
Many of us, myself included, come from a dysfunctional family which adds a lot of weight to the challenges of caregiving. I have read stores on various threads on other topics and decided it would be good to have a thread just for this topic for people to share, vent and discuss.
The idea for this thread originated on the thread named "The Caregiver....How are YOU doing today?"
This week has been stressful. Yesterday was the worst because of sisters that just have no clue. And in general enjoy making my life more difficult. Today I think I am past it, never was one to wallow in my own misery. It just is not productive.
He is buying a lawnmower so I can cut his lawn back and front every week!!! Omg I cant I just cant add that too!!! I told him that he got mad and said he is buying it and I will take over its not hard the females on the block does theirs! Yes I know how but mentally and physically now? Ask me that 10 years ago or more and I would have! Not now. It seems so whiny of me to not want to mow his too but two houses in and outside, and a job and two ill adults, my kids, pets, ummm even though its a year away Im already panicking!!!! Am I wrong here? I feel like holding up a sign that strikers use chanting or screaming " hel* no I wont do it"!!!
kazzaa- Thats wonderful to hear! See, I think everyone regardless has at least one major talent thank you for sharing!
gladimhere- True the more exercise for our kids ( and me but not going there lol) is better and does help. Thanks for sharing!
For some reason I have had a REALLY hard time getting a 504 for my son. My mistake was letting them remove his IEP and not have a 504 to replace it immediately. I should not have agreed to do that until the 504 had been completed. Now I know..some good it does me.
It's a delicate thing though. It's not something the 504-owner should bring up with at a job interview! Places won't hire people who might need accommodation that costs money or sounds like trouble, but they will never tell you that's why they didn't hire because that's illegal too.
We've tried really hard to keep our son from thinking his ADHD & Aspergers are disabilities. It's not mental illness either. His brain is just wired differently, and he has a hard time with certain executive functions like planning work. You have to be super explicit with him on what you mean and not leave anything up to him filling in the blanks with assumptions. You also have to tell him why he has to do everything because it's not obvious to him. Some fool put him in AP English for 10th grade, because he's in an AP math class. Oh lordy help me now. That is going to frustrate him to no end, having to dissect literature and write essays. If it's subjective, he hates it. What are literature classes? Totally subjective.
gladimhere- I agree with you oh and he does believe in "going senile" he even told me to ground my son and keep in in all day today because he didnt want to finish his work! Ok yes he gets lazy or puts off, I do to, and my son could put more effort in too ( its not all about the meds) but overall in my heart I feel he just couldnt do it on time but yet he got a 90 on his spelling test today!!! Hes smart just has to have the right balance and techniques to guide him besides med. Oh thats true about medicaid. But how come they dont request payback for kids on medicaid and only the adults esp for a nursing home? I didnt know that they charged differently like depending on mental or physical status. Hopefully things will improve.
GOOD FOR YOU spending time with your kids! Does your son have an IEP or 504 plan at school, so he can get more time on assignments, alternative test taking, and a set of class books at home? If not, you can by law get those things for him at no cost to you.
Dr broke water for baby a...very slow progress through. The night. I went home about 1:30am as daughter seemed annoyed with me so I thought best to go get some sleep. Will pop in around 10 for a short visit.
emjo23- Im sorry your going through such a bad infection. Your in my thoughts to heal faster and feel better! Its hard not to be walked on isnt it? Sorry you are too.
You did a wonderful thing for your daughter and how nice of you not to throw it in her face! Thats what I feel family should do, help and just be there because they want to not because they have to give guilt trips! Good luck if you move too!
gladimhere- Im so sorry about all your going through and its a shame your sisters wouldnt help. You dont need anymore stress! Im so sorry about your house, I couldnt even imagine. Hopefully they can get everything cleaned up and rebuilt quickly. ( Also sorry about you going through the false accusations too) Your in my thoughts hugs
micheledigi- Thats so sad what your sister did to you and your husband! Its horrible when people make false accusations and start drama and pain for their own reasons. You and your husband are wonderful to have taken care of your mom for so long and still are even though shes in a secured unit. Im not your sis but thank you for being caring :) Hugs
**** Well over 4 hours of homework last night only with my son. Spelling he did quickly but was behind on his reading for a book report.. 90 easy easy pages which he had week to read it in, but couldnt sit still long enough to read it! And was only 20 minutes a day and start writing each day! The more work it is its harder for him to do it. This morning another hr but still only half done poor baby. He is now on 15mg of Daytrana Patch for his adhd and clonidine for sleep and anger and adhd its suppose to help but not sure about the dose yet. Granpa and I fought this morning at 5am because he says theres no such thing as ADHD no mental disorder other then schizophrenia, downs syndrome and autism where the child cant function. My daughter is undiagnosed High Functioning Asperger ( mainly no facial expression, lack social skills, and hygiene) son as you know with all his issues but again my daughter doesnt have it or she couldnt be passing! Uggh there's different types and severity! Also Im yelled at because I have a cold and sent my dad yesterday who also has a cold and is preparing for heart surgery ( well once the cold is gone anyways) And Im there all night grandpa just cant or wont see it!!! Im so tired havent slept good in a few days and when I try to sleep Im not allowed!!! Blah.. its only 7:18am!!! Long day ahead! At least Im getting a good old strawberry shake from whaterburger!!! Yeah me! And I read my sons book helping him lastnight.. ok, a kids book but yeah I read a whole book!! Oh add to my Aunt is demanding a copy of the will because its changed but believe me really its better for her! She didnt have the last copy and she has to come here to put it through probate anyways! Why does she need a copy of it ? Why a copy of this one? Im also down to put it through probate if she cant but I dont want a copy its safe with grandpa where it belongs..sealed!!! Am I wrong?