
Many of us, myself included, come from a dysfunctional family which adds a lot of weight to the challenges of caregiving. I have read stores on various threads on other topics and decided it would be good to have a thread just for this topic for people to share, vent and discuss.
The idea for this thread originated on the thread named "The Caregiver....How are YOU doing today?"
sharyn I remember thinking the first plane could have been an accident , but then the second one came, and all knew it was no accident. I don't think you make bad impressions generally. I find I am having to be very careful when write to the insurance co. I really want to be sarcastic!!! What is it about insurance companies?
upset the ferry ride would be nice but cool. Glad you have had some nice experiences on your trip. In the midst of sadness or turmoil it helps. It would be a little scary that your mum was in the towers a couple of weeks earlier. The events of Sept 11 th were devastating.
Sample letter from insurance agent: I, SharynMMarie, lost my group health coverage on May 31, 2017. I had the opportunity to apply for cobra which was very expensive so I decided to apply for $$$'klk in California. I completed the application in California but the process was not completed.
Due to moving, I was not able to get to said insurance company to complete the process.
I could have completed the process in California knowing the insurance was not available but decided it would be a waste of time.
Now, this was not word for word of what I actually said to the agent, but this is how he intreptrd it.
I was furious when I read this sample letter!!! After going off the deep end, I realized what I actually said to this man jokingly, as a sarcastic person, his take on me. Knowing I have a responsibility to present myself as the status quo goes, I still have a lot of growing to do and am grateful he gave me the opportunity to put it in my own words, lol!!!
My Mom was still able to travel at that time. Two weeks before, she and some friends had been to NYC to see Broadway shows. They had gone to the restaurant at the top of one of the towers for dinner. I had been there once in 1995. It's a horrible memory for everyone.
These hurricanes are a tremendous force and I will take living with earthquakes any day. My niece in Gainesville did not get hit as hard as expected though there has been much rain and without power since 1 am. My nephew, who is in the military working in Africa, has a home 50 mikes south of Savannha Ga. and 5 miles off the coast; we are hoping for the best in terms of flooding from the storm surge afterwards. At least he is safe and homes can be replaced even though it is very stressful and time consuming. Prayers for comfort and safety to all who are experiencing this storm and the damages.
Trust that everyone is safe and well. Irma is downgraded now to a tropical storm and hopefully will stay there. Tremendous amount of damage has been done so far in Florida and places south.
Getting organized for the cataract surgery. Need to put in drops 3 days in advance. Not sure what those are for but I will do it, of course. R will come up and drive me down and back. Slowly getting things accomplished that have been postponed for a few years. It feels good. 😊👍
barb - I think it was very wise that your parents brought you up with the expectation that there would be no inheritance. Mother tended to dangle money in order to manipulate. The only way to deal with that was to back right out of it. I am appointed as executor and don't know what the latest version of her will is as it is in her lawyer's office. Franky, I am happy not to know. I do what I have to as POA regardless.
We were brought up with the assumption that there would be nothing left at the end.
Thanks for everyone's well wishes and prayers! I keep thinking that this is getting closer and then he rally's, so we will see what the day brings.
I can't take my eyes off of the Weather Channel! Wow, the destruction is immense! So sorry for what is to come to all of those displaced people, it it tragic! Prayers for the Hurricane victims!
We are much cooler too, air is a lot better. My bro in Montana said they are better too. I've been following Irma. The news junkie and fascination in hurricanes that is part of me. Not the destruction but the force of nature and unpredictability of nature. Praying for all in the wake.
Just being lazy today, the boys wore me out yesterday, had lots of fun blowing bubbles with them.
Enjoy some time for yourselves.
glad - that was scary about your mum's agitation being increased.
upset - 37 hours!!!! Whoa!
jessie - what a boon that it keeps your mum calm. That is all that matters now.
stacey - he is still asleep - great. Hope you and hub had a good sleep too. Looks like the latest combo is working. I think Veronica is right that the end is not far off. A looker of a male nurse is always a bonus. That woke you up, I bet!
Thankfully I can take ativan and do occasionally for sleep. It worked like a charm when I went for the ultrasound and needed a full bladder. I didn't feel any urgency to go after drinking the required 4 cups of water an hour before the appointment -and then the tech was late.
Very cool here today. Feels like the first day of fall. Hope the tiny tomatoes keep growing. I will start up a fire in the fireplace later. Feels like comfort food time - grilled cheese sandwiches and home made tomato soup.
Once she moved into IL (mostly due to anxiety) new geriatric psychiatrist switched her to klonopin, which is in the same class of drugs, but seemed to suit mom better.
She was on a low dose of klonopin until the end.
FIL did final sleep after 9pm, after husband went in and gave him more Lorazepam and Haldol. It's 8:30an, snd he's Still sleeping! Thank God! It's nice to get some coffee in me before the workday begins. Love to All!
Crazy Hurricane News Day! Zowza! Stay Safe!
I think anyone who is toward the end of their lives shouldn't worry about addiction on the minor sedatives. My only concern would be if they had too much and lost balance. Falling is a big concern. My mother takes 0.5 mg twice a day and it doesn't seem to affect her balance.
You need sleep too!
The day went on, with FIL much more subdued during the daytime, but 6pm hits, getting him ready for sleepy time and then his agitation starts all over again! Hubby gave him his bedtime meds as we always do, and then the Moaning begins again calling out, saying weird things again. More meds as instructed, and still he calls out and when either of us gets up to check on him, but he doesn't recall why he called out for us in the first place, so tiresome! Ugg! 9:13pm, hubby headed off to bed, and we're just praying that this last dose knocks him out enough that we can both get some rest.
Sundowners? We don't know, but maybe some of you who may have gone through something simular have some suggestions? We are stumped!
I'm headed to sleep myself and hope sleep comes. The crazy part in all of this is my little Charlie-girl hears Everything, and if he (FIL) alerts to something, she goes nuts until one of us checks on him. I think we all need some sort of sedative at night, so we can all get some sleep. It was very weird day, that went by so fast, and nothing got done other than waiting on and worrying about FIL.
It'so tiring! One way or another, he going to sleep, even if we need to double up on the sleepy time meds! One for you and 2 for me, Lol! No, just kidding! I do have a Rx sleeping aid, but I'm afraid to take it for fear I won't hear him!
I hope that everyone who has been affected by the Hurricane and storms, as well as their families are safe and sound tonight and throughout the weekend! Prayers for all!!!
You probably know but you should be able to contact Hospice 24-7 for assistance. Hospice came in the wee hours of the morning to check what was going on with my StepDad, hold my hand on deck and calm me down. RN stayed with me for about an hour...in the wee hours of the morning...2 or 3 am.