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Mom (84 Alzheimer's) said last night on phone conversation ".....well let's put it this way, I'm not getting any better, it won't be long now". What do you say to that? Do people really know if the end is near?

Both my mom and her sister told me that and in reality it was not long.
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My dad, without dementia, said things like that often. I just said I understood. He’d truly had enough of this world, and after watching him lose his wife, many friends, relatives, abilities, and his health, it did make sense to me. Whether he really knew, I’m not sure, but if anyone ever willed their way out of this world it was him, and it was understandable
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My mother always said it. Some days when she was particularly miserable I would hope she was right. 🤣
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Well with your mom having Alzheimer's/dementia the end most certainly is near. And yes I do believe that some people have a premonition that death isn't far off. So next time your mom says that, perhaps you should just ask well since it won't be long are there any things you need to take care of, or anyone you need to forgive before you leave this world for the next?
No one should be afraid of talking about dying and death as we're all going to do it one day.
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Sissy1221 15 hours ago
Thank you. I do have her signed up for palliative care so I think I will ask for a clergy visit for her. That might be nice for her. I will plan to be there and talk with her afterwards about her next chapter. Thank you for your comment/thoughts and caring enough to reply.
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If my mother was any indication, no. She was "dying" for 60 years and lived until she was 95 with advanced dementia and CHF.

If your mother is basically living alone, which is not recommended, then I'm sure she's self sufficient enough to not be in the advanced stages of AD. If she is, then she needs 24/7 care.
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That's a good thought. She is still on her own, but now has a caregiver Mon/Wed/Fri 10am-3pm. She is on Lexapro and has been for about 2mo now although dose was increased from 5mg to 10mg. Maybe she is just frustrated with her decline in mental ability which has markedly declined over the past year.
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ConstanceS 8 hours ago
Mother lives alone and only has part time caregiver three days a week, and is alone all the rest of the time and overnight with having Alzheimers? That does not seem safe. There could be all sorts of things that could go wrong without supervision, fire, fall, overdose on medications...
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Since your last post about your Mom was almost a year ago, and she was at that time living in her own home... has much changed since then? Does she have any other medical conditions (like HBP, KCD, CHF, etc)?

IMO unless someone is closer to hospice care, I think what your Mom said is expressing her dismay with her life and health circumstances. Maybe your Mom needs something for depression if she's not already on something.

So, maybe you suggest that it's very common to be depressed about age-related decline but there are medications that can help with it, and would she be willing to just talk to her doctor about it.

I wish you wisdom and peace in your heart on this journey.
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