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One of the reasons was lack of medical documentation before 2015. I went for almost a decade without a regular family dr. - in retrospect I see I went a lot of years w/o medical care. I was healthy but no dentist, no massage therapy/physio/eye exams has now left my body in an expensive mess.


I quit my job 10 yrs ago because of work-related injuries & to pursue other employment more suitable to me & occasionally people would ask quietly if I was on cppdisability. Hadn't heard of it, didn't have time to consider it.


I worked a few short contract-type jobs but Mom's behaviours were beginning to scare me.. starting to repeat herself, lose things like recipes - not often, just the beginnings.
She seemed happier/content if I spent more time with her. (omg my lifelong goal!!! Happy Mom!) & she loved to go places, visit relatives/friends out of town & province - our outings, though never ever easy in planning/take-off - ever-- ha, that settled in to our new norm. Lasted for a decade. Lost myself.
That brutal word "enmeshed". I know: hindsight. She was my Mom - only kid & not much for her family - they failed to believe my concerns - laughed at me for them.


Life savings gone, small company pension dwindling, & the estate... people will find time & ways to take advantage of old people no matter what.


Looked in to & applied finally for this pension. Turned me down (I hear they turn down 60% 1st time) as there's not enough records of my injury prior to '15. I have plenty that are older.
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The big thing - and a heads up to others if considering applying for it - is that
I don't have any T4s (employment income) to report, & T4s for the past 3 yrs are required.
My appeal is due in one month. Is it okay to ask how I include caregiving as the reason I wasn't working? How do I explain rationally I was merely going day by day like all other caregivers, wondering what each day would bring?
Looking like a martyr yet, or years ago? Giving up it looks like everything to care for my Mommy, who on the books looks like she lived well independently right up to her 2nd last year here?


Her last decade almost sucked me dry, even tho I'm grateful we went many places, visited many people, did many things. Even tho I was the only one to see her dementia come in & progress, slowly & of course, be the bane of her existence.


All's good, wondering too if this can help begin conversation on a national strategy for caregiving allowances?




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Your from Canada? Most of us are the US. Hopefully one of our Canadian members can help. Works different here in the US.
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I'm sorry, all signs appeared the site did not post my first version of this so I posted another.

- Mods could you delete this thread please?
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