
Many of us, myself included, come from a dysfunctional family which adds a lot of weight to the challenges of caregiving. I have read stores on various threads on other topics and decided it would be good to have a thread just for this topic for people to share, vent and discuss.
The idea for this thread originated on the thread named "The Caregiver....How are YOU doing today?"
It is amazing how easily the child in us comes out, Your husband wants to make his mummy happy. This happens much more easily, I believe , in dysfunctional families as there are so many unresolved issues. Perhaps your mil was never very pleased by her children so there is still some underlying need there in your husband.
In any case, this is not doing you or your marital relationship any good. Would counselling help? Can you have another talk with him and tell him this is not working for you and you need a decision, some action, a date for her move? Can you point out some positives? He can still visit his mum when she is placed and watch TV with her there, but she will also have the opportunity to make friends her own age, and the two of you then will be free to pursue your retirement plans. And he will have time to engage in his own interests. Can you plan a trip for the two of you and have Mum go into respite while you are away. You never know - she may want to stay there.
This is a tough one. I wish you all the best.((((((hugs))))) and blessings Come back and vent any time.
For others you can never be forced to sign a DNR it is up to the patient if competent or their POA so never be bullied if you are not comfortable but educate yourself on what being rescusitated will entail
Book~I think you can order probiotics that are powder to put in drinks or a meal to avoid taking a pill. The sacro wedgy has a pillow you might be interested in...maybe you can order from another source other than Amazon since they won't ship to your Island.
What little cash I could afford to spend this week, I spent this morning. 1) a gift for hubbys birthday on Sunday 2) I found a craft lamp 50% so I paid $25.00 for it. Now I can crochet at night with this brighter light. I am excited to try it out tonight. Funny how something as geeky as a craft lamp excites me in my old age, LOL!!
Have a good day, gotta get to work on Chicken N Noodles for hubby's Valentines dinner, it is his favorite.
Just looked at it on Amazon, and there is a male and female version. I suppose if you are a tall woman you may want the male version. And on the same page after the amazon sacrowedgy search is my favorite, the otherwise! Both must be good! Funny!
And, Voila! The Sacrowedgy is name of my "Magic Device" I haven't been able to find! You can find at sacrowedgy.com, if you want to see the best thing to ever happen to my back, lol. Talk about finding your lost love again! :D Ok, just having a laugh about this. I had to search images to find it, but there it was: blue, plastic, not very big… the missing sacrowedgy! Lolololol! Have a good day all!
Actually, no, not at the moment, as it happens, but there's no "still" about it. I can live in hope, can't I?!
I know it is hard to call APS, and good for you, you did it! Hopefully, things will get figured and straightened out. I agree with Austin, it is unsafe without a phone. We have Comcast phone, that if the electricity goes out the house phone does not work. I have a cell, but in spite of being in a large city, we are in an area, that Verizon doesn't work. But, Verizon when I realized it was a location problem provided a "signal extender" at no charge when I explained the situation. But that also has problems, the signal extender goes through the internet connection, so no electricity, no phone. I could always was half a block up and the cell phone would probably work.
I don't normally go around pissed off all the time. lol I'm actually very peaceful and quiet for the most part but I won't hesitate to stand up for myself if it's necessary. It takes a lot of crap to really get me angry. Unless, of course, it involves absolute injustice, like someone hitting me, or me seeing someone hurting someone else, or bullying them. Then, I can go from totally calm to broiling, crazy rage in about 2 seconds flat. I'm the type that won't hesitate to stand up and say something for the sake of others, too. If I saw someone, say, shove an elderly person and cause them to fall...I might not know what's up or what caused that, but my first reaction would be to run over there, pounce on them and kick their ass. *shrug* I have absolute zero tolerance for that kind of shit, towards me or anyone else. I dealt too long. Too damn long. That anger at those kind of injustices will never leave me in this lifetime.