
Many of us, myself included, come from a dysfunctional family which adds a lot of weight to the challenges of caregiving. I have read stores on various threads on other topics and decided it would be good to have a thread just for this topic for people to share, vent and discuss.
The idea for this thread originated on the thread named "The Caregiver....How are YOU doing today?"
Good info on the grants. Will definitely pass that one along.
I think this is an issue that bears forum wide attention and I don't want to "steal your thunder".
MsMadge, I always make myself too available on my jobs and end up feeling like what you posted. I’ve noticed management seems to hand hold many of the younger people. It’s hard for me because when I started in the work force, if you couldn’t do the job, be there as they wanted, you were fired. I do see some pluses as they do work more with young mothers which I again did not get that treatment as a young mother. I have just a couple years and I plan to retire so here’s hoping we can hang in there until then!
Dysfunction can be change but only if people recognize their own dysfunction and get counseling, support groups to make changes (providing mental disorders are not involved), it is hard work and is life time work. When you think you are right and everyone else is wrong, change will never come.
I'm feeling beaten down at work - putting in long hours at night and weekends and being barked at by management - I'm too old for it especially when the 30 somethings are skipping out the door after 8 hours - I'm grateful for employment but am weary and see nothing changing til I can afford to quit in another few years
Thank you all for your thoughts today.
And dysfunction continues. I had an Email from ts2 this morning. An update on estate distribution. Nothing about birthday, anniversary or mom or L's death a year ago today. I replied to all, including ts1 and AD simply saying I was sure we would all be thinking of them today. No responses. Nor surprised but I do wonder how we all got through mom's service in a civil manner. I will never understand and I know it.
Be sure to take care of yourself. Keep us updated about kitty.
Is there any way you can consider moving into a group home where you will recieve the respect you deserve and be well cared for
hope the kitty continues to recover as i am sure she will with all the loving care you are lavishing on her.
I have training in PC, Network, and Server Repair. Both PCs have Win95 as an OS. She has made no upgrades to these computers in twenty years.
But I am still an idiot in her eyes.
The guy never showed up. Because he forgot. My mother realizes. That she should have asked me in the first place.
Yes, all is well here, (not close to the awful fires to be in danger) but it was heartbreaking watching peoples homes, businesses, winieries, and missing PEOPLE, oh jeeez, yeah, it was terribly sad.
Here I was looking so forward to October and it is nothing like I had hoped. Air is finally clearing, Mom is her usual on and off with her memory and I set up my Halloween Decor trying to bring my spirits (no pun intended) up. Hopefully it won't be pouring out like it was last year! I have been in a weird headspace lately, maybe the reality of being trapped is catching up to me and also dealing with realizing my own limitations both physically and mentally which are both becoming more fragile. Doc tried to convince me to try another anti depressant, supposed to help with pain too. OMG! It was HORRIBLE! I took three pills and that was enough for me. No more. I will tell my Doc to just forget it, no more of those godawful things. I would rather be miserable and in my brain, not off on a distant planet like a walking zombie! I will try to catch up soon, thanks everyone for your concern, I was lucky not to be in the close danger of the fires, I am really sad for all those folks. * Hugs to all* I will read & write more soon, promise!!!!!!
I know you will do it too, as you've Loved him unconditionally since the moment he was born, and your aren't going to stop now, and will probably Love him and his Brother even more! You're the Best Grammie!
Dd has several therapies to arrange for him now, plus it is recommended his tonsils be removed because they are too large and causing him to have a hoarse voice.
send - I truly hope that therapy helps you in dealing with your feelings appropriately.