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So I recently posted about my widowed mum who was struggling with the sudden death of my dad. Basically she was struggling emotionally and physically and I was visiting weekly to help with housework and fill the fridge for her. Last week I visited and she was convinced she had something wrong with her and was dying, I called an ambulance and she went into hospital. They said she had low sodium which could be causing the confusion but despite being on a drip and them saying it's increased she's still the same mentally. She does have Cerebellum Atoxia which causes mobility and coordinating issues but they have no information on this, just the diagnosis, despite her originally going into that hospital. They're trying to discharge her with 2 carer visits a day but I don't feel they've really found out what's wrong and I can't believe they're not exploring her condition further. I really worry that her being alone for 12 hours at a time is dangerous. It is just me available to visit but I live 30 miles away, work full time and have my own family. I'm really fighting to get her the right care and for the hospital to really look into treatment, if any, but it's so exhausting and stressful, part of me just feels like stepping back, I'd never abandon her but I'm ready to accept what will be, will be . Any advice on where to go from hete would be much appreciated.❤️

trust fate pray if you do your being incredible to take care of all that together get a medical advocate look for grants for care for respite care take a breathe take a step back a minute if you can
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Regarding the low sodium . Does Mom have a history of cancer ? Low sodium is something that can happen with metastasis of certain cancers , breast cancer being one of them .
Mets to the brain can cause confusion .
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Contact the patient care manager for her ASAP & discuss her home situation. She may need to go directly to rehab/assisted living facility. Don’t let her go home if you feel her safety is at risk. You can’t be there for her, because you have your own life/family/career. Don’t feel guilty as this is something that is being done for her.
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Get a companion to sit with her sounds Like grief and a grief counselor may help her But Find someone or a couple People to stay with her till she gets through this .
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What country are you in?

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No hospital wants to have to keep someone any longer than they absolutely have to anymore, and it's quite sad. Probably has more to do with insurance than anything else I would guess. But regardless, sound like your mum is coming home, and will have some home care set up. Hopefully that will be enough for now, though I would recommend that you get some inexpensive security cameras to put around your mums place so you can keep an eye on her via your phone when the caregivers are not there to make sure that she is ok.
And the truth of the matter is that your family MUST come before your mum. And if she is any kind of a decent mum she already knows that.
I hope things go well when your mum comes home, and if it doesn't, then you'll have to look into getting her placed in the appropriate facility on her dime, not yours.
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