I haven't been away overnight without him for 5 years. He has probably had Alzheimers since 2015 according to his neurologist, but diagnosed in 2019. It's hereditary in his family and he was in his early 60's, maybe younger, when it started. He was always so mellow but has anger issues now and will run away. Quite confused alot and has comprehension issues. I fell and had a concussion last June. With family help we made it through but I'm exhausted. I need advice on how to get him to the Memory Care, He also only has about 30 percent hearing with his hearing aids. We toured the facility last week and he did seem to make a connection with one of the directors. He wouldn't talk to me for several hours after.
Are you prepared to be caring for your husband at home for another good 10 years? I'm guessing not, so you must now do what is best for the both of you, which includes getting him placed in a the nicest facility you can afford.
The only way to "prepare" your husband would be to set up his room in memory care with things that are familiar to him from home, and then give him time to adjust.
This won't be easy, but it will be for the best. Please don't forget that.
I wish you well as you travel this very difficult road with your dear husband.
There's no easy way, unfortunately. As you say goodbye, tell DH you need time to rest and you'll see him soon.
Best of luck to you.