
Many of us, myself included, come from a dysfunctional family which adds a lot of weight to the challenges of caregiving. I have read stores on various threads on other topics and decided it would be good to have a thread just for this topic for people to share, vent and discuss.
The idea for this thread originated on the thread named "The Caregiver....How are YOU doing today?"
Yeah rats are icky, I was just floored how much to get rid of, clean up and replace the damage, about 5k! There goes my A/C! 😩
Upset, thanks! I have to catch up on everyone, Mom is doing alright for now.
Glad, so sorry about Macy! I was destroyed when I lost my little black cat, absolutely inconsolable so I understand! (Big Hug) 😥
I promise to catch up on everyone's posts later tonight when I have some quiet time.
Losing Macy, is harder than losing mom and L. With folks, knew it was coming for a long time. First hint that Macy's time was up was just two weeks ago. Now I will find out how much I really enjoy my own company.
veronica - you need to keep the bladder full!!! Depends won't help that. I did wear a little protection just in case. I have what I am sure is an ovarian cyst. The tech questioned me about my self diagnosis, initially, before she did the procedure, but honestly I have been aware of where my ovaries are for about 70 years and what they feel like. She was very friendly and chatty while she was doing it and asked how I kept myself in such good shape.
Hi rainey - you have a lot to deal with and have had so much heat. Hope you get rid of the rats quickly. Stepping back is a good idea at times. I know you are upset about the situation with your bro - with good reason. So glad you got the shade garden planted. Sorry about the aches and pains. They do come as we get older and try to keep up the same pace.
Just talked with the pharmacist about the script for my thyroid meds, and it was the dr who halved the amount. I had asked dr how my thyroid levels were and he said they were fine so it made no sense to change the drug dose. It was the first time he had prescribed synthroid for me so hopefully it is just an error. The pharmacist said to carry on as normal and he will get back to me.
Kind of looking forward to getting my cataracts dealt with. I will be the bionic woman by the time I am finished!
Have a good evening everyone!
We were hoping to replace the A/C next year but this will knock that out the realm of possibility. Having 90's to 110 degree heat really make you want A/C!!!
I also took a break because I got really upset at someones board question and realized I needed to step back. I should have just stuck with this one where all the best people are! I learned my lesson. No more diving into major emotionally charged issues. I get way too upset emotionally and it gets the better of me.
I am desperately trying to go down my list of "gotta do's" before winter gets here. October is my favorite month and I am hoping to enjoy it, not work my tail off and miss it. Got the shade garden planted FINALLY! Now, just need to add mulch on top and done. Lots of outside clean up still to do. This property is a lot of work trying to fix what the prior people let go for a very long time.
I am getting older, everytime I do a project that requires a lot of physical, I am in pain for days afterward.
So, sorry I had to take a break, busy and having to set myself back into the right head space again.
I will catch up on the posts so I am on track again with what has been going on with everyone.
*Hugs to all of you*
I think I would just have worn a pair of Depends!
Upset you are to be greatly commended for what you have done for that family. Most people would have tut tutted and gone about their business. Good for you.
Glad so sorry to hear about Macy, she has been with you through the roughest of times. Maybe she felt her job was done
Air quality looks better but reports say still in the red. I see blue sky and clouds?? Bro in Montana is surrounded by fire and some with very unhealthy air quality near Glacier Nat'l Park. Irma is a horrendous storm! Hoping everyone on here who lives in the areas is safe. My great niece is staying and will probably experience catagory 2 in Gainesville.
Where is Rainey??
Back to sorting and unpacking. Good day all.
and (((((((hugs)))))) also to upset. it has been a difficult week for you too.
Hope everyone in the projected path of Irma has plans for their safety, and also that anyone affected by fires stays safe.
The hacking of personal info is pretty unsettling too.
The tests went fine - let's hope the results are. The only blIp was that they had me booked for a mammogram which I had done 2 months ago, instead of the bone density. We sorted it out. Can't believe the number of errors in the medical system. My last regular thyroid meds script instructions marked on the bottle are to take it every second day. I have never done that and would be on a half dose if that were the case. I am taking it as usual. Someone goofed - I am betting on the pharmacy and have to get in there and talk to them about it. If it is my new doctor I am going to be very disappointed to say the least.
Fall leaves showing here - the yellows and golds. Don't like what lies ahead.
Have a good day everyone and do something good for you.
