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LOL! Even though it isn't funny when you are crawling out of bed, puking your guts out if you were lucky enough to make it to the bathroom in time, all the while, they are SNORING!
I told my husband someone could sneak in and kill me in my sleep right next to him and he would wake up to my dead corpse wondering what happened! 😂
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We are running out of things, bottled water, trash emptied, basics.
It would be easier if I was alone. But I plan to teach myself how to order online.He won't even answer the door if they deliver!
Rainey,  Thanks for saying they are mostly like that. How could I have let it slip my mind?
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Send,
Husbands are usually oblivious when we are practically dying! But, when they get sick, the world comes to a screeching halt! LOL!
Mucinex and Nyquil were lifesavers for me the last time I was sick, the Mucinex you have to ask the pharmacist for, not the stuff on the aisle. Drink lots of C, stay warm and above all, rest!
Hope you feel better soon!
Everytime I was really really sick, husband slept right through it!
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okay.   Thanks MsMadge!
e-oils OnGuard on feet, plus mentholatum, socks.
misting e-oil so I can breathe, already steamed over the sink.
Really....don't think I can sleep with socks though, but I will try.
Lozenge for coughing, again!

Already ruined the pan, so not boiling a n y t h i n g tonight.
Hubs is oblivious and asleep, after a bike ride and work today.
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Thanks Becky, Golden and MsMadge! Yeah, she is tough and she has a habit of not wanting to tell me so kudos to her for that! She has been so good as I said, long time since she fell last but she doesn't like to drink, she drinks baby sized glasses of everything and does not even fill them all the way. When she first had these episodes, I got her Elete add in electrolytes and instructed her to add them to all her liquids, (it's tasteless) so she would get the max benefit from the little she drinks. I have a feeling since she is sliding more she is getting more forgetful about staying sufficiently hydrated. No UTI, she had a real bad one a year or more ago, she certainly let me know she was having issues there, took 3 different antibiotics and none worked so they ended up giving her an internal hormone cream and that did the trick. After that nightmare, I have her taking cranberry pills and female urinary tract probiotics and she has been fine on that score since.
She also has unusually low blood pressure so being dehydrated can cause her to go out like a light, I watched it happen a couple times, one minute she is there, then her head slumps down and she goes out. It is scary! So, after all these episodes with her over the years, I have become quite good at figuring out her symptoms and if she is going septic because of her leg, dehydrated, etc.
As soon as I get liquid in her she comes back around pretty quick, still a little more confused than usual but give her time and she is functional. She is definately getting more confused and repeats and fixates more than usual lately. Big time OCD. No new behavior, just worsening of existing stuff. It's heartbreaking to watch this happen to her. I called her sister in Chicago and left her a message. She is the only sane one in the family I can talk to and she is still working as a nurse with the elderly so she is also the best one to speak with. More big stuff is escaping her memory completely, I noticed she wrote a note, something she heard on TV about planning for a funeral. When I asked her about it, she said, "Well I wrote it down for you to know what to do for me." I said, "Mom, you have a "Living Will" specifying everything you want already." She had no recollection even though we visited her Elder Law Attorney just last year. Her reply was "I do?" She looked totally surprised. 😥
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Send,
Boil some water with some salt in it
Turn off the burner
Put a towel over your head and breathe in the steam

Put Vicks on the soles of your feet and put some socks on when you go to bed
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Rainy
Hope she didn't hit her head with the fall

If she was able to get up on her own and then Come tell you about it, she's a strong gal
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Golden; aye aye - got it!
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Hey all! Just a quick drive by to say hi! Slept most of yesterday trying to recover from the trip. (Hard on my injury.) Today was was errand day. Tomorrow, I've got to catch up on some of the chores I let slide over the holidays, but I should be around here a bit too!

Big hugs!
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Rainey, Hope you can your Mom back on track a little. Falls are so dangerous.
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Sorry to hear that, rainey. Such a nasty disease. Any chance she has a UTI?
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Mom fell today, thankfully she came and told me. She was dehydrated, been through this before. She has been good for such a long time about that but her memory is gettng way worse lately. Gotta go over and make sure she is drinking now every couple hours. Man, she really has gotten way worse in the last few weeks.
Lots I want to respond to here but may have to wait until tomorrow, keeping a close eye on her now.
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Yup!!!
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A lot of people are unable to listen to what people tell them. I thought for years I could make my Mom and brother love me. They told me a zillion times how little they thought of me. I thought if I pushed or did more I could change them. One day I realized not going to happen. I spent my time on changing my attitude and changing me and ultimately moved on emotionally and physically. Best thing I ever did. Cut my stress 1000%.
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thx becky - cross posted I find them way over the top, or under the bottom which ever way you want to look at it. Yes, they are to the point of being scary. They refuse to accept my boundaries. I hope they don't come to the house again. Sounds a bit like your cousins - not a good thing. Got Office installed again thankfully. Glad your center is running again. People don't get that doing the same thing gets the same results and you need to change you to change the situation. Sometimes it takes a while.
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Thx Ali - I uninstalled avast and then the office install worked. Phew! Never have used tech support. I usually figure it out myself. Hope you are getting better from this bug - I am forcing fluids and using decongestant and feel better this evening.

mally - thx for prayers You might include no more visits from this couple as well.

send - hope you get better soon. My dd found that putting her head in the freezer stopped coughing. A girlfriend always pulled her dd's right arm up when she started to cough and it worked. If I were you I would stay as uninvolved with dh's mother as possible -not your circus

guest - that is awesome - you are staying out of the way and have got that message across to dh. Oh my, your in laws are a pair...

becky - you have good medical advice and have to trust the drs. I am now wishing I had not had my second eye done as the ghost images are not better. I understand about getting your teeth done. I had a friend who had some gum infections and was due to have a knee replacement. On her drs advice she got her teeth all pulled and got dentures before the surgery. Ex's cousin dd not fare as well.

glad - hope your friend's dog will be OK. Across the ravine from us people had small dogs disappear. They figured it was coyotes.

sharyn - you had a lot laid on you by dh's family. You did the right thing. I saw a coyote lying in the gutter across the street one summer evening. They get pretty accustomed to humans.

duck - all kinds of wild life when you are near the bush. Some of it is dangerous, but not most of it. I have had deer in my garden eating my cedars.

