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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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If you don't go out and live the best you can while still truly independent, the likelihood it will ever happen while living with your daughter and SIL decreases with every passing month. Not to mention: as much as they love having you, they cannot really imagine what a toll the loss of privacy has on their marriage and individual mental health, not to mention your privacy as well. We read about it all the time here on this forum.
Pleaes make sure all your legal ducks are in a row: PoA assigned, Advance Healthcare Directive written and submitted, Will or Trust finalized. Maybe even consider touring facilities so that if you ever have to go into MC, LTC or hospice, you can name which place and therefore still control your choices even when you can no longer verbalize them. Your kids will be eternally appreciative of this wise planning.
I'm sorry for the loss of your husband. May you receive peace in your heart as you move forward and live out your best days yet.
Of course you should get your own apartment! Enjoy your good health, have your own life, and don't burden your loved ones. There's a lot for you to experience in life after losing your husband. Look for a retirement community where you can start in independent living, then advance to their assisted living program later, then to long-term care if you need it. You'll make new friends, have recreation and entertainment, even travel on trips arranged by the community.
Here's a little secret: No matter how much your loved ones say they love having you with them, they've adjusted their previous life to take you in. Great, but what they now have to consider is if you're all right if they travel, or if you can be alone for the afternoon if they have something else to do, etc. etc. etc. If you get really sick, what happens? You camp on their couch needing more and more care while they continue to downsize and restrict their own lives to take care of you? Do you honestly want them to have to do that? When there's a better alternative, like assisted living with care by nice professionals who enjoy taking care of you?
I'm about to become a widow. I will never impose on my children no matter how much they insist that I'm welcome. I relish my independence and look forward to being my own person - not theirs - as long as possible. I'm in your age group and so are a lot of my friends in our 55+ community. Not one of us would want to live with our kids. You have a unique opportunity to grow and learn and have fun. Do it, and good luck.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
If you don't go out and live the best you can while still truly independent, the likelihood it will ever happen while living with your daughter and SIL decreases with every passing month. Not to mention: as much as they love having you, they cannot really imagine what a toll the loss of privacy has on their marriage and individual mental health, not to mention your privacy as well. We read about it all the time here on this forum.
Pleaes make sure all your legal ducks are in a row: PoA assigned, Advance Healthcare Directive written and submitted, Will or Trust finalized. Maybe even consider touring facilities so that if you ever have to go into MC, LTC or hospice, you can name which place and therefore still control your choices even when you can no longer verbalize them. Your kids will be eternally appreciative of this wise planning.
I'm sorry for the loss of your husband. May you receive peace in your heart as you move forward and live out your best days yet.
Here's a little secret: No matter how much your loved ones say they love having you with them, they've adjusted their previous life to take you in. Great, but what they now have to consider is if you're all right if they travel, or if you can be alone for the afternoon if they have something else to do, etc. etc. etc. If you get really sick, what happens? You camp on their couch needing more and more care while they continue to downsize and restrict their own lives to take care of you? Do you honestly want them to have to do that? When there's a better alternative, like assisted living with care by nice professionals who enjoy taking care of you?
I'm about to become a widow. I will never impose on my children no matter how much they insist that I'm welcome. I relish my independence and look forward to being my own person - not theirs - as long as possible. I'm in your age group and so are a lot of my friends in our 55+ community. Not one of us would want to live with our kids. You have a unique opportunity to grow and learn and have fun. Do it, and good luck.