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LOL!! Veronica if he would just ask questions.. he really does not know what he is doing and he gets in trouble. I do not think Kate was back on his friend list. I had to write down instructions for him so he could go on shutterfly to view pictures of our grandsons. He had no clue how to find shutterfly or why he had to log on using our daughters username and password.
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Last time the prodigal husband came home to "mama" (me) the message was loud and clear. I wonder how such intelligent men can be so nieve. His latest stupidity was to give a girl from the GED class he was tutoring a ride home. He was sorry for her because she was covered in bites from her apartment. He told me it might be bedbugs because they are rampant in out little city and he had her in his car. When I had peeled myself off the roof I had a lot to say. Turns out it was fleas not bedbugs and those I can deal with. But REALLY this man has an IQ in the clouds. No wonder Mrs Einstein got a divorce. Hang in there Sharyn.
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Yes Bessie that is true. My hubs could not liv in to original account...it could have been fb was updating or just busy... because he does not know what he is doing..he created another account. Using the same name. My hubs has little concept of time and he says she was deleted from his friend list ..he really is not sure when or if she suddenly appeared again recently because he does not tune in. I am not being naive about this that is why I told him if this is your thing...then ..you have to live with how wrong it is and I will know eventually. I am not being dumb about it...if he is up to being unfaithful...I will find out and he will be gone if it happens again. Right now I think he just doesn't think and is not tuned in enough to time or when something actually took place. My son Pi med up on immediately and texted me. So just saying..when he screws up...we are catching it...I have my wide open!!
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Kate could not add herself as his friend without his clicking to confirm. If people could do that, the privacy settings wouldn't mean anything. Sounds like she needs to be blocked.
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Just to recap on the above...my hubs just does not know what he doing and the usual issue I have with him...he is not tuned in enough. He thinks he knows when he does not. Hopefully I can get through this growing experience with him, LOL!!
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Flygirl~I am happy to hear your sister is helping you finally..Even though she is helping you, coming to this thread to help others or just to share is welcome!!!

Margeuax~sounds like you had a good thanksgiving, good for you..
Iwentanon~Yes may we all have abundant health, including you!!

We had a good relaxing dinner yesterday with my mom and sis. I separated turkey carcass into 2 different crock pots have it cooking on low but there is not enough room to add veggies, LOL!!

Tonight I logged on to facebook with a friend request from MY HUSBAND!! WTH???I yelled to him from my office asking him if he created another fb account. He said yes because he could not log in on his original account. I said You got hacked!!! Then my son texted me saying he received a friend request from his dad and it said he was no longer working for ......! I told him not to accept it, dad was hacked probably on the new account he created with no security controls added. Hubs said that Kate was back on his friend list, he does not know how??? I told him....Look, if this is what you want to do, and you feel good about yourself doing it that is perfectly ok ...THEN DO IT...I do not have the time or patience for it. He said he was not talking with her, does not know how she got on his friend list. I have come to the conclusion, my husband has no idea how to work the internet. This blows me away for someone who is very intelligent, uses a computer at work. Of course at work, he is using a program specifically for their needs, but he has only recently started to explore the internet at home.
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Emjo23, No mom would not be able to tell me about things. Her memory is about 10 minutes long.
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I am thankful for this site and in turn, to all of you, who share in our caregiving journey, may we find ourselvesabundant with health, happiness, hope and strength.
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So I went to the Thanksgivng for orphans. The guy, bless his heart who has this every year invites so many people. Basically.....it's for people who've moved to our state, and don't have family. Then, I'm sure there's many people like myself, who'd rather spend it away from dysfunctional family.

He hires a guy who frys up lots of turkeys. I've decided that I don't care for the fried version of turkey. They are so bland. i much rather prefer a roasted one, because I really think that turkey does well amping up the flavor with herbs and spices. Maybe I'll make one during the Christmas season.

I made a sweet potato casserole. I wanted to do a ying and yang recipe which is bringing down the sweet flavor of the sweet potato. So I had plans to layer the bottom of casserole with green beans, and forgot to buy them. So I substituted with cabbage, onions and celery. I layered it on the bottom of casserole then added the sweet potato on top, with a good pinch of cayenne. So it was spicy and sweet.