If I have missed anyone it is not intentional. I am somewhat rattled by today's events. Hopefully tomorrow will be better.
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Golden, Those people are rude, intrusive and scary. Be careful. Hope you get your program reinstalled, feel better and can avoid the nosy neighbors.
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Golden, I missed something; didn't know you had the stupid flu, too... lots of us have it here, so I'll add you to the prayer list; already added Send....
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Send, how scary - throwing up from coughing? Yikes!
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Oh no, Golden. I am sure you are frustrated. Hope reinstalling 365 will be easy enough when you feel up to waiting on the phone for tech support to help out.

The woman doesn't understand that her help isn't helping, much less wanted. 
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I am beside myself. Not only did I inadvertently uninstall microsoft office, but that woman and her husband came to the door. I asked them to please leave us alone, and repeated myself several times, and they persisted talking, and asked if one of the boys had done something wrong. I said that she had taken my parcels and that was a federal offense, and I did not want people coming to my house shoveling snow without me requesting it. The answer was, "Oh, we are just being helpful." Again I said please leave us alone, and he said, "Then your husband does not want the job." So I answered that he did not want it, and, as I was shutting the door, he stood outside and told me to have my husband call them. They aren't taking no for an answer.Talk about not having any boundaries. This couple is the gold standard. Aaaargh! I think I am ready to move!

This was in the middle of me trying to remove one note from my computer, and I uninstalled microsoft office by mistake, and I can't reinstall it - keep getting a error code. I guess Open Office will have to do for now till I can get Office 365 reinstalled.

All this when I have that flu and a congested chest. Chicken soup is helping. Thank goodness something is.
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Thanks everyone for your support!
Another thing I like about this forum is that one can research backwards to find out facts, like it has been only 22 days since I got the cold/flu. It feels like 5 weeks! I am grateful to the paramedics for saving me the hardship of going to the E.R, being exposed and lined up along the wall to get no help.
I thought I was getting better, and I am.....But this morning coughing up caused me to vomit and I forgot to eat until 4 p.m.
A kiwi, an avocado, and honey oat bran muffin hit the Spot.
Maybe hubs will go with me tomorrow to Urgent Care, if I am not breathing better.
Boiling some lemons to add to tea.....I can do this!
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Send, tough situation. My in-laws believed it was my responsibility to keep them in the loop if their son didn't. It was my responsibility to work 40 hours, clean, cook, laundry, groceries and yard as well as as the kids. In addition it was my responsibility to see they had a relationship with their grandchildren by me running the them over to their house. At the same time, I was not to be a family member just their sons wife. I backed out completely and left it up to my hubs. If he failed to do these things it was my fault, yet it was my fault for everything they did not approve of. Lol! I had to protect my sanity and just back out complete because I would never be in their good graces. Best of luck to you , I'm on your side.
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Rainey, The leeches will never quit. My brother had the nerve to call me last year and ask when I was sending Christmas checks - NOT!
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Send, I didn't realize that you were still So sick! So sorry, and YES, get yourself to the Drs! Pneumonia isn't something to fool around with!! Get better soon!
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Send - Checking for pneumonia might be a good thing.
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Yeah! PEACE OUT EVERYONE!

I might try to go to Urgent Care today, see if I have pneumonia.
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Went to doctors - cataract surgery on hold until  after dental work.

Did two group sessions. Not much new - more and more demands on caregivers. No money, no money for needed supplies, etc. Misunderstandings with family members. The more things change, the more they stay the same. Wrote some referrals for individual therapy. I suspect most will get lip service and no follow thru. I know some have gone and dropped out because they didn't get validation of their behaviors. I can only hope that they get something helpful from group.
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I am in the process of still trying to train everyone not to send Mom cards, (she immediately feels the dire need to reciprocate, meaning ME, because she can't anymore) and I am done with the ridiculous charade. She should not be expected to keep giving her adult children cards, presents, money, and they need to learn to quit expecting. I unfortunately enabled this behaviour in the beginning of my caregiving and it became out of control. I finally put a stop to it. Mom is not wealthy, I handle her finances now and she was having me giving out hundred dollar gift cards to everyone for every occasion for the first few years and picking and mailing cards. She has everything and every need taken care of by me, but boy am I sick of the gift/card giving. Nobody actually does a damn thing for her anyway except me. They have their "get out of jail free" cards but still expect. I don't even tell Mom it's my B-day or mention gifts in any way. Sorry, but it is really become a sore subject for me.
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Send, we DILs are the reason thoughtless sons EVER send cards. The blanket MIL loves? I found and so and hubs signed card. That’s it. I understand son with autism. I don’t understand hubs. Both my parents are dead, I think despite it all hubs waits for the fixer to come back. Nope. Years of therapy kicked in this year. If I care more than you about your parents welfare, that’s wrong. Peace out
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