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Me, it will work out. Let him buy the mower, cheerfully. How old is your son? Maybe he would cut grandpa's lawn, the exercise and feeling of being useful may be good for him.

This week has been stressful. Yesterday was the worst because of sisters that just have no clue. And in general enjoy making my life more difficult. Today I think I am past it, never was one to wallow in my own misery. It just is not productive.
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I know I agree and argued with him again.. I mean I know its a year away but even my dad and I are fighting about it. I just spoke with grandpa and he said I have no choice to cut it its part of keeping up the property. That it will be my fault if I dont do the lawn and its 400 a year to pay someone etc. Omg Idk what to do anymore. Ummm I been saving him money by doing my own lately but I just cant hack his too. He said its part of it and he refuses to pay anyone else to do it anymore! No he doesnt have his own mower but hes buying it this month on sale ready for next year. Thats not bad for your lawn service!!! If I oay for service for granpas house it will come out of my pocket once I get a job and he will hound me on wasting money. Thanks for your idea though. Hope your doing well today
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ME, no you should not do the lawn too! Get names of neighbor kids that would do it, if he has the mower for a reasonable amount. We have a lawn service, professionals that do spring and fall cleanup and cut the lawn. Lawn charge is $26.00 a week, the cleanup has varied between 200 and 250. And it is a large lot probably 1/4 acre.
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I was debating to put this under caregiver burnout or here, so I chose here. I am sooo tired.. grandpa hasnt slept well in a few days up during the night esp last night ( we all have colds doesnt help) My son has been waking me up and I cant really sleep during the day either because I get woken up calls, appts, running,grandpa, phones etc...As I mentioned Im behind on my house and yard work and back on fourth on looking for a job that I desperately need! So I clean grandpas house too which is fine because its really organized and no clutter but his lawn no way can I hack that too. So hes hired people and sometimes hired for my yard. So why am I complaining yet again over the same old? I have something new to add!

He is buying a lawnmower so I can cut his lawn back and front every week!!! Omg I cant I just cant add that too!!! I told him that he got mad and said he is buying it and I will take over its not hard the females on the block does theirs! Yes I know how but mentally and physically now? Ask me that 10 years ago or more and I would have! Not now. It seems so whiny of me to not want to mow his too but two houses in and outside, and a job and two ill adults, my kids, pets, ummm even though its a year away Im already panicking!!!! Am I wrong here? I feel like holding up a sign that strikers use chanting or screaming " hel* no I wont do it"!!!
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;thanks everyone. She had blood clots in the uterus that caused blood loss. They removed the clots and gave transfusion. She is stable and resting. I spoke to her on the phone.
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Your daughters in my thoughts sharynmarie
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Congratulations Granny !!!!! That is some big boys !!!! I will share with you that when my son had his awful car wreck...... my job was the last thing on my mind..... there would be no choice for me here.....my children come first......I hope you stay.... lots of love and hugs..
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Sharyn, do not waste time, call union and take FMLA to get additional time to help daughter!
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Sharyn, that's a shame, your having to leave so promptly. As I remember it, too, Monday-Wednesday is when daughter will be needing extra cuddles; though now she's been delivered her preeclampsia symptoms should settle down nice and quickly, God willing. Is there no way you can take any more leave? [What's the emoticon for a pout???]
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Thanks everyone! My daughter is still having complcations to the preeclampsia. She lost 2 liters of blood and had a transfusion. She is doing good now. My employer pulled a fast one on me, i have to be at work on monday so i have to leave sunday. I will not leave unless my daughter is fine.
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sandwich42plus- Ok I will take your advice thank you! Sorry you had such a hard time getting the 504. Thanks for sharing!

kazzaa- Thats wonderful to hear! See, I think everyone regardless has at least one major talent thank you for sharing!

