
Many of us, myself included, come from a dysfunctional family which adds a lot of weight to the challenges of caregiving. I have read stores on various threads on other topics and decided it would be good to have a thread just for this topic for people to share, vent and discuss.
The idea for this thread originated on the thread named "The Caregiver....How are YOU doing today?"
Thanks for listening,
Christine
That's an awful lot of work you do at this store. Interesting how these jobs double up on employees, you end up going out of your way for their a***s, and then the employee has to be thinking "they're not being alert enough." Duuuhhhhhh!
They have a lot of responsibility here too. Don't you think it's kind of strange, that even in the circumstance of running out of supplies.....they don't have a back up system of sorts, to assist the entire operation. O.K., but I do understand about employees doing everything in their power to keep their jobs too.
This is exactly what my brother has been experiencing at his job. I heard just the other day, from my sister, that the day after he'd been written up once more, he was now worried again. He received a broken box on a pallet he had to dispatch to NY. Well, when he received it....the contents (papers) had come completely out of the box, and papers flew everywhere. He did a patch job and sent it on it's way. Well now he was stressing, that if they complain for the way the package arrived, they will track it back to him. Oh!! Paaaleeeez!
O.K., I hope things are mellow there tomorrow.
Hugs,
Much Love & Light! Margeaux
Christine - sounds like your fil needs a facility and the sooner the better
sandwich - your mum is loony tunes. I had to stop taking calls as they triggered the PTSD
cm - these special occasions are very stressful. Breathe deep - frequently. Keep us updated, vent often. The day(s) will go off well so try to enjoy some of it.
Austin -how are you doing? I know your house is empty with your your beloved kitty.
Hi to everyone else - look after you
judda - Gary and I are marrying. I have been doing a little wedding shopping between the other stuff- it gives me a lift. We don't have a date yet. Gary will prob freak out if I try to set one as he likes to be spontaneous. He can get ready in a day or two. I can't. So far I have been able to get what I want for me here. We need to discuss where this will happen - if it needs to be near his parents who are around 90 and prob not up to travelling too much. My granddaughter has been wanting to be my flower girl since before Gary lol. Lots of fun!
Sharyn could have used those chickens! LOL!
Re the freezer: later mother accused me of filling it with chicken. I had a vision of hiring someone to creep into her apartment in the dead of night with a sack of frozen chicken and stuffing it in her freezer. Another time she called me and cursed me and told me I was not her daughter any more. (Does that mean I can give up POA?) A little later she called and said she shouldn't have cursed me, but she meant the rest. My eye muscles are getting lots of exercise from them being rolled.
glad - the link you posted it is a fun thread.
saw the doc -went for more thyroid tests, my BP was normal -a nice little nurse took it - I seem to do better with nurses.
got mothers change of address done and her newspaper cancelled. Left to do is the cable company, who I can call and the phone,which I think is done through the ALF.
Now to figure out how to get all that chicken back home before it thaws lol.
Oh, the good news is that Gary found my good camera in his truck. The bad news is that he put it in a safe place in the back seat and he can't find it. The rings are still gone :(.
before I forget, ABB - since the basement was cleaned and bleached my cough is almost gone. I will get the ducts cleaned too. Do look after you!!!
Same to everyone and do something good for you today.
It feel good to actually write these things down. I am so resentful at having to spend so much time with her that for a long time I resisted doing so because it seemed like it would be that much more time I had to devote to her instead of my own life and interests.
Thanks for being here!
WOW! She says all that? Mondo bizzaro.
Good that you're keeping the sense of humor about it.
Much Love & Lilght! Margeaux
Still waiting on the insurance company aaaargh. They have not had a report from the adjuster. Gary can give a quote and so can the lads in the basement. so I guess we will go that way.
To do something good for me, I got some undies for under my wedding dress, and some shoes - haven't had fun shopping for a while. Got a pair with HIGH heels. Gary is tall and the dress is long -may have to have it taken up a bit in front. This is a nice break from the other stuff and something just for me!
Do something good for you today
Getting mother's move organised, mail redirected etc. I will make 2 trips to Eton re the move. This weekend G and I will get started getting boxes and putting stuff into the unit I have booked. The following weekend we will complete it. I have bought mother some new clothing that is washable and will pass it on to the SW for her. Her 102nd birthday was yesterday. She wants no one to know where she is. O- kay! I have started sor
I ended up not answering t
I erased my cell phone number off the whiteboard in her room, so I haven't had any more calls to it thankfully.
She said she was going to fight the "little split tails" as she likes to call other younger women (PT, OT, nurses mostly) who came in to test her blood glucose or make her move her legs. Good luck with that. I am waiting on the call to be told they've had to put her in restraints. I really am.
I am with you on trying to find the humor at times, Glad! Whew. I have to keep reminding myself that my FIL can't help it, that he isn't doing this on purpose to make my life h*ll. And also realizing that he wasn't a very nice person to begin with, he was an abusive bully, and as is often the case this was kept as a 'family secret' so not known to the outside world. I keep seeing the photos on this and other websites of happy older people with their kids hugging them. And I wish that could be the picture here. So I have to do a little 'mental photoshopping' every now and then and just remember to be kind. He doesn't know who I am, but I am kind to him, and as his wife is mad at him and he doesn't know who Charles is and thinks he is my MIL's boyfriend he feels that I am the only one he can trust, in a weird way. So I guess that gives me a way to get through to him, for whatever small bit gets through. As I told him yesterday, you can sit around and think of all the choices you regret or mistakes you made and be mad and miserable. Or you can think about the great things that you did or that happened, and feel a sense of accomplishment. I need to listen to my own advice. :)
Thanks for listening
Christine
I apologize if this seems callous. I really did think it clever of CM to say it is a good thing they are not feeding her, no intestine and all. LOL! If only I could remember to just agree with what my mom tells me then try to find the humor in it. If we all practiced this our jobs would become less stressful!
Oh Lordy I don't know what you do about the, um, how can we put it, toe-curling vocabulary. One of those situations when even though you know you're not responsible for it you still wish the ground would open up and swallow you.
Do they do aversion therapy for dementia sufferers? Just a forlorn thought...