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It may be a good idea to nip the "shadowing" behavior in the bud. Take her to a Senior Daycare a few days a week, or hire a professional Caregiver (with her money) to come "sit" with her several days a week for a few hours. That will give you a much needed break.
The alternative is to get blunt, tell Mom you are too busy taking care of her and your home, and don't have the time to just SIT. Basically ignore her requests to come "sit" with her.
You could also tell her if she wants to live with you (in your home) she needs to cooperate, or she will end up in a facility. Meanwhile, ask her Dr. about some calming meds.
By what you describe she is probably Shadowing, which a dementia behavior. She doesn't want you out of her sight because her broken brain thinks once she doesn't see you, you are literally gone and this ramps up her anxiety.
I agree that she needs meds and you need to come to grips with the fact that you are not her Entertainment Committee. When someone has memory loss, they won't remember that you have been keep them company all day. I wish you peace in your heart as you help your Mom get appropriate meds and care.
Your mother might benefit from meds to treat her anxiety . Ask her doctor to weigh in. Her anxiety is real but of course you can’t just sit. You can get out of her sight and that might relieve her after she gets distracted…like a toddler when they go through separation anxiety. Perhaps it’s time for adult day care, in home help or facility care. Take care of yourself.
You don’t ask a question, or maybe this wasn’t posted in full? Please don’t further limit your life by only sitting with mom, not productive or healthy. If she’s not on a medication for calming the anxiety, ask her doctor about it. It would be a gift to her. Make decisions based on what’s best for you both. Consider hiring a helper using mom’s funds to give you breaks and help. I wish you both peace
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Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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It may be a good idea to nip the "shadowing" behavior in the bud. Take her to a Senior Daycare a few days a week, or hire a professional Caregiver (with her money) to come "sit" with her several days a week for a few hours. That will give you a much needed break.
The alternative is to get blunt, tell Mom you are too busy taking care of her and your home, and don't have the time to just SIT. Basically ignore her requests to come "sit" with her.
You could also tell her if she wants to live with you (in your home) she needs to cooperate, or she will end up in a facility. Meanwhile, ask her Dr. about some calming meds.
Sorry you are dealing with this.
https://www.agingcare.com/articles/shadowing-behavior-in-dementia-470434.htm
I agree that she needs meds and you need to come to grips with the fact that you are not her Entertainment Committee. When someone has memory loss, they won't remember that you have been keep them company all day. I wish you peace in your heart as you help your Mom get appropriate meds and care.
Your mother might benefit from meds to treat her anxiety . Ask her doctor to weigh in.
Her anxiety is real but of course you can’t just sit. You can get out of her sight and that might relieve her after she gets distracted…like a toddler when they go through separation anxiety.
Perhaps it’s time for adult day care, in home help or facility care. Take care of yourself.