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He hasn’t lived with me for two years and I don’t want him in my home. He won’t divorce me and wants to live in an assisted living facility what can I do?

You divorce him.
Please see an attorney
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Reply to Grandma1954
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Divorce him. It's your property. You acquired this property before marrying him.
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Everyone here has given you sound advice. Talk to a divorce lawyer. If the house was bought by you before you were married it should be considered your property even if he paid bills. Ask the lawyer about the property and if there's any assets that your husband may have access to. Usually first consultations are free. You won't be turned out of your home because your husband wants to live in an AL facility. Also, if your husband thinks he's being clever refusing to allow a divorce, he's not. You have residency in the state of California. If you have no minor children and don't have joint assets. You can get a legal divorce in Mexico for cheap. My ex and I did not have property together and no kids. It would have cost more to do it here even though my ex didn't fight me on it. I got the divorce and a vacation out of it and it still cost less than if I did it here. Call a divorce lawyer and discuss this possibility with them. Then call a couple of your friends and see if they want to take a vacation.

Talk to a divorce lawyer.
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Reply to BurntCaregiver
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I feel like someone is testing us to see if we answer differently when the situation is a woman who needs care asking if the estranged husband has to pay versus a woman asking if she has to pay for her estranged husband's care and frankly I'm a little surprised how polar opposite the answers are.
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California is a community property state. Since you bought your home there before the marriage, it should remain your separate property, but who paid the mortgage payments, and who paid for improvements to the property? Be prepared to discuss these points with the lawyer and take such records to your appointment with him/her.
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You need to see a lawyer. I found this on the internet. You have not lived together for two years, you may be able to go right in to the divorce.

"Yes, you can get a divorce in California even if your husband refuses to want one. California is a "no-fault" divorce state, meaning only one spouse needs to want the divorce and cite "irreconcilable differences". Your husband cannot stop the legal process by refusing to agree or sign the papers."
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Reply to JoAnn29
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You can certainly divorce him if that’s your wish. There’s no such thing as not being able to divorce. Seek legal guidance
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Reply to Daughterof1930
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Why can't you divorce him? Seems like you kicked him out, so why don't you initiate the divorce? Get a consult with an actual divorce attorney.
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For any legal matter you need to consult woth and attorney.
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