Our life is good mostly, except for his temper. He is so good in so many ways otherwise. I'm 80, and due to my health, I am and have been considering a divorce. I would accept a 60/ 40 split of our meager savings. The house would not be sold, as I feel he deserves for his future to include his staying in our home as long as his 60% of the cash holds out. He would be taken good care of if not by family then by paid caregivers. I dearly love him but his temper, which I feel is genetic, gets old after so many years. Our family helps when I call them but don't do much more than that. I've read often that this happens a lot, even in loving families like ours. In my thinking about leaving I would want a small place, 2 bedrooms, but very affordable. Would so love others outlook on my situation, also if you've been faced with similar circumstances.
Ok...am I the only one here that thinks this and perhaps you are a bit crazy.?
Why in the world would settle for less than what you deserve? Is it because you know you'd be leaving your husband who now has a permanently broken brain, and you're just tired of dealing with him and his "temper"?
Apparently you've posted on this forum before, so did you take any of the advice given then, and did you talk to your husbands doctor about putting him on medications for his temper and to keep him more calm? I'm guessing not.
And if you "dearly love" this man you call your husband then you should at least try and get him the help he so desperately needs, so you can live out your days in peace with him.
But if you just want out, then leave. Call your lawyer and get the ball rolling for a divorce.
I get the impression that you are just over all of this and are tired of dealing with your husband, and are wanting strangers to tell you that's it's ok to divorce your husband with dementia, instead of trying to seek answers that would help you both.
Only you can decide what choices you can live with, so I wish you well in making the right choice.
A 50/50 split of assets is the fair and equitable thing to do. Idk where you live, but 2 bedroom apartments are very expensive these days.
Your husband should be medicated for his temper with dementia, as we've told you several times in your other posts. Have you looked into that??
Many folks get divorced, especially wives who feel frightened of their husbands temper. I'd try medicating him first though, to see if he calms down.
Good luck to you.