I found a memory care facility for my husband and need to know how to get him there for his assessment. I have already been approved by the facility. I am the only caregiver and his doctor feels that, for me and him, he needs to be placed.
I know he would not want to go anywhere, but he also is nightly looking for home. Not ours of 20 years — he goes to the neighbors' homes and luckily they understand what's going on, so they ignore him at their door. He then comes back home on his own. I don't try to correct him as he gets pretty angry.
The facility wants him assessed there. I don't know how to get him there when he doesn't want to go anywhere.
"Honey, there is a new restaurant that I want to try"
If you can not get him into the car you can arrange a "medical transport" and a van or car will come with trained staff that would get him into the car/van. (If you do this tell them that you do not need an "ambulance transport".
You then need to let a staff member take it from there.
You need to leave, that is a hard thing to do.
The staff are professionals, they will take good care of your spouse.