gladimhere- True the more exercise for our kids ( and me but not going there lol) is better and does help. Thanks for sharing!
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sharynmarie!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Yeah thank you for the great news! Congrats and enjoy! Love the names too :)
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Sharyn, congrats! Enjoy them. I hope all are well and made it through delivery OK.
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SM, wonderful, CONGRATULATIONS grandma! And two, big boys! I imagine everybody is doing fine. I remember when each of my four grand babies were born, it was love at first sight! Enjoy them and love them.
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Thank you Book and CM!
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Mazel tov! So exciting Sharyn! BIG twins! Your daughter is a clever girl. Don't forget to get some sleep tonight, will you :)
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Congratulations, Sharyn!! I'm so happy for you, your daughter and all the families involved with these new members of the family. {{{HUGS}}}
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WHOO HOO...ethan and logan born c-section at 12;11 am. Ethan is 6.11 and logan is 5.14. One looks like my daughter (logan) and ethan looks like my sil!! They are so adorable, I am in love!!
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Talking about kids missing recess brings back a memory of the first disagreement that I ever had with a teacher about discipline for a busy body and busy mouth. My oldest when in Kindergarten was so happy to be there, had so many friends she just could not contain herself. Her teacher to punish her started keeping her in for recess. I went to talk with the teacher and told her I thought that was exactly the wrong thing to do. Don't remember what I suggested instead, maybe extra homework or something. But, my daughter needed recess to burn up energy that was just building up if she stayed in. While I don't remember the outcome it must have worked since I don't think there were any lingering repercussions.
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Yoo Hoo, Sharyn!
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sandwich42 my sister was dating a guy a few years ago AND he was one of the top scientists in Ireland i couldnt believe it when she told me he had "aspergers" so yes not a disability at all i mean this guy was a genius! I have a friend who is an "adhd" teacher so i know alot about it through her shes amazing with these kids so passionate about what she does!
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The 504 plan is also written by the school - same people who wrote the IEP- but it follows the child out of highschool, wherever they go. It has to be honored by colleges, workplaces, wherever they go on to. It's part of the ADA legislation, and if anybody doesn't provide those accommodations, they can be taken to court.

For some reason I have had a REALLY hard time getting a 504 for my son. My mistake was letting them remove his IEP and not have a 504 to replace it immediately. I should not have agreed to do that until the 504 had been completed. Now I know..some good it does me.

It's a delicate thing though. It's not something the 504-owner should bring up with at a job interview! Places won't hire people who might need accommodation that costs money or sounds like trouble, but they will never tell you that's why they didn't hire because that's illegal too.
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sandwich42plus- Im typing and reading super slow today! Yes medicaid really needs to be in this time era! Very true and you have the right ways to tell them" wired differently" Neighbors and some family dont get either that or mental disorder grr. Im so sorry about them advancing your son like that, he couldnt switch it? I wish him luck if he stays in, just because any child does perfect in one class doesnt mean the higher one is best. I know I wouldnt make it. Thank you
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sandwich42plus- Im sorry he had to switch but I have heard good things about Concerta too. Im glad your son is doing well on this one too and gained some weight!! Its so sad to see them not hungry and losing weight isnt it? I like the patch so far, its easier for him to take it but oh my is it expensive! It felt good staying the extra two hours at my house with my kids! You know, even though my son is in Private School, I believe they have to follow the IEP ( never heard of 504) but my sons Dr never game him one. Why is that? Are all kids in this situation suppose to get one or do they wait and see how meds work first? Im going to bring it up to the Dr and his school. Great idea thanks!
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Maybe medicaid sees memory care as just a super-max security psych unit, versus a nursing home where it's all about the skilled nursing provided. How out of date! Memory care residents in particular need skilled nursing, not just containment.

We've tried really hard to keep our son from thinking his ADHD & Aspergers are disabilities. It's not mental illness either. His brain is just wired differently, and he has a hard time with certain executive functions like planning work. You have to be super explicit with him on what you mean and not leave anything up to him filling in the blanks with assumptions. You also have to tell him why he has to do everything because it's not obvious to him. Some fool put him in AP English for 10th grade, because he's in an AP math class. Oh lordy help me now. That is going to frustrate him to no end, having to dissect literature and write essays. If it's subjective, he hates it. What are literature classes? Totally subjective.
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sharynmarie- Thats a great idea! I will do this tonight and see how it goes! Im waiting to hear the baby news soon!

gladimhere- I agree with you oh and he does believe in "going senile" he even told me to ground my son and keep in in all day today because he didnt want to finish his work! Ok yes he gets lazy or puts off, I do to, and my son could put more effort in too ( its not all about the meds) but overall in my heart I feel he just couldnt do it on time but yet he got a 90 on his spelling test today!!! Hes smart just has to have the right balance and techniques to guide him besides med. Oh thats true about medicaid. But how come they dont request payback for kids on medicaid and only the adults esp for a nursing home? I didnt know that they charged differently like depending on mental or physical status. Hopefully things will improve.
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ME1000 - my 15 year old is ADHD/Aspergers PDD-NOS. The daytrana patch worked so much better for him than oral Ritalin. It didn't kill his apetite, and he stopped being underweight! Insurance stopped covering it, so last year he switched to Concerta time-release, and it was just almost as good. When they have growth spurts though, you find out through school behavior reports in the classes at the end of the day! Usually after 2 p.m. for us. That's how I know it's time to talk about dosage. The patch didn't have that problem.

