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Family doesn't want mother to go to assisted living. Would love to continue taking care of her at home with family members giving care.

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You can hire a consultant from aginglifecare.org to look at the family dynamic to see what works best. The specialist can guide you in finding caregivers to help and offset the care your family is doing now and how long this is sustainable.
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Nobody wants to have to place their loved ones in a facility of any kind, but often there really is no other choice.
The family must do what is best for all involved, and often that is placing a loved one so they know their loved one is being cared for 24/7 and the rest of the family can just be there for them and love on them and not be their loved ones burned out and overwhelmed caregivers.
Often times placing a loved one in a facility is a win win all the way around.

But if your family opts to take on your mothers care by yourselves just know that down the road many family members will become burned out and resentful that they're having to give up their lives to be a caregiver, and may bow out leaving moms care to the few remaining. And boy won't that be fun?
So make sure you go into this with eyes WIDE open.
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BurntCaregiver 21 hours ago
Happens all the time, Funky. I can't even tell you how many care situations I've worked in that started off with multiple adult children and even grown grandchildren that are very enthusiastic about caregiving for the elderly parent or grandparent. One case I remember, the woman had eight grown kids and about a dozen grandkids willing to help and all of them local. I came on the job pretty early on. Everyone helped for a couple of months then stopped. Then all the caregiving was down to one daughter in her late 60's who and a two time cancer survivor. The family didn't get it that dementia isn't like a cold. It doesn't get better with time and some chicken soup. A few months after I started that position, I actually took the daughter to look at some nursing home/memory care facilities. They ended up placing her. The one daughter who basically became a care slave, took a lot of backlash from her siblings and the grandkids for it. She reminded them that she was not the only one forced to promise not put mother/grandmother in a "home". They all promised and backed out when they saw what caregiving was going to be. No one wanted to clean up incontinence and change diapers. No one wanted to stay up all night so the client could wander around the house. No one wanted to deal with the belligerence, aggression, paranoia, verbal abuse and physical abuse dementia behaviors that were every day.
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MN is a large state... what county are you in?

What do you mean by a "family home care business like [people]"?

Do you mean hiring in-home aids to support family caregivers?

How old is your Mother? What are her health and cognitive issues?

What are her financial means to pay for any other help?

Does she have a PoA to make these decisions on her behalf?

I'm in MN so you can PM me if you want.
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is mom in her own home, or are the family members going to house mom from one family member to another..?

Have family tour a few assisted living places closest to them.. since all the family members are so willing to take care of mom now,, and that will change as time goes on..

ethel and Leo had help come in to take care of both of them. That worked out great until 2 caregivers decided to sue their estate due to "injuries". Ethel n Leo actually lost everything.. these people stole their life, savings, and their home. They lost everything.. this couple did not deserve that..

mom have a living trust? POA set for finances and health decisions? Very important.. who is going to take the reins? son senior designated as POA for finances? Younger child designated for health decisions?
How are the duties of taking care of mom going to be equally distributed?
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im sure they can reach out to the hospital and ask social liaison if they know of any businesses..
talk to dr for evaluation for palliative or hospice care.
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