I’m thinking about getting him into a long term bed, hopefully in the same nursing home. I won’t be able to drive for 4/wks total.
I also have been caring for my mother who had a stroke 5yrs. ago. She is also in respite care so I can recuperate.
what are your thoughts about long term care for my husband? He is incontinent, I just went to tab top protective underwear for him.
Thanks
The long-term care facility will have a whole team of professional aides to take care of husband. His health will continue to decline, and it's best that he be there.
I'm very sorry you're in this situation, and I send best wishes for your own quick recovery.
That way you can get back to just being his loving wife and not his burned out and unhealthy caregiver.
Your mother too needs to get placed long term in a facility so you can just be her loving daughter and not her burned out overwhelmed caregiver.
Brain bleeds are nothing to mess around with and you now need to relinquish your caregiving duties to the caring staff at these facilities where your loved ones will receive the 24/7 they both now require, so you can heal properly.
I'm so sorry for your fall... please make yourself the priority. Do you have any help or family members available to you, even if not local? You need to have a plan for the worst-case scenario, which is something more profound happens to you and are taken out of the picture. What will happen to your husband and Mom?
I know, at 62, you're still young and independent. But for how long? This is a good time to make a positive move thinking about your future. Don't wait until a fall down the cellar stairs forces you to move. Or do you want to wait until you have dementia and can't make good decisions? Or maybe you think it will be time when you can no longer control your bladder or bowels or can't get up from the toilet. What will be your sign that you can no longer manage a house independently?
As JustAnon pointed out, it is very risky renting out rooms in your house to strangers! You are especially vulnerable if you are seeking roommates for company or companionship. There are people who will see this and take advantage of you! Just watch an episode or two of "Squatters" on A&E. Yikes!
People who are Not looking to take advantage probably don't want to socialize with you. They just want to mind their own business and privacy.
These are just thoughts right now. I’m not going to make any rushed decisions.
One of my friends has lots of real estate and I am talking to him tomorrow.