Hi to all of my friends - it's Maximus. My parents in their 90's just told me they invited a couple over for dinner that they never met in person, except they spoke by phone. My mom dialed their number by mistake and my dad dialed the number back and spoke to this stranger who said he's from Brooklyn, where my parents are from. I think they're lonely and looking for people who have something in common. Is this normal to invite strangers over? My mom said we should meet them in a restaurant, not in our home. I told them not to do this and my dad said don't be silly. P.S. Hope you are all well - Maximus
Anyway, if this helps, what I can tell you is that even online dating sites will instruct you to "only meet the online date in a PUBLIC PLACE - and NEVER at your home." They even go even further to say that "you should not disclose your address to the person - they should not pick you up or take you home from the date." That is how seriously the online dating services take this. So, why should your parents be any different in a first meeting of a random couple?
This isn't even an issue to question. Your parents need to change the location to a restaurant! I hope they have a safe and enjoyable dinner with this new couple - keep us posted! :)
Please be careful. I hope you have a fun story to tell about how they may have known each other or have common friends or something..
I pray that this will be a happy story.
Good to see you!
Never a dull moment with your parents! Hahaha 🤣 I bet they had a lot of fun when they were younger.
Trust your gut. If you’re uneasy about this situation and I can certainly see why you would be, then you did the right thing by speaking up and telling them that you aren’t in favor of this idea.
Your family has had its share of heartaches. Many of the posters on this forum have had their share of difficult times. I would hate to see your parents be in a dangerous situation. They are social butterflies, aren’t they?
Don’t be a stranger! How is Romeo? He’s not a puppy anymore! I hope you’re doing well.
So sorry that you and husband got Covid. Hope you didn’t suffer too badly from it.
Many hugs and much love sent your way.
People from Brooklyn who relocate to other parts of the country love hooking up bc they speak the same language. I doubt these new friends are going to kill your folks or chop their bodies up, but likely share a meal and a few laughs together. People meet online all the time and form friendships and even romances....is this all that much different? It seems insane to you but it feels ok to your folks, so maybe trust their gut on this one. Repeat the suggestion to meet in a restaurant instead of in moms home for the first meeting, just in case they need to make a hasty retreat for some reason.
Good luck.
I am so sorry to hear this sad news about your father. I can relate to what you have expressed. I can understand why your dad feels as he does. I saw my mom suffering with depression.
My mom lived to be 95. She would have gladly welcomed death instead of suffering with Parkinson’s disease.
She missed my dad terribly. She buried a son. She saw many family members and friends die. Life can become extremely difficult as we age.
Your dad certainly isn’t alone in thinking this way. Many seniors suffer with depression due to living far too long. I can’t say that I blame them.
I don’t want to live that long. I suppose it’s a bit easier to cope if there aren’t any major health issues or financial problems.
Still, a person can have all the money in the world and be in good health and be terribly lonely. Most of the people they loved in their lives have died.
People are frightened of living into their late nineties and beyond. They fear many things, such as health, outliving their income, loneliness from losing their spouses, family members and friends and so on.
Again, I’m so sorry, Max. When the people we love most in this world are hurting, we hurt too.
Sending many hugs your way today.