My father had a cerebral haemorrhagic stroke and the burhole clit evacuasurgery cost around 10 000£ equivalent in my country's currency, and sister who recea handsome dowry of money and property refused to pay for his surgery- she was the apple of his eye, and even refused to visit him when he was terminal thinking that she would have to personally attend to his personal care, and in the end requested money from his last will to cover for the expenses of the hospital room bills, without any additional treatment. Without the surgery he died within a month. Am I the only one who sees her as narcissistic b***h? What kind of petty revenge is perfect in this situation?
You are letting her live rent free in you brain and your heart.
Let it go.
You should not be responsible for your fathers debt. His estate will be.
Honor your fathers life by being the best that you can be.
My sincere condolences on the loss of your father and the actions your sister has chosen to take in his care. I wish you peace and healing in the days ahead rather than looking for ways to further your pain and suffering.
Grief counselors tell us that people who cannot face grief will often instead "choose " to become angry. Most often they are angry at hospitals, doctors, nurses, rehabs, ECFs, and etc. Sometimes however they become angry at family. Or even at themselves. I fear this may be the case for you.
When a person is in hospital their bills accumulate.
It they do not survive, then their bills are paid by their "executor" or the "administrator" (if there's no will) of their estate. Before distribution of the estate all bills are paid. This includes medical bills.
So, your sister is doing exactly the right thing.
You're expressing a wish to "get revenge"; this concerns me as to your mental wellness. You are thinking of criminal and immoral activity. I encourage you to seek immediately for yourself. I am very worried for you and believe you need mental health care. Avail yourself of an emergency room if needed, but seek help.
You chose to attend to your father's care. YOU chose that. Not your sister. So now there's no coin in your pocket over it, you want to take it out on her.
Grow up. Apparently, your father liked your sister better than you. That's why he gave her the money. That's not your fault. You didn't do anything to have made him do that. Why would you even want a 'dowry'? What is this the medieval times? Would you really want to be married to a man who had to be paid to have you? I wouldn't. You're better than that. Every woman is.
Get over it and move on with your life. Taking revenge will only get YOU into trouble.
Also, if you don't have sense enough to know better than to ask a group of global strangers in an internet support group how to get revenge on someone,work on bettering yourself.
Move on with your own life and forget about your sister and what your father gave her. That's not going to help you or improve your life any. Good luck to you.
I suggest therapy to work through the grief and focus on your happiness for your present and future. Wishing you the best during this difficult time.
Holding a grudge is like you drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Don't do it.
May you receive peace in your heart as you grieve your losses.
Condolences on your loss . Perhaps speak with a therapist , and/or grief counselor to help you.
Nothing good comes from revenge, nothing but more hurt , more pain for you
You can't change your sister, so let it all go. You can't force someone to care , you can't force someone to help you.
You only hurt YOU. So stop hurting yourself and move on from this, anger resentments, are ugly, boil away eat away at your mental and physical health