

I forgot to mention that I am so grateful to God, that I did not have the mentality or forethought to even think that smell was the dog. I am emotionally fragile, as i had mentioned in last post I felt I was not strong anymore and a friends says , yes you are just in a different way. I am glad I dont have that vision in my memory I would have dwelled on it. Normally I am an investigator. What is that smell, where is it coming from. It smelt like do do and I was actually in a sort of good place for a change.. and thought I aint messing with that now. I will get to it later, I just need to chill for a while.

So I dont know what he did as he died. I am glad I didnt see, if his eyes were opened , I guess he let go everything.

I have seen a lot of death in my career in my life. So many cherrished loved ones whoes love kept me strong. Who were my mental and spirit havens. That true unconditional love. I kept dreaming of my two deceased aunts also, a lot I know this is not the dream thread, but I have learned over time to pay attention to my dreams.

I am just tired of life.

Golden, I am glad the dilaudid is helping your mother and she is doing better. Take care of yourself, hope sinus issue gets better. Please post any new solution. I will always remember you for the castille soap recommendation.

Glad, i am happy things are moving along. Did you work out the blue color and lighting issue.

Cmag. I hope things are going well for you.

Hi to all,

These past few weeks have been stressful. My pressure was up high, still is but better, and I was feeling a sense of doom. The fridge wasnt working, the entrance gate door was all messed up and of course I was being blamed. And I was just sick and tired of being sick and tired. My last post I mentioned how my mother and the dog Prince were sleeping all day. When I first noticed Prince and where he was laying my first thought is he must be dying. Therwas still food on his plate. and I dont care how old he was he would lumber and follow where ever the food was. So that day I was curious as to why my mother and the dog were sleeping all day and not eating. I really thought my sister had sedated my mother through food or drink. And my mother shared everything with dog. She would serve him icecream or soda in a cup one time she was using crystal ware.

Well anyways when I got off wednesday mornings i go to therapy then home. Picked up breakfast for my mother. Tried to make her eat and she still was not having any. I had gotten a shake formula and I made that, and gavve it too her. While I was making it, I blurted out "It stinks in here" and she just burst out laughing as if to say it sure does. Any way I give her the shake to drink with some breakfast bars and left breakfast on table. Told her I was going up.

Later I came down to go out and play some numbers and the powerball. I had her cole the handy man's voice and thought he finally here to fix gate. the gate had come loose from stoop and was hard to close or lock. Safety issue. I had told nephew and of course they found a way to make it my fault. I had also asked him for copies of keys to lock upstairs I have a set just dont know where I put them.

Anyways I was twisted inside about the cole becuase he had already beat me with the shed and other work. I communicated this to my nephew yet he still uses him. so lhe fixed leaks in plumbing behind bathroom but just left a big hole behind toilet. I was pissed that he left it like that and that my nephew or his mother didnt care to check the work. So I diidnt know if it was himwho did poor job and gate leaving it hard to close.

Any way I leave to go to store and the smell is gone. My sister is downstairs, fussing at my mother about the blinds which I didnt like. I dont like her tone or spirit with my mother. My mother has attacked me for speaking up for wrong my sister has done to her so I bite my tongue and leave it alone. Sometimes i trully feel she is reaping what she has sowed. Karma.

So it wasnt until thursay that I missed prince. When I came down. I cried hard. I felt scared, death does that to me as it comes and you never know when and the loss hurts my heart deeply and also because I can not control it. So I was in a "way" on thursday. So I felt I had to get out and I had lots to do. Laundry , cooking cleaning, flu shot, order fridge. Got it all done too. Cooked so good meals trying to cook without salt because my pressure was off the chain. So I bought and tried different type of seasoning. Came out good too! :)

Golden, great the weather is holding, here so far, ok too. Though there is to be a turn for Halloween. Hopefully will straighten out by the end of the week.

Best for your mom and you, hope you feel better soon.

Yes, I am beat and to think I did not unpack probably 80% of what I have, knowing this move was coming. It will be like Christmas to get everything unpacked. Much of these things I have not used since starting care for mom. Repacked three years ago following the fire, and of course I have no idea what is there.

I am on my way to bed, will read more once I lay down. Exhausted.

needhope - good feedback for margeaux. Hope your foot gets better.. Hard to know why dysfun sibs do what they do. I have had to let go and let God,

glad - Yay -appliances are delivered, You must be beat from all the packing, but excited.

I called the NH and found out that mother has lost over 20 lbs since May. She had put on that much in the past couple of years so she is ok, but if she keeps losing at this rate...She eats lunch and has Ensure for supper. The dilaudid is helping the pain, but she is still crying some. At least, this is what I understood from the person I spoke to. I find the accents hard to understand. I am not sure about going yet as the sinus infection/sore throat has flared a bit again. I am trying something else and will see tomorrow how it responds. Meanwhile I will get ready to go. The good weather is holding, thank goodness.

Take care all -be good to you.