I am the ex-wife of a 91 year old man who has mild dementia. He had been evicted by both a Board and Care facility and an Assisted Living facility. He was homeless and his children want no responsibility so I took him in. I am 85 and not in great health and find that I can no longer care for him. He is very controlling and argumentative and refuses to wear his hearing aid. He will not wear disposable underwear and expects me to throw his poopy pants in my washer which I won’t do. I got him a plastic basin and soap and showed him how to pre-wash his pants prior to going into the washer. Thank goodness he does this. He is on SS and does not make enough to pay for AL. Will Medicare help pay? I tried VA unsuccessfully. I am exhausted!
You are not the only person who has taken in an X and regretted it. They are an X for a reason. His AL facility should have called APS telling them that he had no one to care for him. APS would have had to do something. He is passed the help of AL, he will be placed in LTC.