My husband, who always gives me his funny advice about my recipes. He said, that the plate/casserole is all about presentation. HAAH! Apparently, he thought it didn't look so appealing. I know he judged this by the fact that the casserole didn't get completely eaten. There wasn't much left really. Actually we went a bit late to this event, which next year I'm pushing to show up earlier. By the time we arrived the first seating of people had attacked the side dishes table, and it's very big. There are tons of side dishes, it was probably just my husbands nit picky way about things. He suggested, that I just make the sweet potatoes in their whole form, or cut them up. I almost did that, but thought casserole would be a more exciting way. Oh well! We just can't seem to please the non-cooking masses.
So, I just replied to him, "Well honey....that's really a whole different menu, and this time I opted for a casserole." He like it none the less. Good thing was, I had some saved in the fridge and last night I turned it into a Sheppard's pie of sorts.
Oh boy did he love that, so did I!

I had some good conversation with someone I hadn't seen in 4 yrs.
We talked about how we really enjoy attending this Thanksgiving with friends,
and how he felt the very same way, that spending it with family for him is like spending it with polite strangers. Thank you to the author of that phrase, so fitting.

I hope everyone survived their Thanksgiving.

Much Love & Light! Margeaux

It was fun all in all our orphan Thansksgiving.

Much
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Hi all - sounds like Thanksgiving went well for most who posted.

sharyn - how lovely. I did video calls with Em when dd and sil lived down east for a while. Modern technology can be great. Those babies will grow so fast...

glad - wonderful that you are having a good break. Well deserved! The TSs need to know what you go through week after week.

brandy - not sure what to say about the orderly - everyone gave good advice. Can your mum let you know if anything happens? Keep us posted.

Austin - so nice to have family around. Hope all travelling are safe. The roads here are dreadful and I am so thankful that G has a large truck, though he needs to keep weight in the box.

Me -good you are thankful for even the pets. Hope they settle down. As Austin said - a spray bottle of water works for many.

Welcome Leah. Absentee siblings is one of the common themes here. Better absentee than making trouble, but neither is good. There are those who do the work, and there are those don't, and some who criticise and want money. I am not sure they will regret it. I think they make their choices very aware of what they are doing. Good for you for hanging in there. Sounds like your mum was a good mum and that is not always the case.

book - do Tums help? Yes, that technology is more and more in the work place. G's meeting this week was the people in the west videoconferencing with the east. Cheaper than flying them all down east. I wouldn't be surprised if they have more meetings this way to save money.

fligirl - I am so glad that you are getting some help. Hope your pain subsides. The Black Friday thing from CM was funny! Commercial greed is amazing.

More snow here again, though the temps are up, but with wind chill still pretty bad. RCMP are advising against travel, not that I am thinking of going farther than the local stores. Online shopping is great for so many things. It looks so peaceful outside - all white and clean. Got an invoice and a note from mother's shopper about the outings which continue to go well. Mother bought herself some winter boots at an atrocious price, and other things. I am glad I don't have to shop for her any more for a while. So thankful for this lady. I gather the SW has a list of other ladies should we need it. D is pretty booked up. Also got mother's tax refund and the tax service paid for, arranged for for another 6 months of furniture storage & sent in post dated cheques, as well as paying D. Should be good for a while.

Guts doing pretty well in the alternate meds and no side effects so far - YAY! I have been losing some hair on the other one (a known side effect). Happened before. My hairdresser and I have noticed, but no one else has, and I am off it now, so it will grow back.

Hope every one has a good weekend. Thinking of those who haven't posted for a while. Do let us know how you are.

Do something good for you today!
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At this point I will no longer need to post on this thread. My sister who I have talked about many times has had a come to Jesus meeting. She came up on Tuesday and is staying until tomorrow. She missed Thanksgiving with her husband and is really giving me a break, she is getting up at 4 am, mom is on oxygen now and breathing treatment. I am in so much pain my back and neck, I think it got aggravated sleeping in one of those uncomfortable fold out bed thingsin the hospital for 3 nights.. Man I cant seem to get back to just a little pain, which I have trained myself to have. I hope you all had a nice Thanksgiving, we are having ours on Sunday due to mom being in recovery. I just read on my whine moment, I think it was CM, about not even having a Thanksgiving Day there but a Black Friday. It hit me so funny I almost fell out of my chair.
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Sharyn, One Tin Soldier! I love that song! I learned that song in middle school - in our music class. I knew it was a sad song at that time. But, it was the tune that I liked about it. Then when I was in high school, I read the lyrics of the song. The meaning of the song finally hit me. I got so depress. I still like that song.

