
Many of us, myself included, come from a dysfunctional family which adds a lot of weight to the challenges of caregiving. I have read stores on various threads on other topics and decided it would be good to have a thread just for this topic for people to share, vent and discuss.
The idea for this thread originated on the thread named "The Caregiver....How are YOU doing today?"
Google "RDI". It's a therapy that addresses the social and pragmatic language difficulties that children on the Autism Spectrum face.
Upset, thank you, it is encouraging to hear this about your sons friend. E is very spacial, he lines up his toys in straight lines equally distanced apart. He will actually get down on the floor and look at the lines of toys he placed and will adjust them accordingly.
I love this little guy and he has his moments where he opens up completely and will talk and talk.
The child is not sad. He is playing.
Some people call this differently abled.
The sadness is understandable, and I get it. Really, I do.
As long as we try and expect special needs persons to become like everyone else, we miss the Special in special.
He is playing, special.
I am sure this feeble attempt at encouragement does not cover all your sadness about E.
Long story short, L's assets had diminished to half of what they were when they married over the course of six years. Nobody, including mom and L understood that if his assets ran out, then mom would have had to pay for his care from her funds until she was down to what Medicaid allows the community spouse.
L did not live enough for this to become an issue because of his federal retirement. When they married they both thought that their assets were safe from each other in case of escalating medical needs and expense. Both thought that a prenuptial agreement would take care of it.
Unfortunately, the majority of us would have to be very careful about these financial issues if we were to decide to marry.
So, congratulations again, upset. Your long term relationship with PJ is a very good indicator of a long and happy married life. Best wishes to you both.
PJ and I were thinking getting married at town hall. Just us. It now appears the wedding planners (approx 36 of them) have decided we need to go to Vegas to get married the weekend before Thanksgiving; followed by a honeymoon in CA at Disneyland with all of them going along. Can you imagine? They probably want an Elvis impersonator to perform the ceremony.
Ali, I am so happy with your plans. Measuring and keeping some family heirlooms to use in your new place!! So exciting!!
Golden, keeping you in my thoughts and prayers re the cataract surgery. I'm happy to hear your tests went well and the results.
Margeaux, good to hear from you. Hoping all is progressing as you work through BC.
Temps here have finally dropped to a comfortable high 60's-mid 70's. On and off showers today with predictions for winter to be a repeat of last year. Bil will be arriving late tomorrow for the weekend. Other than that not to much going on unless you want to include chasing toddlers and puppy. Bust is a joy with much work. He is so darn cute and as sweet as can be. How can one resist his sweet face, eyelashes and excitement when he sees you.
Autumn is slowly coming along, hope everyone is enjoying pleasant temps!!
The new Trustee told me that there is a board meeting about my receipts on the 28th. Fingers crossed that they agree I am owed reimbursement.
I go to measure the new place today around 6pm. I want to know the wall lengths to know what I can get into the new place and how it will be arranged. I'm trying to avoid any need for storage of the few heirloom pieces of furniture that I want to keep. I've decided that my more contemporary (but not at all sentimental) furniture currently in storage can be sold/discarded and I'll utilize my grandparents' pieces instead. Trying to sort out how it will all work...
And I'm going on some dates, and meeting some men, talking to a couple of people from online dating. All of it -- wrapping up the house, moving to the new place, dating -- it's all a process and I hope that my efforts mean that SOMETHING comes from all this lol. The caregiving life feels like a never ending To Do list. :-/
I want to put Career Goals into the mix but for right now I've decided to work on the move. When I get to the city, there will be a world of new employment opportunities available to me. In the meantime, I've found a very agreeable way to sell some Taxco. Silver is down right now but this particular consigner's market visibility is very good, and pieces fetch a good enough price to warrant the 60/40 split. I have much to "liquidate." I've seen where endless collecting leads to and I'm moving towards a more minimal life.
It's all good stuff though I do feel I'm plodding along at snail's pace.
How are you guys today? Hope everyone has a great day!
tg - nothing has changed. I think I would speak to dad and tell him what he said that was hurtful.
Thinking of veronica who is probably out of surgery by now. Hoping everything went OK.
Margeaux - good to hear from you. I have wondered how you are.
I called about the nailpolish and it is "in case something happens" as Veronica mentioned, to assess oxygenation. They said they would settle for a couple of toe nails without polish which I can do easily as they are not gel, just regular polish.
Apologies if I have missed anyone - just a little "off" from the trip and upcoming surgery.
Sift intermittent rain and fall colouring in the trees - some of my favourite weather.
My big news is that I have had a formal marriage proposal - complete with ring. Apparently, he's been carrying the ring around for a few weeks. I said yes, but we haven't set a date. Lot of decisions on housing, etc. I've joked with him that I'd marry him for his good health insurance. He has one of those "Cadillac" Medicare supplement policies that his former employer will cover a spouse as well.
I'm tired, too tired to compose much of a post. ;-) After my drive down yesterday I helped SIL and hung out with kids, then up at 4am my time this morning (just woke up and couldn't get back to sleep, then kids were waking up an hour later, 6 their time), then drive back up, then pack up a bunch of china and other house stuff. It's been a full day. Good night, all!