
Many of us, myself included, come from a dysfunctional family which adds a lot of weight to the challenges of caregiving. I have read stores on various threads on other topics and decided it would be good to have a thread just for this topic for people to share, vent and discuss.
The idea for this thread originated on the thread named "The Caregiver....How are YOU doing today?"
Who is Katy Perry? Not really - but you know you are over 70 when you aren't a follower of Justin Bieber and Katy Perry, and you still look for the Perry Como special at Christmas. ;p I am an older foggie.
Book sorry about the cancers in your family and on the island. Makes you wonder...
Well, we are onto the next phase - sis has found out that I told the ALF mother wants to go into that I do not allow it. What she doesn't know that it is not my decision, but the decision of our health care system for every unit at any level of care in that particular facility, and that mother does not meet the criteria and that those cannot be changed on demand. I have a call into mother's case manager to double confirm that.
Even if mother was allowed in she would, at the very least, lose more independence, would be in with a group of people that are less functional than she is, and would have her meds handled for her, which she absolutely will not allow now. I called the sister ALF and they have a waiting list of about a year for the type of unit for which she is eligible. I talked to the current ALF director and they are dong their thing for a reassessment and he said that he would be happy to talk with mother's doctor about the concerns they have for mother, so I will put a call in there this morning. He also said that it would be advisable for me to talk to the director of any facility that mother was applying to and tell them her problems and ask if he feels they are equipped to deal with those problems.
Now I am gathering information and links to send to sis and the other family members I cced this summer about the levels of care and regulations in the heath care system, and also the effects of moving someone in mother's condition. If anyone has info about the effects of moving a paranoid senior whose short term memory is extremely short, pass it on to me. I know links aren't allowed here but there are ways around that,
Finding that the PTSD/anxiety of dysfunctional family origin is triggered by this. Need to practice stress relief and maybe make an appointment with my last counsellor. Cant hurt. I found myself greatly overreacting to something yesterday - thankfully I realised it before it went any further.
Took grandson Sean out for a birthday supper, then after I visited my son and dil to fill them in on the famdram. and ask for feedback, Dave gave me good advice to keep anything I send out to a few points put very concisely, as he has found when dealing with people like sis that they will take one item and fly with it ignoring everything else. I think I will run anything I write out past him before I send it.
Whew! This is a lot of work!
On the up side -my car is starting well with the trickle charger, What a relief. I am reliably mobile again! Now I need to get it in for an oil change. Booked for the paws this pm. and lunch with a friend tomorrow.
Have a great day everyone - and look after you!
the winner of the Katy Perry concert was a high school very near here. That was a very exciting time for that school. I almost anticipated the news channels to cover it live. So much hype around that event,without it I wouldn't have even been aware of the contest. Just an old foggie here.
I wanted to watch all of Katy Perry's Roar contest. I liked 2 but the one that really touched my heart was NOT part of the contest. This one hits close to home because 1 person dies every 2-3 days here on island. We have a very very high rate of cancer - could be the air (they did test bomb on Bikini Island and the radiation did reach here), or the water (military does have a habit of burying their containers of chemicals deep underground). Anyway, my 10 year old niece (my oldest sister's grandchild) died of cancer 5 years ago, and my dad's younger brother died of cancer just this past June. My first cousin (mom's brother's daughter) is currently going thru cancer treatment.
If you care to watch the video, please google:
Children's Hospital Dartmouth-Hitchcock Performs Katy Perry's Roar
Sharyn, I hope it's not bad news. Xrays sound like a good plan. Best to find the cause and not just treat the symptom.
Goodnight...stay warm.
Glad you and the pup enjoy the snow. We have it for 5 months - too much. (((((((((hugs))))))))))
Good morning....been way busy with the House issue past week, haven't had much time to check in, went back to where I wanted to start n read again what is up, before I post but since it is back at 4670ish It is too much for me right now especially with my reading issues....I have to have some queit time to do this and cant seem to find it.
So I wish everyone is coping well with their issues of the week, and past weeks and enjoying the highlites! I will have to at least check in everyday to keep up here so many wonderful people here and experiences being shared. I feel like I am am not supportive as I cannot keep up! but just know you all are in my thoughts and prayers and I appreciate that you are here!!
Well we are freezing as a great deal of you all are, record lows, and as they dropped to single digits here I cannot get the rest of the house warm, so we even more confined to this one bedroom for everything but toilet and boy is that a cold awaking in the middle of the night! and ice cold room and seat, I have to go at least 2-3 times!
So got to hash it out today with contractor as I finally got the check for repairs told him I had it and he send a new bid 2k higher instead of what he was supposed to do which was relook at the numbers as he was 1800 over insurance payout and we needed to justify why now we are 3800 over and no explanation to send in to get them to pay the extra this is so frustrating!!!
Temps will drop back down to a manageable situation by Wednes they are saying if we can get back into 40's day n mid 30's night the space heater will warm the rest of the house to a tolerable 60ish right now heater full blast and cant get house above 50 not even gonna try. our bedroom is doing well at high 60's if I keep all the doors and windows shut/covered! Closed in feeling tho!
anyway that is my issue for the week....get this darn bid straightened out and work started! Ughhhh!
Well like I said, hope everyone is doing well and making the best of it!
Love to you all!
Peace
Juju!
Sharyn I am so sorry you are in this pain. I know 10 days of dry socket pain ground me down. Time to kick the pooch off - well gently move him. I will look for Celine. Re gifts I have resorted to money for a few years now - there are privileges to growing old. You are more resourceful than I.
brandy - brave of you to stay. I don't think I have ever been subjected to anything that bad, 20 below zero is bad - altogether too much stress. I stay home and watch services on TV. The last few years I worked I needed the down time on the weekends, and having left one church, could nor find one that was right for me. I know that is not the recommended attitude, but I did not seem to fit anywhere, I think God understands. I have contact with a northern ministry and the two ladies who run it are my "distance" pastors.
I hear you about going on about salvation - come to think of it I did attend a service like that and didn't go back. Stay warm!
There's a story from Charles II's life about a preacher at St Paul's Cathedral thundering from the pulpit: "My Lord Duke, rouse yourself! You snore so loud you will wake the King…"
I should think the people who left thought it was either that or start throwing things. And you were cold too? Intolerable. Better hope they don't ask him back!
I used to take my dog Cindy to Richmond Park, where this happened. I feel for the man.
Love Grandma got run over by a reindeer....
would like to hear more of the carols too. The last couple of years it has been hard to find a show with them on. You are prob. right about the money.
Can't keep my eyes open today - must be recovering from all the stress.
As a semi-atheist, it bothers me that the radio plays "I saw Mommy kissing Santa Claus" but NEVER "Silent Night!" I don't want to start believing that nonsense about the war on Christmas, but why can't they play one carol for every 5 or 10 novelty songs? They are so beautiful! I bet it has something to do with money.