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Another question also any product recommendation for dad who is 90need to remove his saliva a lot so he don’t swallow or shock at night while in bed left side he can hold himself to do
When I search "most highly rated washable and reuseable underwear for incontinent seniors, here is what ChapGPT5.1 returned:
- Poise Washable Adult Incontinence Underwear — A highly rated (4.5★) choice for light to moderate bladder leaks in women. Feels like regular underwear but with a built-in absorbent core (4-layer defense) to wick moisture, reduce odors, and prevent leaks. Good balance of comfort, discretion, and everyday usability.
- Wearever Ladyfem Unique‑Dri Reusable Incontinence Panties — Designed with a sewn-in absorbent pad, soft cotton/poly blend, waterproof outer layer, and antimicrobial fabric. Good for light-to-moderate leaks, and well-reviewed for comfort and reliability. Its discreet design makes it a solid choice for regular daily wear.
- Wearever Super Incontinence Cotton Panties — Similar to the Ladyfem version but with thicker/longer absorbent pads for heavier leaks. Good for seniors needing more protection but still wanting washable, reusable underwear rather than disposable briefs.
- Thinx For All Leaks Reusable Incontinence Underwear — Comfortable, moisture-wicking, odor-controlling underwear that feels like normal underwear. Well-suited for mild leaks and for those prioritizing discretion and comfort.
- Wearever Maximum Absorbency Bladder Control Panties — A higher-capacity reusable panty (with multi-layer padding and waterproof barrier) offering up to ~20 oz absorbency. Good for moderate to heavier incontinence needs.
- Depend Men's Washable Adult Incontinence Underwear — A solid reusable option for men, combining discreet fit, moisture-wicking, odor control, and comfort. Good for daily or light-to-moderate leaks, without bulkiness.
- BKPremiumCare Reusable Leak‑Proof Adult Diaper — A well-reviewed reusable brief that’s soft, breathable, and designed for daily protection. Great for individuals needing reliable leak-proof coverage and a discreet profile under clothing.
- TigheClothing Men's Washable Incontinence Boxer Shorts — A more custom/handcrafted option (from a smaller vendor) offering a discreet, underwear-like look with multiple absorbent layers and waterproofing. Might be suited for men needing flexibility, comfort, and reusability in a more “normal underwear” style.
I imagine you will have to search the web for advice about washable adult incontinence products and trust what reviews you find there.
As for the saliva, do speak to your doctor about this as there may be ways to lessen this. You'll need to keep him on his side with a pillow behind his back so that the saliva that pools can run out of his mouth, place a folded towel under his head and use petroleum jelly or a barrier cream on his face to alleviate irritation. But you can't just leave him that way all night because that's risks pressure ulcers, someone will need to reposition him every couple of hours.
If dad is "choking" on his own saliva at night, he's not safe at home! Please get his doctor to order a swallow study for him right away!
As MAC said, all underwear is washable. Disposable briefs for incontinence you throw away after each use. If you are looking for incontinence washable underwear, search it out on Amazon. Several types are available.
It is difficult to read your questions. All underware is washable. Do you mean disposable underware? They can be purchased in drugstores or Walmart. For your dad, his doctor can order an oral suction machine through his insurance. The doctor can also order a swallow study. The speech therapist can teach you how to help him swallow
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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- Poise Washable Adult Incontinence Underwear — A highly rated (4.5★) choice for light to moderate bladder leaks in women. Feels like regular underwear but with a built-in absorbent core (4-layer defense) to wick moisture, reduce odors, and prevent leaks. Good balance of comfort, discretion, and everyday usability.
- Wearever Ladyfem Unique‑Dri Reusable Incontinence Panties — Designed with a sewn-in absorbent pad, soft cotton/poly blend, waterproof outer layer, and antimicrobial fabric. Good for light-to-moderate leaks, and well-reviewed for comfort and reliability. Its discreet design makes it a solid choice for regular daily wear.
- Wearever Super Incontinence Cotton Panties — Similar to the Ladyfem version but with thicker/longer absorbent pads for heavier leaks. Good for seniors needing more protection but still wanting washable, reusable underwear rather than disposable briefs.
- Thinx For All Leaks Reusable Incontinence Underwear — Comfortable, moisture-wicking, odor-controlling underwear that feels like normal underwear. Well-suited for mild leaks and for those prioritizing discretion and comfort.
- Wearever Maximum Absorbency Bladder Control Panties — A higher-capacity reusable panty (with multi-layer padding and waterproof barrier) offering up to ~20 oz absorbency. Good for moderate to heavier incontinence needs.
- Depend Men's Washable Adult Incontinence Underwear — A solid reusable option for men, combining discreet fit, moisture-wicking, odor control, and comfort. Good for daily or light-to-moderate leaks, without bulkiness.
- BKPremiumCare Reusable Leak‑Proof Adult Diaper — A well-reviewed reusable brief that’s soft, breathable, and designed for daily protection. Great for individuals needing reliable leak-proof coverage and a discreet profile under clothing.
- TigheClothing Men's Washable Incontinence Boxer Shorts — A more custom/handcrafted option (from a smaller vendor) offering a discreet, underwear-like look with multiple absorbent layers and waterproofing. Might be suited for men needing flexibility, comfort, and reusability in a more “normal underwear” style.
As for the saliva, do speak to your doctor about this as there may be ways to lessen this. You'll need to keep him on his side with a pillow behind his back so that the saliva that pools can run out of his mouth, place a folded towel under his head and use petroleum jelly or a barrier cream on his face to alleviate irritation. But you can't just leave him that way all night because that's risks pressure ulcers, someone will need to reposition him every couple of hours.
As MAC said, all underwear is washable. Disposable briefs for incontinence you throw away after each use. If you are looking for incontinence washable underwear, search it out on Amazon. Several types are available.
Good luck to you.
All underware is washable. Do you mean disposable underware? They can be purchased in drugstores or Walmart.
For your dad, his doctor can order an oral suction machine through his insurance. The doctor can also order a swallow study. The speech therapist can teach you how to help him swallow