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Morning all, long story short, Mum has Parkinson’s, had UTI which caused mobility probs, admitted to hospital and has done 3 weeks in rehab, last few days seems more like herself but she is nervous about returning home. She’s also had delirium which has shifted sleeping patterns so she’s up in the night. Was diagnosed with mild Parkinson’s dementia, but rehab team have said there’s capacity there and she’s doing good. Any tips to ease us into our new normal? Dad had vascular dementia before we lost him, so I’m aware it’s a rollarcoaster, but equally want to be supportive but have boundaries. What's the best way to use the carers? We’ve been doing it ourselves aside from a companion 3 times a week for an hour. Mum will likely struggle with not doing as much for herself and has been reluctant to use carers previously. I think my question is more for me to adapt to having help!!! I've learnt so much from this forum, so appreciate any advice. Thanks

Companions are limited in caregiving. Are you planning to pay more for PCAs and higher level of care? Is lifting now involved? Will 2 persons be needed at the same time?
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I didn't see it mentioned, and maybe it goes without saying, but you should make sure your mom's important papers and any valuables are locked up. That way if you leave the house while they are there, and at some point you should, nothing can be stolen.

I would definitely remain there for the first few times the people come in. That way they know you are keeping an eye out but also you get a feel for how they work with your mom. Also you can tell them what needs to be done. You can ask what they are allowed to do and not allowed to do. Make a list of things that need to be done to see what you can easily give to them to do.
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thank you both! really appreciate it
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Have a list available for the Carers with the daily schedule and the daily routine and activities of daily living. Also spell out what Mom eats and what time she has meals.

Leave the house when the Carers are working to allow them to function on their own with Mom.
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Disappear when caregivers are present. Mom needs to learn to rely on help that’s isn't you, which means you need to set expectations from the start. Don’t rush in, don’t be determined to be the answer, this will set her up not to accept others. Don’t argue about the caregivers with her, if she doesn’t want them, too bad.
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