I'm trying to fight against being so modernized. I'm torn about getting a FaceBook account so that I can keep updated with my siblings in the states. And then I need to change my cell phone from prepaid to a monthly account so that I can have online access. Having a prepaid cell phone is very limiting. Then I need to get Skype (kindle and laptop) but.....

The reason I'm mentioning this is because when I hear stories like Sharyn just shared, it makes me realize how limiting I'm making myself. I could Skype to my siblings. =( Not really.. don't care for that. But... I need to get with 'it' because nowadays in the work place, receptionists and assistant aides are into these stuff as part of their job. sigh...

Thanks, Sharyn. I was gluttonous yesterday. I stuffed myself at lunch, then dinner and the midnight 'snack' which was really a meal and not a snack. Today is the first time I've had a really bad acid reflux in months. Because I rarely get it now, I don't carry with me the Gas-X. 9pm and still miserable - in the guts. Do I regret eating all that food yesterday. Nope!
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Hi, I'm in the same situation..my mom had a blood clog stroke in 2010 we all came down from Cali when it happen, I'm the youngest of 5 girls and I have 3 brothers. That day we all talk about how we gonna care for our mother everyone accept my younger brother wanted our mother in a home which I didn't agree due to some experience I had when my grand mother was in one back in California, all my oldest sibling said I have to be the one to care for our mother so since that day I realize they don't want to take responsibility to care for our mother , so I told them I will care for our mother since they don't want to. Everyone said that day they will help out and do what our mother needs and they will be there for me in what i need and our mother....Well sad to say THEY DIDNT DO NOTHING UP TO THIS DAY..the only one that's trully been there for me from day one is my baby brother all the the older siblins DONE CRAP lol...it's soooo stressing at times missing my kids and my grand kids in California but since none of my other sisters are willing to help care for our mother I put my life on hold and do what I can for my mom as long as she needs me...they all say they love our mother and stuff but they really don't show it, it's just words coming from their mouths at times. So I'm at the point I really don't care anymore cause I know I'm bless just having her here even in her stage of health...people always ask me how I can deal with being home 24/7 and dealing with my mothers condition and dirty diapers and transferring her to the wheel chair, all I tell them is I GIVE GOD ALL THE CREDIT for giving me patience and strength and a heart full of love for me to endured all this everyday...my family are sooooo disfunctional in so many ways and I can see they don't want to put their lives on hold to care for our mother but the time will come and they will regret it but it will be too late.....
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Happy Thanksgiving Glad...you deserve this time..tomorrow and Saturday I get to mellow out, LO!!
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Hope everyone had as calm a day as I did! Wonderful to be away for a few days and thinking of the twisted ones and the difficulties they ate having, what I deal with every day. And I am thankful I have the patience and perserverence to do this job.
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Happy Thanksgiving to everyone, (mentioning those who post now and then because they are not forgotten), Jessiebelle, Brandwine, Book, Alison, Sandwich, Looloo, Linda and of course Cmag, without Cmag there would not be this thread!!!

I worked today, managed to get off work by 4:20. When I got home, my daughter had texted me saying to call her. I called her, I ended up face timing with my grandsons' while she bathed one, I entertained the other. It was so awesome...they cooed, smiled and did the fussy cry while I talked and sang to them. My daughter and I sang together "One Tin Soldier"...it brought tears to my eyes.The emotional connections are the strongest for me.
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Happy Thanksgiving Everyone!!!!! I am also grateful for what I do have, incl my family, ( yes pets included) friends and you all.
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I am so thankful for this site, the friends on it, and all the nice things people have said to me on here. It is a good support group. Happy Thanksgiving.
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I am very thankful for all my friends here on AC-heard from Cmag the other day it reinforced how special all of you are to me-getting over our first real snowstorm of the winter-glad we are not celebrating until tomorrow-my daughter has a distance to drive down here and tomorrow will be better even though the roads will be packed with people going to the malls .
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I too am thankful for this thread and everyone who posts here whether regularly or just when they can.
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Happy Thanksgiving to all in the US.

I find things to be thankful for everyday and especially on special days.