Floating is about right. I did a test run last week and held 3 1/2 cups for 1 1/4 hours. I hope there are no delays at the appointment desk. I don't want to have to repeat this.
I called the funeral home this morning. The body still had not been claimed. I called her husband to ask if anyone was going to. He said he didn't have the money because they had been barely scraping by since she quit her job to take care of her mother. I went to the funeral home and arranged a very simple burial with graveside service. I know the man who owns the cemetery and he donated the plot. Called and got the minister at my church to perform the service. I placed a memorial on the town FB page and said that donations were being accepted at the funeral home. I couldn't think of anything else to do and I hated the thought of her body being unclaimed. I've done all I can for her. I called her husband and said the service would be at 10:00. I've done all I can.
Golden, Good luck with testing. I'd probably be floating in my car if I drank that much water at one time.
guest - I am sorry for all the stresses you have had and still have. Granddogs are family too.
Today I have to drink 4 cups of water one hour before my ultrasound appointment. I am more concerned about my body's ability to hold the water, than I am about the results of the ultrasound. I think 3 1/2 cups will do. I just don't want to flood the table. Oh, the indignity!!! Maybe I better bring some extra clothing - just in case.😉 Then I go for a bone density test. That should be easy.The only requirement is no metal above the waist. I can do that.
Glad, just hugs. This year has been brutal. My son's dog has liver disease and we've staved it off for 8 months, but she quit eating again two days ago. My heart just hurts this week.
Please everybody take care of yourselves. This community has been such a support to me for over 6 years and even those who no longer post as their journey moved on may someday come back. And if they don't that's ok. Peace out.
We agreed we may be able to be more effective or make a better impact with more services in the new center.
I went to visit a friend this evening. A former co-worker who is in at home hospice care with ovarian cancer. Her daughter had called me and said her mom felt up to a visitor this evening. So many people who have so many illnesses. We did have a good laugh. Her twin daughters and my son graduated together. We used to talk about what careers our children would pursue. She wanted her daughters to go into medicine so they could take care of her when she was old. I told her my son would never be a caregiver (and I still believe that). Her daughters are both vets. She was laughing about having having two vets in attendance.
If I drank, tonight would be the night. I don't even have any chocolate in the house. I'll settle for two Tylenol for my headache.
Being the lone caregiver is depressing, overwhelming and just plain unfair when there are siblings. It is a hopeless feeling, like a prison, as Book said.
You have done so much with this group in such a short time, it is amazing. Determination, I guess, sympathy and driven. Good for you.
You mentioned many problems in this community. Maybe this loss will spur more action to bring awareness/ resources to the caregivers, apart from the tremendous work you are doing. I feel so badly for her children and also for her husband.
I think this incident makes caregiver support even more important. There are so many stressors in this community even if you're not a caregiver. Becoming a caregiver just piles stress on top of stress. More reason to get the center open and get more support in place. I wish it were possible to give siblings who don't want to help, a dose of what their sibling goes thru every day.
I checked with Dept of Human Services. Her mother was placed in a nursing.
And Upset, remember this always. I went to 2 different therapists. Before each session ended, they required me to verbally tell them that if I felt like ending my life, I will reach out to family, or a friend, or them or 911. I refused to give my word because when I make a promise, I keep it. But, this, I purposely lied because they wouldn't end the session without that agreement.
I'm glad that she only took her life. When I was suicidal, I knew that bedridden mom and dad would be neglected, bedsores, etc... I knew in my heart and mind that this is true. I'm glad that this website and so many people pulled me from the edge. Otherwise, my family would have had to do a funeral for 3 people.
Those of us who are seriously suicidal, we present to the world a normal face. Inside we're drowning and death beckons us to finally, finally sleep in peace forever. Death is not scary... I'm Not Suicidal. But I've been there and it's a secret that no one knows but you. I feel sooooo sorry for her. She was reaching out for help but the drowning overwhelmed her. .. I have tears for her.
There was nothing else you could have done. She said nothing to indicate her plans so you could not have helped. Many times those committing suicide will keep silent about their plans. they often appear more cheerful and settled right before they actually do it. That is probably because they have made their plans and know they will soon be free.
I have been very close to several people who have taken that route. No one that I was emotionally attached to but all the same I knew them and saw the pain they caused.
Be at peace with yourself you are doing so much to help others in distress.