
My wife and I live in Florida. Her family is from Memphis Tennessee. She has a grandmother there that's very sick and she recently left on November 20 to take care of her. I've seen her one time since then, but other than that we talk daily on the phone. She has come to the realization that her grandmother who is partially in hospice they come visit her that she does not want to leave and that she is going to stay there until her grandmother passes and there's no timeframe on that. She's willing to fly back-and-forth once a month and feels that that is the best she can do at this point. Her grandmother lives with her own mother and across the street is the grandmother's other daughter. They all cannot take care of her or do not want to take care of her, so my wife not only takes care of her, but she's basically the chef the cleaner anything that they need at the house. She quit her job here to leave and they are taking care of her financial wise, but she is giving nothing in towards our financial situation. I'm finding it very difficult to continue not having a wife, but I want to be supportive of her grandmother. Any advice will help.
Using aging parents' neediness to exit one's marriage is pretty common. When it gets to the point where this is happening that's when it's time to talk to a divorce lawyer because that relationship is over and usually has been for a long time.
Communication is crucial to a good marriage. Tell her how you feel. You cannot have it both ways though........being totally supportive and needing her back home.
Best of luck to you.