
Many of us, myself included, come from a dysfunctional family which adds a lot of weight to the challenges of caregiving. I have read stores on various threads on other topics and decided it would be good to have a thread just for this topic for people to share, vent and discuss.
The idea for this thread originated on the thread named "The Caregiver....How are YOU doing today?"
LOL! Even though it isn't funny when you are crawling out of bed, puking your guts out if you were lucky enough to make it to the bathroom in time, all the while, they are SNORING!
I told my husband someone could sneak in and kill me in my sleep right next to him and he would wake up to my dead corpse wondering what happened! 😂
It would be easier if I was alone. But I plan to teach myself how to order online.He won't even answer the door if they deliver!
Rainey, Thanks for saying they are mostly like that. How could I have let it slip my mind?
Husbands are usually oblivious when we are practically dying! But, when they get sick, the world comes to a screeching halt! LOL!
Mucinex and Nyquil were lifesavers for me the last time I was sick, the Mucinex you have to ask the pharmacist for, not the stuff on the aisle. Drink lots of C, stay warm and above all, rest!
Hope you feel better soon!
Everytime I was really really sick, husband slept right through it!
e-oils OnGuard on feet, plus mentholatum, socks.
misting e-oil so I can breathe, already steamed over the sink.
Really....don't think I can sleep with socks though, but I will try.
Lozenge for coughing, again!
Already ruined the pan, so not boiling a n y t h i n g tonight.
Hubs is oblivious and asleep, after a bike ride and work today.
She also has unusually low blood pressure so being dehydrated can cause her to go out like a light, I watched it happen a couple times, one minute she is there, then her head slumps down and she goes out. It is scary! So, after all these episodes with her over the years, I have become quite good at figuring out her symptoms and if she is going septic because of her leg, dehydrated, etc.
As soon as I get liquid in her she comes back around pretty quick, still a little more confused than usual but give her time and she is functional. She is definately getting more confused and repeats and fixates more than usual lately. Big time OCD. No new behavior, just worsening of existing stuff. It's heartbreaking to watch this happen to her. I called her sister in Chicago and left her a message. She is the only sane one in the family I can talk to and she is still working as a nurse with the elderly so she is also the best one to speak with. More big stuff is escaping her memory completely, I noticed she wrote a note, something she heard on TV about planning for a funeral. When I asked her about it, she said, "Well I wrote it down for you to know what to do for me." I said, "Mom, you have a "Living Will" specifying everything you want already." She had no recollection even though we visited her Elder Law Attorney just last year. Her reply was "I do?" She looked totally surprised. 😥
Boil some water with some salt in it
Turn off the burner
Put a towel over your head and breathe in the steam
Put Vicks on the soles of your feet and put some socks on when you go to bed
Hope she didn't hit her head with the fall
If she was able to get up on her own and then Come tell you about it, she's a strong gal
Big hugs!
Lots I want to respond to here but may have to wait until tomorrow, keeping a close eye on her now.
mally - thx for prayers You might include no more visits from this couple as well.
send - hope you get better soon. My dd found that putting her head in the freezer stopped coughing. A girlfriend always pulled her dd's right arm up when she started to cough and it worked. If I were you I would stay as uninvolved with dh's mother as possible -not your circus
guest - that is awesome - you are staying out of the way and have got that message across to dh. Oh my, your in laws are a pair...
becky - you have good medical advice and have to trust the drs. I am now wishing I had not had my second eye done as the ghost images are not better. I understand about getting your teeth done. I had a friend who had some gum infections and was due to have a knee replacement. On her drs advice she got her teeth all pulled and got dentures before the surgery. Ex's cousin dd not fare as well.
glad - hope your friend's dog will be OK. Across the ravine from us people had small dogs disappear. They figured it was coyotes.
sharyn - you had a lot laid on you by dh's family. You did the right thing. I saw a coyote lying in the gutter across the street one summer evening. They get pretty accustomed to humans.
duck - all kinds of wild life when you are near the bush. Some of it is dangerous, but not most of it. I have had deer in my garden eating my cedars.
If I have missed anyone it is not intentional. I am somewhat rattled by today's events. Hopefully tomorrow will be better.
The woman doesn't understand that her help isn't helping, much less wanted.
This was in the middle of me trying to remove one note from my computer, and I uninstalled microsoft office by mistake, and I can't reinstall it - keep getting a error code. I guess Open Office will have to do for now till I can get Office 365 reinstalled.
All this when I have that flu and a congested chest. Chicken soup is helping. Thank goodness something is.
Another thing I like about this forum is that one can research backwards to find out facts, like it has been only 22 days since I got the cold/flu. It feels like 5 weeks! I am grateful to the paramedics for saving me the hardship of going to the E.R, being exposed and lined up along the wall to get no help.
I thought I was getting better, and I am.....But this morning coughing up caused me to vomit and I forgot to eat until 4 p.m.
A kiwi, an avocado, and honey oat bran muffin hit the Spot.
Maybe hubs will go with me tomorrow to Urgent Care, if I am not breathing better.
Boiling some lemons to add to tea.....I can do this!
I might try to go to Urgent Care today, see if I have pneumonia.
Did two group sessions. Not much new - more and more demands on caregivers. No money, no money for needed supplies, etc. Misunderstandings with family members. The more things change, the more they stay the same. Wrote some referrals for individual therapy. I suspect most will get lip service and no follow thru. I know some have gone and dropped out because they didn't get validation of their behaviors. I can only hope that they get something helpful from group.