You know who you are. You provide the 24/7 if the parent lives with you!
Sibling mails out of state lottery tickets for Mom to scratch off,
this has been going on for 2 years.
The big pay off????
About $6 bucks every time....:)
Lets Mail those $2 dollar winners back and keep this bullsh*t going......:)
Meanwhile, you wrote to the sibling THREE TIMES IN MAY.
"CAN YOU TAKE MOM FOR ONE WEEK THIS SUMMER"?????
NO RESPONSE.....
But hey......keep sending those winning scratch offs!!!!!!!
:)
I had to call them out and speak up to get it to stop. I even bought it up to my grandma who would praise them when she sent my cousin to get me to refill her coffee when I was getting ready for work.
My gradma was not kind but she praised the siblings that didn't help while I got the most criticized and did most of it. The sister that came to bathe her and eventually caught on as a regular thing and came often when she realized she needed it was the only one who did not criticize me. I would try to bathe her when I got home from work but she wanted a morning bath but didn't want to take it early enough so I can leave for work. She wanted to take it right when it was time for me to leave for work and wanted to fill the tub and make it a bubble bath to be difficult on purpose. My sister caught on and started to come and give her a bath. This one never came to me to say grandma said you are not doing it right but the cousin and sister that abandon me would come over and inspect the place. They were supposed to help and there was supposed to be a caregiver but I learned that the sister said it doesn't make sense to hire one since I am living rent free and put it in my grandma's head. They would also give her alcohol and leave and tell me I can't leave because she can't walk on her own since she is drinking. The only breaks I was given was to help my sister and I had to come back after helping her exhausted and grandma scolded me for not going with my sister to her AA meetings when I couldn't even leave but didn't say anything to her other grandchildren
Just tell called them and said I received your lotto ticket but not your reply for help.
But of course THEY know everything. Especially telling you how to do and run things. But of course they are never around to actually do it.
My mom has been gone for five years now but during the time I took care of her I used to shake my head at my one narc sister. She never did anything but when there were care meetings.( I think she attended one.) She came in with her notebook and pen acting like she was in charge. Or the times we called ambulances for my mom she'd be bustling around acting all important. She even flirted with one of the paramedics right in front of her husband while mom was being taken out in very serious condition. Nauseating.
While I know it's all over and I should have moved on and I have mostly. I still think back and get annoyed all over again. But this isn't anything new. My siblings have always treated me with a lack of respect. They all knew I was doing everything for mom and they just couldn't find it in themselves to give me any credit. To them I'll always be the scapegoat. I only see them at Christmas now but I see how they all try to relegate me back to what they are comfortable with which is little sis who they love to put down and treat like crap. The only difference now is I see it and let them know that it hasn't gone unnoticed where in the past I would just never say anything cause I didn't want to rock the boat.
I truly don't care anymore honestly. I don't need them in my life.