My Mother is in late stage Alzheimer’s Disease, has lived in assisted living the last 5 years, and recently started hospice. My state is actively restricting visitors, but hospice says I can visit in the center when she is “actively dying”. I have not seen her for 4 1/2 months other than on my echo show device. (Like FaceTime but no button pushing by her is needed) Yesterday I got a peek at her in person for a brief minute sleeping, as I had to pick up some furniture from her room at the center. Her decline was easily apparent. I worry the isolation has affected her in many ways. They told me she had refused food that day and is sleeping much more.
As a daughter who has always been close with my mom, I just want to bring her home and be with her til the end. To hold her hand and sit with her❤️. If it’s best for her I will find a way to make it work. My question is what is best for her? I don’t want to act irrationally and make changes that make things harder for her, as I know change is hard for the elderly. But I also don’t want to abandon her at end of life which COVID Seems to be requiring. Any insights would be greatly appreciated as I navigate a difficult situation made even more so by the challenge of our time...