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I will just repeat this, because most of our "answers" to this one involve disabling the auto.
The real problem here is that the son, who lives with the mother, has been given the car. So you cannot disable, I presume HIS CAR. And the son, who lives with the mother, allows her to use the car, and gives her the keys.

So this is a larger problem than a confused woman with access to an auto.
I would call APS on this one. The mom, if she lives with a son who doesn't recognize she is in danger, perhaps needs guardianship of the state, and placement in safe circumstances.
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Disable the carm
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Take photos and videos of her driving. Take them to the police. Do it before she kills or maims herself or others. Your brother may be liable for endangerment to an elder or something similar. This is serious stuff.
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MikeinTexas Nov 2024
If the car cannot be sold or disabled, rather than waiting to get a video, call police or go there and discuss the situation with them. Our police came to our home and explained the dangers of hurting or killing someone. Hopefully, this will convince her brother to not share the keys. Arguing with a dementia patient usually makes a situation worse and angry at you or her brother. When she wants to drive, you can blame the police and she can direct her anger at them.
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Simple take her keys away and sell the car.
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Who has title to the car? If brother, it will be hard to remedy.
If mother still has the title, owns the car, disable it immediately: ask any mechanic; take out battery, or spark plug wires, or have someone take wheels off and put car up on blocks if you have to, tacky maybe but better than that car killing someone.

If mom signed the car's title over to your brother, who is being highly irresponsible in letter her drive, contact APS and the local police. As police to watch for that license plate and cite her when they see her driving; impound the car.

Let's hope your brother is not cynically hoping your mom will be in an accident so he benefits monetarily, heinous thought.
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I am an Aussie, so things may be different here but.... To loose or suspend a licence here we report to the registration people. I let them know she has dementia. They send letters to anyone over 80 here.
If she wanted to keep the licence she needed to sit another test. She declined knowing she could not fulfill it. Also, doctors are supposed to report to the licencing authorities to have licences cancelled.
So mum got letters to read about the cancellation. Well not good enough for her. So next was obviously get those keys.
Mum called a few groups to try get some keys. They were on to it and called me. Did not want some dodgy locksmith getting her a key.
Then l rang police and asked if l could hide the car. They said that was a great idea. So did that for a while. The story goes on a bit as she did everything to be resourceful. The police did come and have a chat. I take her out all the time. She tells me that 'l'm a prisioner on my own block of land'. I also organised a taxi service for her. She has a half price card. We also have one local taxi man and his small group that service us. This is regular and gives peace of mind.
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