I am surprised how hard it is but I shouldn't be.
Hospital asked if we would pick him up or should they get a transport, It would cost him $, I said use the transport, thank you.
Family members still keep calling me for updates (husband's idea) tell them to give him a call he would like to hear from you
I still get texts, is he alone, is he ok? I told you to friggin call him yourself and askshe said they would call him tomorrow? Like I am supposed to be so thankful. Their POV is he should be in assisted living or at least have caretakers.
Oh, thanks people I haven't seen in 20 years!
Yes put him in assisted living, that would be impossible. Try putting a mule in a china shop without their consent, if that makes any sense!
Yes, I am still no contact.
Obviously, you chose not take the advice of the experienced people here who have gone through the same thing. That was your choice and now it starts all over again. Everyone here told you to call APS and to tell the hospital that he is an unsafe discharge and there's no one at home to care for him. I even told you the clinical term 'Social Admit' to request from a hospital social worker. Now that he's been released from the hospital all anyone including you can do is call APS and leave it in their hands.
Ya just gotta grow so thick skin. I think I'm turning into a lizard, lol my skin is getting so thick.
I know this is horribly hard, keep doing what your doing, and monitor your calls , you don't need to answer, sometimes no answer or reply, says much more than answering, you have nothing you need to defend yourself on, because you did nothing wrong.
Have you called APS now he is home? They will evaluate and if they feel he can live alone, that gets you off the hook. You have it documented he can live alone. Tell them to say its a follow up from the hospital. He will now be on their radar. Maybe he will be given some resources. Maybe the State will take over his care.
Either way , Ignore these people . Don’t answer them at all . Block numbers .
It is good you are not engaging if you cannot do so at the end with compassion while still sticking to your boundaries.
Thinking of you, wishing you the best.
And that he had no caregiver that I knew of if they deem that necessary.
Not a safe discharge … if that’s the case. Their decision.