
Many of us, myself included, come from a dysfunctional family which adds a lot of weight to the challenges of caregiving. I have read stores on various threads on other topics and decided it would be good to have a thread just for this topic for people to share, vent and discuss.
The idea for this thread originated on the thread named "The Caregiver....How are YOU doing today?"
Send, if I find out I am related to a sheep, I’ll let you know!, haha! Could be the black sheep in the family😜!
Or, it is used for stem cell research, and injected into a sheep's embryo.
Though admittedly I'm also not that bothered about having my DNA analysed, either! I really don't believe they can tell me anything that isn't the classic trio - "obvious, trivial or wrong."
A close friend had a baby out of wedlock in 1966. A lot of rumors circulated - small town. But very few people knew exact details. A truly nosy, invasive woman who didn't like her back then and not in the present did all of Internet, Ancestry searches and finally got the information. She announced her findings at 50 year class reunion last fall. It was horrible for my friend.
Among my real-life peers, I’m the lone crackpot. Does anyone on AC Forum share my jaundiced view??
Sharyn- Thank you. And how intersting to do your DNA test.
I know that I am German,Irish and Native American-Osage( a big Ol' mess :) ) DH is Native American- Sioux, Shawnee, and Kickapoo
Anyway it will be interesting, good luck
Dori, I hope your mom has settled down within normal routines again. Parents seem to be hardest on the child caregiving than the child who pops in and out for short visits.
Golden, I hope your life has calmed down. I’m glad your dd is back to taking the meds. I’m sure she feels better too.
Since the first time I made an account on Facebook, I have periodically searched for my cousin in Ireland and her son as well as other cousins. This particular cousin and I corresponded via letters starting at age 11-12. Then we met in 1975. After getting married and having children, we lost touch with each other.
I searched for her again today. I came across a post by a woman naming several of my cousins. This post was a year old and about another cousin who passed away from MS. I left a message asking if anyone knew how I could connect with my cousin. Then I searched for her son. I found him! I messaged him asking if was indeed her son. He said yes. Turns out his mom passed in 2001.
I am disappointed. I plan to message her son again asking if he will friend request me on Facebook as his settings only allow friends of friends. Too many years pass and we lose contact with friends and family.
I did something yesterday I have debated doing for a while now. I ordered a DNA kit. I’m curious to find out how much Irish/Scottish and Native American I have inherited from my parents.
smeshque - Good that they reduced the dose! I've written a lot about my experience with the CBD oil here on AC, but I'll be darned if I can remember which thread (again....just woke up, lol!). Feel free to message me if you want to chat about it.
So ever since his last visit, I've taken to texting my brother every Monday and Friday, to wish him a good week and a Happy Friday, respectively. So far so good - he always replies! Sent him a pic of his "kitten-nephew's" first visit to the park yesterday. Trying to keep things light and easy, but I do realize now it's going to be up to me to hold onto those fragile family threads.....
Sharyn-Happy Friday to you also
Becky-Thank you for the info on Ativan and try and have a good weekend anyway.
Pam-thank you, I believe they adjusted it, seems ok now.
Well, mom seems to be getting a little bit back to normal. Hopefully things will continue in this direction! I ordered her a bunch of new pajamas of Amazon, which arrived today, so she's happy and fast asleep in bed.
I wonder if it's always going to be like this? It's starting to feel cyclical. Happy-calm-normal-ish, then mom's escalation of mean and defiant behaviours, then a big poop incident....then I play the big bad authority figure, she sulks for awhile, and then everything goes back to happy-calm-normal-ish. Definitely feeling a little cyclical and almost like....she is testing me every so often. And it always seems to peak with a poop incident! Like she knows that's the one thing that will break me so she does it on purpose. I mean, I kinda doubt it's on purpose....but then again, who knows?
smeshque - I don't really know anything about Ativan. Years ago I had a friend who took it to help her sleep. She was a very tense, anxious, agitated person as a way of going - I can't imagine what she would've been like without it.
Well, mom didn't get up today, but she did let the home support workers change her last night and tonight. Tonight, actually, she didn't want to, but I just said, "We don't want a repeat of Monday morning, DO WE?" And she relented.
Gosh, I'm soooo exhausted.....
Edit: oh yeah! The butter chicken turned out great!
Thanks for the laugh; glad to read you got away from mom and in the pool for a bit!
All my life, my mom - extra slim, pretty, blue-eyed, delicate-looking, former beauty pageant winner - expressed jealousy over my hair. I got dad's flat feet, lazy eye, wide shoulders, and thick bones. But my hair - that's what the fine-haired beauty queen was always jealous about. And I've always thought: "You got everything else, lady! I got the hair! Suck it up!"
I'll be d***ed if I'm going to let chlorine wreck it now. :-P
Becky - oh gosh, I would LOVE to say something like that, lol. I suck it back now because of the dementia. But yes. Good for you! I wish I'd seen it!
smeshque - Thank you....hanging in by the fingernails....
CM - I've washed the tea towels 4 times now, in laundry detergent, vinegar, and Resolve. Lol. At least now I know for sure how I ended up with anxiety problems as an adult. And yeah....dad wasn't perfect, but he's seeming positively saintly right now. Even with dementia, he was a total sweetheart.
Swimming today! Thank goodness for the one aspect of my week where my biggest worry is keeping my hair from getting chlorine-fried. Then best guy friend is coming for dinner....poor sap doesn't know I'm making my first ever attempt at butter chicken tonight.