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My then-husband left me to take care of his parents at their home 150 miles from our house. H's decision to ditch me and our adult children for his parents contributed to the end of our marriage. It also was a symptom of relationship problems. That is, H was uncomfortable in tihe relationship, and it was easier for him to leave for the "noble" purpose of taking care of his parents than to tell me he didn't want to be a spouse and a father.
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BurntCaregiver Feb 5, 2026
@Rosered

Using aging parents' neediness to exit one's marriage is pretty common. When it gets to the point where this is happening that's when it's time to talk to a divorce lawyer because that relationship is over and usually has been for a long time.
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Tell your wife the truth, that you need her income to run the house and that you miss her. Reverse the order of that, actually. If you knew you needed her income, why didn't you speak up before she quit her job? It sounds like Grandma has plenty of people to help her w/o your wife spending 24/7 there.

Communication is crucial to a good marriage. Tell her how you feel. You cannot have it both ways though........being totally supportive and needing her back home.

Best of luck to you.
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