GOOD FOR YOU spending time with your kids! Does your son have an IEP or 504 plan at school, so he can get more time on assignments, alternative test taking, and a set of class books at home? If not, you can by law get those things for him at no cost to you.
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ME, you touch on policy that just burns me right now by mention in ADHD. Regardless of the mental disorder many people think if you cannot see an illness it must not be real. This could apply to ADHD, schizophrenia, bipolar, vascular dementia, and yes, Alzheimer's. Because Alzheimer's cannot be seen it is treated very differently in terms of government policy. For example transfer of real estate property to a family caregiver after caring for a parent for longer than three years is only permissible under Medicaid if the parent is admitted to a nursing home. Does not apply if they enter memory care. But if they are I'll with cancer it applies. Why should admission to memory care be treated differently than a nursing home? Those with Alzheimer's and other dementias need specialized care in spite of many still be mobile. Memory care is nearly as costly as nursing homes once level of care is added. And perhaps patient staff ratio would decrease if this were recognized.
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Me-just a suggestion....would it be beneficial for your son if you read to him? Kids learn in different ways and your read could actuallly be very helpful. Glad you liked the labor day joke!!

Dr broke water for baby a...very slow progress through. The night. I went home about 1:30am as daughter seemed annoyed with me so I thought best to go get some sleep. Will pop in around 10 for a short visit.
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sharynmarie- Ha I love how you said "Hey...labor day is coming up!!" I like that!!!

emjo23- Im sorry your going through such a bad infection. Your in my thoughts to heal faster and feel better! Its hard not to be walked on isnt it? Sorry you are too.
You did a wonderful thing for your daughter and how nice of you not to throw it in her face! Thats what I feel family should do, help and just be there because they want to not because they have to give guilt trips! Good luck if you move too!

gladimhere- Im so sorry about all your going through and its a shame your sisters wouldnt help. You dont need anymore stress! Im so sorry about your house, I couldnt even imagine. Hopefully they can get everything cleaned up and rebuilt quickly. ( Also sorry about you going through the false accusations too) Your in my thoughts hugs

micheledigi- Thats so sad what your sister did to you and your husband! Its horrible when people make false accusations and start drama and pain for their own reasons. You and your husband are wonderful to have taken care of your mom for so long and still are even though shes in a secured unit. Im not your sis but thank you for being caring :) Hugs


**** Well over 4 hours of homework last night only with my son. Spelling he did quickly but was behind on his reading for a book report.. 90 easy easy pages which he had week to read it in, but couldnt sit still long enough to read it! And was only 20 minutes a day and start writing each day! The more work it is its harder for him to do it. This morning another hr but still only half done poor baby. He is now on 15mg of Daytrana Patch for his adhd and clonidine for sleep and anger and adhd its suppose to help but not sure about the dose yet. Granpa and I fought this morning at 5am because he says theres no such thing as ADHD no mental disorder other then schizophrenia, downs syndrome and autism where the child cant function. My daughter is undiagnosed High Functioning Asperger ( mainly no facial expression, lack social skills, and hygiene) son as you know with all his issues but again my daughter doesnt have it or she couldnt be passing! Uggh there's different types and severity! Also Im yelled at because I have a cold and sent my dad yesterday who also has a cold and is preparing for heart surgery ( well once the cold is gone anyways) And Im there all night grandpa just cant or wont see it!!! Im so tired havent slept good in a few days and when I try to sleep Im not allowed!!! Blah.. its only 7:18am!!! Long day ahead! At least Im getting a good old strawberry shake from whaterburger!!! Yeah me! And I read my sons book helping him lastnight.. ok, a kids book but yeah I read a whole book!! Oh add to my Aunt is demanding a copy of the will because its changed but believe me really its better for her! She didnt have the last copy and she has to come here to put it through probate anyways! Why does she need a copy of it ? Why a copy of this one? Im also down to put it through probate if she cant but I dont want a copy its safe with grandpa where it belongs..sealed!!! Am I wrong?
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