I suggested to my 93 year old mother that it was selfish to expect me to move over 150 miles from my home of 28 years, leaving everything behind for an unknown length of time, to be her unpaid carer. She snapped back, 'why shouldn't I be selfish! and I remembered my GP's advice. When it comes down to it, do you think my GP is absolutely correct in his assessment that it is either us or them?
ps, been diagnosed with depression, anxiety and ptsd.
Thank You for sharing this. 🫂😞
Take care of yourself!!
One of the most profound messages ever on Aging Care.
When my sister couldn't manage any longer, her kids expected me to step in. I hadn't spoken to any of them since my dad passed. When I said no, I got all types of sneaky memes on my Facebook page. They were blocked.
My Aunt experienced this, in her 80's. I could understand..
That the POA 'kid' just couldn't help much (very long distance, own serious health concerns). That another 'kid' had no authority to make changes, wasn't close by either. I understood the family needed a solution...
However, I did NOT understand the expectations those 'kids' had. It also took a firm stance of NO.
I tallied it up.
Attend, be unable to help anyway, not be appreciated by LO anyway, possible longer wait for EMS as LO not 'home alone', usual refusal of LO to be transported, possible pressure for me to stay for observation. Definately wreck my own sleep. Definately increase my stress.
VS
I stay at home. Stay in bed. Rest my aching back. Get required sleep for my early start workday next day. Worry.. yes, but sleep.
I said No & stayed home. It seemed the lesser worst outcome but it is still upsetting me.