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My Dad turned 85 last month. He and his lady friend took a trip to Kentucky, and when he came home, he supposedly had a cancer test(?) he's told everyone else in the family but me, his own Son

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Medical privacy is our right. It's one reason we have HIPAA laws. Also, the last thing I would ever want EVER is family passing along medical information about me to each other. They speculate, they blame, they get mad at each other about things, they opinionate without the facts and give bad advice about everything else, so why would I want them to have info about my kidneys, gall bladder, or the dark spot under my big toenail??? When I have something to say, I'll tell them. Or maybe not. They aren't the kind to pay helpful visits and bring dinner.

I don't want to know their medical information, either. I'm not going to get roped into caregiving again! Four times is enough. I'm too old. Bipsy dear, MYOB, and I hope your dad's health is just fine.
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Reply to Fawnby
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I get monitored once a year for MGUS. It is a benign blood condition but is a long term precourser of multiple myeloma. I go to the cancer center to get the blood work done each year but I don't have cancer.

It could be something like a colonoscopy screening or a blood screening for MGUS or prostate issues.

Why don't you call and talk to your Dad.
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It could have been a routine test like a colonoscopy. I wouldn't worry about it.
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Ask him. Tell him you heard through the grapevine he was tested for Cancer. Why did he not tell you.
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I'd be perplexed, too -- especially since he seems to be telling others. But we are only getting your side of the story so we can't guess at any family dynamics that have been in play. If you ask any one of the other people he's told why they think he hasn't told you, what would they say?
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Reply to Geaton777
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He doesn't want to worry you. It is a TEST that could be negative and nothing to worry about. He will let you know when he knows.
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Reply to Sandra2424
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This is your dad’s choice and you’ll need to honor it. He could be nervous, private by nature, or want the outcome before discussing. There are a myriad of reasons he may not be ready to talk about it. Leave it be and don’t be hurt over it. You will know what you need to in time
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