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Urination doesn't require skilled nursing, that should be a normal part of memory care. It might put your mind at ease to have a meeting with the director or whoever of the facility where she is staying. Frankly if they're not separating the MC from the AL and not staffing accordingly that's not your problem to solve. You could move her to a different facility if they're going to consistently fail to accommodate her needs though.

As far as her repeated requests to go home, it's heartbreaking but common. Depending on how long her memory is lasting you can say things like yes I'll take you home after dinner/ tomorrow/ on Monday. Calming medications to help her not be so miserable seem like a good idea too.
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Uticawclady70 Jan 24, 2026
I’m so thankful my mom’s kids were her caretakers and we would not leave her alone.
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Remind her that she is already home as most dementia patients when wanting to "go home" are referring to their childhood home where they felt safe with their mom and dad.
And if she's a Christian, you can tell her she'll be going Home soon whenever God is ready for her.
But honestly it's just best to redirect her to something else that is going on around her.
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