Today I am thankful for the staff at the hospital for dealing with mother and being a go between,. She had a fit when she got back the things she gave me to be altered - not because they weren't done right, though that will probably come too, but because now she thinks she has too much clothing and doesn't want me to send her any more. She didn't remember perhaps, anyway didn't acknowledge, that she had given me them to be altered. The SW called and said there was a temp nurse who I guess didn't know how to handle this very well. Oh dear. The SW was amazed as mother had asked for the alterations and pretty well anything else I have sent or brought her. I said that was par for the course for mother. I don't jump to fill her requests for that reason. Sometimes she changes her mind once you have done it, and gets mad that you have, or whatever - one way or another she gets mad and tells you off for not doing things right. I might as well save my energy. Many of you know that scene. I can laugh at it from here - not so nice when it is in your face, or ear. I am wondering if she really needs a phone where she is going. hmmmm

The SW knows no more the coming move than I do. G was at a meeting out of town till today, so he is free now if they call - another thing to be thankful for. Hopefully he won't have another out of town meeting till after Christmas.

Snow and more snow the next couple of days, Guts acting up a bit probably because I reduced meds - trying to manage with less. I think I will try the other one again and take it at bedtime so I have brain fog while I am sleeping rather than during the daytime. :p

Hope everyone has a good day/turkey when ever you have it. I did ours a couple of weeks after Canadian Thanksgiving due to G's schedule.
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In spite of all the family crap, I am thankful too!! Happy Thanksgiving everyone!!!!
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It takes about 3-4 days to defrost in the fridge-you can run cold water over it the days you are cooking it to defrost the last bit-I heard you should turn it upside down for the first hour when cooking to make it come out juicer and also heard to put it in a cold oven then turn it on to make it moister -I always tent it with heavy duty foil and this year-another hint sprinkle salt pepper and garlic on before cooking.
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I took my turkey out of the freezer Monday night and left it on the counter overnight. I put it in the fridge Tuesday morning. It should be thawed for Friday.
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That was part of my giving thanks, for Thanksgiving.

Much Love & Light! Margeaux
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I am thankful for this thread and all the wonderful people I've made friends with
exchanging our stories and ideas. I am thankful for my family, even if I gripe about them, and my husband. I am thankful for the world, nature, and the cosmos.

Much Love & Light! Margeaux
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How are all of you doing with your turkeys?
If you buy a frozen one, they take a long time to defrost, don''t they.
A few years ago, there was a news report about several postal employees who had turkeys defrosting in the trunks of their cars. I couldn't believe that. Of course the news report was about safely defrosting your turkey. I had a good laugh about it.

Happy Thanksgiving!
Much Love & Light! Margeaux
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Sharynmarie,

So, I'm happy you found the Savory. Thanks for the spices/herb post.
I also will make a butternut squash, (if I find a few at the store) they were kind of low a few days ago. I'm going to make some kind of casserole to take to a big potluck we attend. That should be fun.

O.K., it's been getting colder down here at night and in the morning.
It may be time to get those extra socks, leg warmers or whatever we resort to for colder weather.

Hugs,
Much Love & Light! Margeaux
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Brandy,

Listen.......I realize that it's very difficult for your to make the trips to see your mother.
But if you are sensing something out of sorts regarding this male nurse, and it worries you, what do you have to lose by calling that nursing home and talking to the director, or head nurse. This could be followed up by either an email or a letter.
At the very least......they would be on alert, there would also be some kind of documentation about him. Sometimes we do have to take our courage into our hands, and just do it. I do understand about the relationship about you and your sister, but please......if it's for your mother's well being try to stop being so intimidated by your sister. As we can see from current news, sometimes silence isn't golden.

Courage!!
Hugs,
Much Love & Light! Margeaux
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Timetoact,

I am so sorry for the passing of your father. He sounds like he was a wonderful man.
May his spirit soar very high.

What you brother wants to do, is terrible. How is your relationship with your other siblings? Maybe between several of you, it could be pointed out to him that
this is inappropriate at this time.

I definitely know what this feels like. When my father passed away, just after a month......mother (who was always insensitive), had our golden boy brother, also the insensitive type, haul away several loads of things that belonged to my dad to the dump. I couldn't believe this I thought a months time, was just too soon.
Even though in my mother's eyes, she always thought dad's things were junk, I thought it would have been a nicer gesture to the kind of man my dad was, who was generous and never forgot where he came from.....would have been to donate these items to the less fortunate. But oh no! Mother who grew up in the Depression era, then made pretty well in terms of her money, thought of herself as some kind of rich person. I was in the throes of grief, and I did protest to mother at some point. Really do not think it made a difference, but at least I spoke up, and that felt good! Anyway, I completely feel for you. You have every right to point this out to him, even if you do it by yourself.

Hugs,
Much Love & Light! Margeaux
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