I feel I am growing increasingly impatient with my 84 yr old mom with Alzheimer's disease. She lives on her own in her own home. She has said she would rather go be with Dad (in heaven) than leave that house.
I'm growing impatient with what seems to me to be laziness and not trying to help herself (eating, showering, enjoying her 2x/week caregiver). She constantly complains and worries. I know it is the disease, but sometimes it is just incredibly hard to have patience.
Related to the caregiver household chores post: I do not expect at all chores be done. However, it is nearly impossible for Mom to NOT expect it. She can't stop complaining and relax and just enjoy the company.
Get the book Understanding the Dementia Experience by Jennifer Ghent-Fuller o Amazon. You'll gain a better understanding of mom and where HER head is at now. And that you have to meet her where SHE is at, in her reality. Agree with her complaints and then distract her. Understand that her mind is jumbled now and it's hard for her too, as well as you. She wants sweets most likely now as her tastebuds crave them as they change with AD. Try foods like yoghurt and fruits which taste sweet but aren't junk food. Smoothies, things like that, with added protein powder. All my mother wanted was ice cream.
Good luck and keep in mind we are on your side.
you need to focus on yourself and your daughter. Your happiness is important. you’re in the prime of your life and should be able to enjoy it.
Truer words were never spoken!
A caregiver coming 2 times a week is not nearly enough for your mom as she really needs full-time care either in her home or in a facility, as it is now very dangerous for her to be on her own as much as she is now.
You cannot trust a person with a broken brain to be able to know what to do in case of an emergency or even just with daily living. Sad but true.
All of us that have cared for or are caring for a loved one with dementia, if we're honest will tell you that we have occasionally lost our patience with our loved one, as we're all human.
But again if this is ongoing with you it may just be that you're really not understanding what dementia all entails, and that's were educating yourself more comes in handy.
Good luck.