I am hoping my dad's long suffering is almost over. His body is shutting down, he's freezing in a boiling hot home, etc. My bpd mom with maybe dementia has his medical poa not me. She won't entertain the idea of hospice. Can I call hospice or my dads doctor and get things rolling? My mom is something. She may just accept it if they show up. He's terrified and miserable. Drugs will help.
They won't ask you on the phone who has the POA.
When the RN comes to the house to do the physical exam they will ask who has the POA.
Both your Mom and Dad may accept it if hospice shows up.
We self referred to hospice twice.
I spoke to a hospice years ago when I was concerned for a loved one and they really helped me. They are not all the same and some are more helpful than others.
I’m so sorry your dad is miserable.
There are other variables here....
With hospice, you call them for the death certificate.
Call 911 when there is no hospice and you will get the entire EMS system, then usually a coroner has to come out to pronounce. Occasionally, if a person suffers a long time with weight loss and his doctor is unaware, a caregiver could be charged with neglect, which is something a coroner investigates.
Your family is getting no bereavement counseling
Your dad is needlessly suffering without medications.