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My husband has been diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer's and gets agitated when I ask him to repeat what he just said or I say something he does not like

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Why are you asking your husband to repeat what he said? Is it because you did not hear what he said or you did not understand what he said?
Some people with dementia sometimes talk what I call "word salad" the thoughts get jumbled up, the words get jumbled. If they are even a little aware that they are having problems communicating it can be embarrassing, frustrating.
so instead of asking him to repeat what he said you could repeat back to him what you think he meant and ask if that is what he wants.

and a difficult thing....do not argue.
You will NEVER win an argument with a person with dementia. To try to argue will just upset both of you and frustrate both of you.,
If you feel an argument begin try these...
**Walk out of the room. Do not engage in the conversation. When you return start another topic.
**Laugh. Laughter will diffuse many situations simply because it is unexpected. If he asks what is so funny you can say you thought of a joke.
**Totally change the subject. Ask if he wants a snack. Or ask him to get something in another room (a book or your glasses)

Talk to his doctor about the outbursts. There are medications that can help with anxiety.
Protect yourself. If he EVER becomes violent you may have to consider placing him in MC. If he becomes violent leave the room. If you have any weapons in the house secure them .(this includes kitchen knives)
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You really have to go along with them or distract them like a child and when the agitation ( sometimes they attack, pull hair etc) gets bad - just remember it is not them - not the person you knew - and get a dr on board early to help with anti anxiety meds.
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If you go on YouTube, and watch Teepa Snow, or other dementia specialist, you will understand dementia better, but that by know means, means you need to put up with someone violent, or abusive.

Understanding what may be going on in there head, and educating yourself, will make life much easier for you. I also found, learning about dementia related illnesses, can help in many areas, not just between a loved one and caregiver.
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Speak with your husband's doctor. You may need referral to neuro-psyc person to help.
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